Your boyfriend of a year asked you to have sex with him and your still a virgin. And, that the only way to save your relationship is to have sex. I need help, please.
2007-03-13 16:16:37 · 32 answers · asked by NiCOLE :0) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im 17 years old and Im NOT ready to have sex. Not at all. :/ and I dont know what to do.
2007-03-13 16:26:53 · update #1
if you dont want to dont
2007-03-13 16:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by untilinfinity_lsmb 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That all Depends on what you want more your virginity (if your not ready dont im 18 and still have not had a boyfriend or sex and dont think im ready or want to till i find my prince charming) or your relationship. Trust me i watched my best friend lose her relationship over not wanting to give up her virginity then finely she gave in and 2 weeks later they broke up if he really loves you and wants this relationship he will not force you to have sex or do anything you dont want to. Its just not worth it because once you have sex the first time with him he will expect it all the time.
2007-03-13 16:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First....make sure you think about it first if you really want this. Saving a relationship by having sex, trust me is not the way. I thought the same thing and I lost it when I was 17 like an idiot. I thought I was in love, I thought I had to save my relationship and now i'm with someone else. Trust me after you loose it and if something goes wrong in the relationship, your the one thats gonna loose. If you do make this horrible mistake, please protect your self. If he leaves you because you didn't give it up, be happy because at least you know he wasn't willing to wait. He just wants to hit that.
2007-03-13 16:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by Girlwoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. Sorry. Holding on to your virginity for whatever reason is a personal decision. He shouldn't use that as a deal-breaker just so he can get what he wants. Losing your virginity can only happen once and it should be a special thing. If you give it up when it doesn't feel right, then he's robbing you of that. You will know when it's worth it. Maybe it will be with someone you truly love. Maybe it won't be till your wedding night. It's YOUR decision and no one else's. If he was worth it, he'd understand that.
2007-03-13 16:24:36 · answer #4 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, if you have to ask you are so not ready to have sex, if your ahole of a boyfriend keeps pushing this issue with you, your relationship is over already, sorry to tell you that but its true. and can I ask you why this is the only way to save your relationship is to have sex ? if this is your true love, he will stop asking and just wait for the right moment. DUMP HIM, you have only one first and that person WILL NEVER ASK you to have sex, it just happens when you are ready
2007-03-13 16:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by flydives 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if having sex is the only thing to save your relationship, and you really don't want to have sex then let him go. No man has the right to take that away from you without your 100% approval and willingness to do so. If he's threatening breaking up with you because of it, dump his pathetic ***. I'm sorry but I really hate guys who demoralize woman by demanding sex. It gives us all a bad name.
2007-03-13 16:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! If thats the only way that he'll stay with you, dump him. Or try the nice way and explain to him that you like him, but if sex is the only thing that will save your relationship then you two shouldn't be together.
2007-03-13 16:23:12 · answer #7 · answered by Kylie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if that's the only way to save your relationship, then you have bigger problems then "sex or no sex." If he's pushing you into sleeping with him and you feel that you must in order to keep him, maybe you should rethink wether the relationship is worth saving.
2007-03-13 16:22:24 · answer #8 · answered by Danny K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you shouldn't sex will not help the relationship at all. If you guys break up you will feel worse. Lose the guy save yourself for someone that will truly love you and care for you.
2007-03-13 16:20:29 · answer #9 · answered by l.payan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the realtionship really wouldn't be worth it if that's the only way to save your realtionship with him. Being a virgin is something to be proud of, don't throw it away for someone like that.
2007-03-13 16:21:29 · answer #10 · answered by Confused 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave him! If he thinks that he shouldn't be with you if you don't have sex with him then he is a total waste of your time. He is not worth losing your virginity to.
2007-03-13 16:20:15 · answer #11 · answered by Dancin♥Qu33n 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋