Do you look down on those that choose not to? Any other thoughts?
2007-03-13 16:17:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have 2. one is 19 girl and one 14 boy.
I love them and knew from the day I got pregnant that I was a mom for life. Nothing could ever change me. I knew I was born to have my children and raise them the best I could. I'm a stay at home mom and love every minute of it.
My sister on the other hand has no kids. She is 4 years older than me. She has always had a carreer and worked her heart out. She loves to work long hrs. It's what she does. She could have never had children and worked like she does. She at first thought she wanted kids but knew that if she did that I would end up mostly raising them because of her and her husbands schedules.
So it is meant for some and not for others.
I know it's not always possible but I think if it is possible to plan to have kids that the mom should be able to stay home at least until the kid starts school.
Planning to have a baby to put it in a daycare for 8 to 12 hrs a day when it turns 6 weeks old just turn my stomach.... It isn't fare to the baby or the mom...
2007-03-13 17:16:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a teacher... but I have no children of my own by conscious choice. Parenting is the hardest job in the world. I gladly take on the responsibility of educating and caring for my students... but worry what kind of mother I'd make. I put a lot of time and effort into my work, and I would not want to short change children of my own. I've seen what that can do... and how it can damage kids.
If my life ever gets to the point that I could parent full-time, then I would love to have children. That does not seem to be likely... and at almost 35, it won't be an option after a couple more years. Luckily, the world always needs good teachers, and good aunties... :)
2007-03-14 00:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mikisew 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not currently intend to have children (although I'm open to the possibility of that changing someday). I enjoy the freedom to set my own schedule, and I enjoy not having to tend to a child's needs 24/7. I like kids, but I like giving them back to their parents at the end of the day, too! I think that choosing to have kids or not is a very personal decision, and those that aren't comfortable being parents should feel confident in their decision not to have kids.
2007-03-13 23:24:36 · answer #3 · answered by kittenpie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really want to raise kids. I enjoy watching kids become older and watching them learn about everything as they grow older. Their curiosity is great, and some of the things they say adorable. And I'm just in love with kids! Most of the time they are ready to love and be loved, which I'm perfectly willing to do.
My current bf is really unsure what he wants, though. He's not too interested in children at the moment, but he hopes it'll change when he's older.
I don't look down on people who don't want kids, but I do think they're missing out on not being around kids often.
2007-03-13 23:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Evoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. Yes, I do intend to raise kids...into successful adults. I want to do this because I think the world needs good people in it. I think that procreation is good for the world. I don't know--everyone has selfish reasons for having kids or choosing not to have kids. I think it's a great thing to know that you have a purpose other then just work and marriage. I think it's great to be a parent. Those are my selfish reasons.
If someone chooses not to have children it's up to them. I think I'd prefer a couple who doesn't want to have kids not to have kids then to have kids and not treat them fairly. Even if the couple would make excellent parents that's their own prerogative and decision to have children or not.
2007-03-13 23:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I will.
Because I love kids. And the world won't change unless the children of today change it... and I don't really think the children of today will do a good job. Not most of them at least. We need some with good morals.
And no, if somebody decides not to, then I say congrats to them for not bringing children into the world when they don't feel they have the lifestyle to raise kids.
2007-03-14 00:38:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I already have two children and I am trying for a third. I love being a mom. I would never "look down" on a person who chose not to have children. Having children is a commitment that should not be taken lightly. In order to be a good parent it would be wise to actually want children. Wouldn't it?
2007-03-13 23:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by Jodyblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend and I are currently in the debate of if or not we should have children, so I can't tell you honestly right now if we intend to or not; but I believe everyone has the right to choose if they want children or not, and ntohing anyone says can make a difference because it is their own individual right.
2007-03-13 23:22:30 · answer #8 · answered by Lief Tanner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your own personal choice. There are many people in the world that should absolutely NOT have children. It's good that you think long and hard about it before you decide to. No one should think less of you should you decide not to be a parent. It's your life!!
2007-03-13 23:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by bianca_tru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not look down on someone who chose not to have children. There are many that believe in zero population growth. That is their choice. I have already raised children to adulthood and it was by choice.
2007-03-13 23:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋