PLEASE ANSWER THIS QUESTION! I am Dying To Know Why He Does This??

Question

Whenever we happen to be in the same place, walking in the same direction, or happen to coincedentally walk next to eachother or he has just gotten close to me, he RUNS AWAY. I mean after we broke up we agreed to be friends but stuff happened and we didn't talk for a year and a half. This year though, after all these years, we have started talking (hi and how are you).. I don't understand why he can't be nice and just say something when stuff like this happens in school, you know what I mean? He just automatically starts walking faster and faster until he is front of me and has left me faaaaaaarr behind. He also seems a little nervous when this happens. By the way, I am NOT the one saying "hi" or "how are you" to him, HE IS. That's when he is walking in the OPPOSITE direction from me though. What is GOING ON? Please..someone tell me! Thanks

By the way he is ALWAYS staring at me and he blushes when IF we ever talk, he gets nervous around me and is always checking me out as well.

Answer 1

This damn thing doesn't let me draw a picture, or I'd draw one for you.

You told him you just wanted to be friends.
But that was years ago. And you've change.
And, even better, so has he.

Second times are at first awkward, but you get closer than you were before. You need to really take a BOLD move. Reach out and grab his hand and hold it in both of yours.

Tell him that you've grown a lot over the past two years and so has he. Tell him you've been watching him and you've seen signs that he may be a little interested in you. Tell him that you are sure what is holding him back is that you said you wanted to only be friends.

Tell him you've had some very un-friend-like thoughts about him and want to know if they are just a fantasy or does he think the two of you can continue where you left off.

With all the cards on the table, let go of his hand and say, "Take some time to make up your mind, but not too much time, you know?"

There, it's done. It paints a pretty picture but it still can go both ways. You have to be ready for the worst and realize it isn't rejection on his part. It's fear.

Answer 2

Perhaps he is still very hurt from the breakup. Not talking for 1.5 years would suggest that. Perhaps it hurts too bad to think about being in a relationship again and not having it work out. Maybe he is keeping himself from unleashing on you some of the anger or the hurt he feels and he can only control it by being away from you. The blushing and staring suggest to me he still really likes you.
Some I am thinking he really likes you still and his heart hurts and he cannot stand the thought of it getting re-hurt. The closer he is to you the closer he is to feeling the hurt all over again and he leaves to avoid that feeling.
Just a hunch. Naturally I have no idea what is running through his brain.

Answer 3

Well, what do you think? He must have been deeply wounded by the breakup. Are you the one who wanted to breakup? He had very deep feelings (still does) for you and since he can't have you anymore, he's avoiding you all together because it is too painful. Sure, it's easy for you to still want to be friends with him, but your feelings where shallow compared to the depth of his. And no, he doesn't want to hear anything about your current boyfriend or know anything about your current relationships.

Bottom line: Every time he sees you, he must run and run fast. The pain of not being able to have you and knowing that someone else does or may, is just way over the pain threshold that he can tolerate. Please, do not play with this young man's feelings or head anymore.

Answer 4

WOW. first things first. i just love it when girls try to "understand" what a guy is thinking when he does this. girls if u dont have a penis and are not a guy (having no penis id assume ur a girl). dont try to pretend to know why he does what he does. all guys are different, they do different stuff for different reasons. dont pretend to be dumb and be like "o im not pretending to know" cause yea u are or else u woulnt be puttin in ur two cense about it.

ok so now that ive cleared that out of the way.
he might be doing this for multiple reasons.
being that im a guy and think like a guy i will base my answers upon all my manly knowlege of the male sex.

1. he is a stalker (highly unlikely so dont get ur hopes up)
2. he is still attracted to u (girls i know u said this but stfu u still dont have a penis so dont act like u do)
3. he is shy? for some reason. although i think u said u went out with him so i dont know why this would be.
4. his brain has snapped into multiple pieces and cant controll what he does (although if ur brain is in pieces ud probably be dead)
5. he is under alien mind control (agian dont get ur hopes up)

so im gonna have to go with anwer number 2. but if u really want to know just ask him. guys like girls (or at least i do) who arnt blond and ditzy but rather confident enough to start the conversation or even ask us out rather than the other way around.

i know u girls said answer 2 but hey u really dont understand the male brain so dont try. its a waste of time, effort, time, effort, and more time, did i mention time, and effort. its all wasted. because you will never, never, never understand.

have a good day.
enjoy

Answer 5

I'd say he wants to be on friendly terms (to what extent, I don't know) but thinks he burned that bridge. If it were me, I'd just find a way to corner him and get into a conversation that he can't escape. Doesn't have to be a serious one, just one that forces eye contact and makes him realize you won't bite. That way, he'll be forced to deal with whatever discomfort he has with you and he won't feel it necessary to avoid you in the future. I would do this regardless of whether or not I wanted to date him again. Life is too short to have ill will between people who could otherwise be friends.

Answer 6

sounds like he is in love with u but he is afraid of being hurt again the best thing to do is leave eachother alone after all u guys have not been togeather for a reason second time around allways ends up worse off then before

Answer 7

Looks like he still has feelings for you but he's too shy to ask you out. Keep in mind that although, you guys agreed to be friends, it might be harder for some people to do that. Maybe, next time, you should say "Hello," first.

Answer 8

Definitely, you are in his heart. He does seem a bit shy or conscious of himself. Perhaps, he wants get back together, but doesn't have the nerve to bring up the subject. Or, he has a bi-polar disorder.

If you still love him, give it a time.

Answer 9

He feels awkward around you, obviously. Probably he's not really sure how to be just your friend. He wants to talk to you still, but he hasn't figured out how to talk to you just as a friend yet. He's trying, give him time and be patient with him. Eventually he'll get less awkward.

Answer 10

well you never really stated wether or not you like him back. If you like him let him know. But to be honest he sounds a little bit immature. Just give it time, try to talk to him more, to the point where he gets more comfortable.