Overall our relationship was great but I had alot to deal with. I broke it off to get my head straight and then I found out she had a run in with a guy while we went out from a chaplins assistant. She never told me and when I found out I was hurt because I never kept anything from her. I tried to move on with another girl and realized I still loved her. She thought I wouldnt ever talk to her again and now she is seeing someone else.. I called her up and told her how I feel and broke things off with the new girl. Do I just need to give her space now and move on with my life. I notice every one says if its meant to be then it will happen and if not learn and move on. She also told me she would talk to me in time but its been almost 2 months and I have no answers... Kind of my fault though cause I kept pushing a little and still talking but I just stopped. We still have feelings for each other and I just want to work this out... I want a life with her. Any opinions?
2007-03-13 16:25:18 · 21 answers · asked by Chris Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not sure why people are attacking my age but Im 23 in the Air Force and getting ready to get out... I think after joining and protecting my country when we went to war Im old enough to have a life with someone. Overall I stopped talking to her 3 days ago after I emailed her and laid it all down about what happend with me and how I feel about everything and that I will give her space. So far so good even though its very hard and its killing me. She said she still loves me but she doesnt know what she wants. Im trying to go on with my life but I am hoping for an answer... so I can get a better grip and move on or work this out. The kicker is she is deploying May and she volunteered, seems like she is trying to get away from everything and her new boyfriend. Females any opinions on this would help?! She will be gone 4-6 months, still wondering why she would want to volunteer to go to Iraq w/ a new boy friend??!!? I love her very much, and Im not beating myself up, past that lol.
2007-03-15 17:05:55 · update #1
Let it go and find greener pastures
2007-03-13 16:29:43 · answer #1 · answered by in_TIM_idation 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont say how long or often it is since you last spoke.Contact her & ask if you could talk.Tell her u'v missed her & wonder if theres a chance of ever having a relationship again.Perhaps shed like 2 b friends & u could see where that leads.U wont get anywhere if you dont talk properly 2 her.If shes moved on with her life though u will have 2 accept it but theres no harm in letting her know you still care & see where it leads.She might not talk 2 u while shes got a boyfriend as it may feel disloyal 2 talk 2 an ex .If she becomes single again try talking 2 her again then if she wont talk 2 u now.If you realy like her it will b worth waiting.It mite b bad timing that shes got a boyfriend & u may have 2 wait till shes single & your timing is better especialy if she was hurt when u broke up as even if she stil has feelings 4 u she may not want 2 risk finishing with her current man incase it doesnt work again with u.U'l have a much better chance when she single.Patience is a virtue!
2007-03-13 16:48:39 · answer #2 · answered by Poppypunto 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a plant mate and if it's still alive after one year then you are ready to move on with a new love. In between times, try remembering what it was that she liked about you in the first place. Do a bit of that again and then maybe you can just start having some "fun" together at first.
Good Luck
2007-03-13 18:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by jools 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont blame yourself. EVERYTHING happends for a reason. Maybe u regret the break up but there was a deeper reason why you two broke up that what u said. Look it will be hard but try to distract yourself. I feel you I do. Its hard as hell but one day you will realize how much you learned from this experience. Let her have her fling or what ever u want to call it with that other guy or other guys. She will eventually come to her senses and if he doesnt. You should move on.
2007-03-13 16:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by chalebori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 21:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it some time and see how it goes,but meanwhile explore other options,start dating but with an open mind and no pre-decided conclusion that she was the only girl for u and ur not capable of loving someone else,u never know what will happen,life is really full of surprises.
Good luck:)
2007-03-13 17:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by Bella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about that...i know its not easy seeing someone you love move on. I believe that you should hang in there. Use your best judgment. Let her know that you are serious about her. I know that everyone is soooo use to saying if its meant to be it will be... i believe in that but i also believe if you were the one who pushed her away then you should be the one to let her know that you want her back...BUT use your best judgment... if you think she is just keeping you around as a security blanket then step back... you dont want to be heart broken... GOOD LUCK!!
2007-03-13 16:34:15 · answer #7 · answered by bellabell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your a teen your to young to say I want to spend my life with her. If you are an adult just work it out if u feel like. Chances are you broke up with her for a reason, that reason will probably come back. If u work it out dont regret it and break up with her again
2007-03-13 16:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by rofl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm if you know what you want then dont let people say thing like your too young etc. but the thing is you need to find out if she really does have feelings for you. its worth finding out if you could work, because you might go your whole life regretting never knowing
2007-03-13 20:16:11 · answer #9 · answered by maraesa1000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just need to move on cause she disrespected you but if you feel like yall can work things out then give her time if its meant to be she will be back. if her feelings is true for u she will be back
2007-03-13 16:33:35 · answer #10 · answered by da_love _doc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im saying take things slow keep on trying to talk to her but dont bug her to much i guess what im trying to say is just be friends and see if things work out from there dont rush it and if it happens it happens
2007-03-13 16:30:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋