I'm with my bf for 2.5years... When we're 2 years, he sort of cheating me with his g/f, they goin out together and doin' lots of things... that i don't even know any of it... It's not that i don't need his report all the time.. but, i just need to know.. then after i found out.. and ask him... then his relationship with this girl not over just like that... they keep contact by phone N txt mssge and they talk just like they're the couple... once again.. i dont even know any about this.. til i found out myself and ask him... then he confess... after that... i wanna break up... but, he didn;t want to.. he ask me to give him another chance (he already made 2 mistakes) N i already gave him 2 chances...
I am a person that not easily too fall in love, but once i fall in love i'll fall deeply... even i fall deeply it doesnt mean my love is blind... once i've been hurted by the 1 i love.. My love could turn back become hate...N i could lose my feelings..
2007-03-13 16:32:13 · 15 answers · asked by Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now... when we're2.5 years together.. i started to feel bored N lose my feelings.. with him.. besides i don't think he's the right man for me... i really don't know what to do.. I feel like i wanna end it up.. But, i can't just dump him like that... Better he dump me more than i dump him....
But, he's feeling okay with me.. he don't feel like i feel...
Now, i feel like this... its not because i found another new guy or whatever it is
2007-03-13 16:35:13 · update #1
Honey, if he cheated and got away with it, he'll do it again. You really can't change a person. That's a weakness he has and I don't believe he will change. Maybe it will break your heart but it sounds like it's already halfway broken now. Just make a clean break. Better to do it now than to get hurt again later. If he needs an explanation, then tell him he's destroyed your trust. You'd always wonder what he was up to in the future, always wonder if he was lying about where he's been. Sooooo not worth the pain. Break it off. Cry. Heal. Move on as a wiser person.
2007-03-13 16:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG you sound just like me, Ive been in a relationship for 3 and a half years now. he chetaed on me a few months after we started dating and I just couldnt trust him anymore. As much as I loved him I wasnt blind, I knew that he could do it again anyways, i moved to another country for college and we still kept in touch I visited him a few months ago, aftes being apart for almost a year. And I wasnt expecting much at all. But he blew me away. He is another person he is the boyfriend I always wanted to have and never did.
my point is, If you love him I guess the best thing to do is to give yourselves a break from each other and find out what you really want.
If you are definetely over him, just break up. Its hard and me too Id rather wait for him to break up with me, but sometimes not being honest leds to worse situations.
so think it thoroughly
2007-03-13 16:51:07 · answer #2 · answered by natarrenata 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you're wasting your time. I've been together with my girl for six years now. If I ever found out she was lying or cheating I wouldn't give her a second chance and this is after six years. You sound young, don't get caught up on this guy. You may feel for this person, but obviously this person does not have your best interests at heart. He'll do it again....
2007-03-13 16:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by realnj973 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
> acquaintances have pronounced that's because of the fact i do no longer love & know my companion, yet i hit upon that offensive & untrue. < it could properly be offensive to you, regardless of the undeniable fact that it does no longer propose that's no longer the certainty, doses it? regardless of the undeniable fact that, that's no longer the entire fact of the subject, is it. you will possibly be able to possibly Love your companion and can in no way cheat on him ....yet, that does no longer propose that your thoughts are actually not stirred by making use of this different guy, in some way and for some unfathomable reason(s. possibly, in yet another existence, in case you had of pursued a courting with the different, then you certainly might have found out purely how lots of a rat he grew to become into, had your heart broken and have been left in a multitude, by making use of him. possibly, or maybe no longer. particularly what you 'do approximately him' and his appearances on your existence ~ different than no longer answering text fabric / emails etc, i do no longer understand. Nor do i understand no count in case you ought to contain your companion in telling him approximately each and ever occurrence additionally! He must be supportive of you, or it ought to force him into anger, which might in straight forward terms convey approximately a disaster the place none is mandatory. Sorry, yet i won't be able to grant something extra beneficial than that or by making use of asserting, tell different to 'pass away me on my own as i do no longer desire to appreciate'. Sash.
2016-10-18 08:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my bf for 5.5 years...and if i were to find out that he did all that to me i would leave him in a heart beat. Obviously he's taking you for a fool. Dont let him play you like that. Let him and value yourself. You will find someone who wont hurt and lie to you. You should not have to go through that...pull your feelings back and be strong enough to walk away. As long as you keep forgiving him the more hes going to keep taking advantage of you.
2007-03-13 16:40:30 · answer #5 · answered by bellabell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me. I believe in giving everyone second chances but it seems as if he doesn't give a damn about your feelings. He made the same mistake twice with the same girl. My ex-boyfriend hit me and I gave him another chance. Then he just kept hitting me and hitting me and I began to realize that things were never going to change. Ultimately it is your decision but why should you consider his feelings if he doesn't consider yours?
2007-03-13 16:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by smileygirl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Everybody make mistakes & it is natural for a human being to feel for people or peoples eventhough they r happily married for 30-50yrs..it does not really matter.
Importantly, is he must be responsible,caring,loving,financially stable toward you..Cheers. Remember: Everyone need personal spaces..
2007-03-13 16:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by Goosters 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel as if to give him one more chance give it a go, but if he screws up once more get out of that relationship!!, It will be better for u in the long run
2007-03-13 16:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by jahnaa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He already got two more chances from you than he would have gotten from me. Move on with your life. This will only lead to more heartbreak and you don't need nor deserve that.
2007-03-13 16:38:06 · answer #9 · answered by ricketyoldbat 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Breaking up is hard to do but it is a lot harder after you get married and have children. If he can't dedicate himself to you then he is showing you his character defects now. Move on now and be glad that he showed his true colors.
2007-03-13 16:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by Pooky Bear the Sensitive 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋