She does this all the time and I'm sick of it. I just don't know how to say no.
Every time a girl gets pregnant or its the bosses birthday etc...(no matter wether its in our office or a satellite office she orders a bunch of baby stuff and then without asking hands out bills to everyone letting them know how much it is (split up amongst the office staff)
I'm just getting sick of being nickeled and dimed.....
2007-03-13 16:45:30 · 17 answers · asked by milkman24_99 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I have a feeling you will not be the only one in the office who objects to this.
Maybe get a team of you together and tell your manager of your concerns. what you will and won't give money for. It is a very reasonable request, she has no idea of peoples' financial situation for one and two it is rude to just ask for money from people without asking first.
The manager should tell her confidentially that people have been objecting and she should stop.
Good luck. You have every right to voice your opposition.
2007-03-13 17:06:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GGrrrrr! I am so upset about this! This is one of the rudest office behavior ever! I agree with everyone else's suggestions. Please, what ever you do...do not give into anymore of these 'bills'.
I know none of this really matters, but I'm curious...
I wonder if she even let's all the contributors sign all the cards along with the gifts, or ask other's opinion on what gift to pick out at least or if she organizes birthday gifts for everyone or just certain people? Hhmmm..
All I know is she is totally rude and should focus more on her job instead of being the bearer of bills and gifts!!!
2007-03-14 00:44:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know, what a pain int the wallet. I worked with someone woo was very frank about it. You see the boss that was the "gift giver" wanted to score points with the other humans. My coworker explained that she had 22 nieces and nephews and that she was sorry but was already over obligated,
Use that one my friend.
2007-03-14 00:10:28 · answer #3 · answered by Smilely 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh I hate that. Especially when you're trying to save or you could better spend your money on food and gas. I used to pretend to forget and then say I would pay it back when I had cash on me the next day. They usually forget by the next day. I think for this reason people should keep their personal lives at home. nobody owes them a gift.
2007-03-14 01:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by joleen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just frankly tell her, "I'm sorry Ms.So and So, but I don't know any of the people you've been ordering gifts for. What you're doing is a very nice and caring thing, but to demand all of us to help you pay for it seems a little unfair...." or something like that. Just make her aware that it's unfair for her to pressure you into paying for stuff for people you DON'T know! Good luck with that! =)
2007-03-13 23:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Waterfaerie 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you will only pitch into those that you actually know. Its almost like giving random gifts to people you see on the street....you see a pregnant woman on the street "oh, here's a diaper bag with things in it for your child".
2007-03-13 23:56:15 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of the answers above are excellent and essential.
A company should have extra funds for occasions like this. Ask your manager about that in a nice way.
Besides no one can force you to pay up either.
2007-03-13 23:53:05 · answer #7 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard thing to handle. try taking her aside and explaining your thinking. tell her don't mind if it is someone in your office, who you know. i am sure there are others who think the same. try finding out. tell her it makes a hole in your paycheck which you are working to take care of you or you and your family. be very nice and polite and humble.
2007-03-13 23:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Nita K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to her privately and tell her that you are on a tight budget and just can't pitch in on every gift.
2007-03-13 23:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that your money goes towards paying bills and caring for your own family, and that you don't know these people well enough to spend your hard-earned paycheck to pay for gifts for them.
2007-03-13 23:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋