Me & my b/f of 8 mos got in an fight & we broke up. Just this past month he has pulled away. Not sure why. He works 75 hrs a week and lives an hour away from me. When we were arguing, he was telling me that I have no clue how tired he is and that he is just so frustrated with everything. He told me he is saving almost all his money so he can buy himself a house. I told him all want from him is to show some excitement to see me, since we only see each other on the weekends. I told him I felt that he didn't even really want to see me on weekends anymore since he never makes plans with me & frequently leaves me hanging. I told him I loved him and wanted to resolve things but he did not wanna listen, instead he broke it off. He initiates texts and emails that say "Just wanted to say hi, and that I sorry for the way things turned out. U are truly a great person and I hope u find what makes u happy. :* He knows what I want! Does he miss me? Will he wanna get back? Should I have hope?
2007-03-13 15:59:53 · 11 answers · asked by Cutie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, he is too stressed out to consider a relationship right now. Since he was not trying, there is no reason why you should. It might be sad, but you should get over him. The fact that he is texting you now seems to say that he really does care about you, but he acknowledges that things did not work out. There may be a chance in the distant future if the situation changes, but for now, he can not have a healthy relationship with you AND work 75 hours a week, regardless of anything else that might be in that equation. Don't you want someone who can be there for you when you need him, instead of working?
2007-03-13 16:05:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its likely that he's probably thought about it for a while. My last girlfriend I had.. it was very similar. Althought she lived only 5 minutes away, she was always busy doing this or that. We did our best to talk, but I only saw her like.. 2 times a month. Everything that was once so fun in our relationship faded. She was too busy. When we saw eachother she was rarely excited or never seemed happy to see me. It continued like this for months. I got so sick and fed up with it, with trying so hard, loving her so much and getting no love in return that I broke up with her. We still talked afterwards as friends, but I could never see it working out again. What you should do is just move on for now. If he opens up, and becomes less busy and wants to see you again, then let it happen, if not, then stay friends but keep it at that. Of course you're going to still want him. that's inevitable. But you have to fight those feelings with reason and reality.
2007-03-13 23:08:29 · answer #2 · answered by pyroman162 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, give it up. If the man works 75hrs a week he doesn't have enough energy to deal with you. Sure, he doesn't have any hard feelings and he's just trying to be nice. 75hrs a week and lives an hour away? I'll bet he always had to drive to see you didn't he? He'll probably hang out with you if you drive up to see him and sex him then leave. The benefits of the relationship were obviously not worth the costs to him. Sounds like you are being selfish to me.
2007-03-13 23:22:06 · answer #3 · answered by Johnny C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is over worked and under stressed, and wants too much (no one should have to work 75 hours a week, even for a house). He is frustrated but he might be realizing that you actually care for him and that he cares for you. I would give him time, he needs to work things out. Try and be patient with him and see if he comes around.
2007-03-13 23:05:04 · answer #4 · answered by Julian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait for more before you get your hopes up. Although he probably does miss you he might still not want to get into a relationship with you again. You should call him and ask him if you're really concerned.
2007-03-13 23:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by helplessromatic2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to talk in person...he is tired ...respect that and ask him him when would be a good time for you guys to get together.. say..."could we see each other once a week or whatever because i really love you and miss you and i dont want to lose you so lets work something out"...
2007-03-13 23:06:17 · answer #6 · answered by Girl with Kaleidoscope Eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if he is trying to be nice or nasty. He should give you space to get over him. He broke up with you not you with him and he is being very insenstitive to the fact that you still want him and can't take him being nice to you as a friend because you still want him as a boyfriend. Talk to him about it.
2007-03-13 23:05:40 · answer #7 · answered by Queen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't seem like he really wants to get back together, he could be either he wants you to keep "hanging on" or he's trying to releive his own guilt. either way, don't respond, ask for time and space to heal
2007-03-13 23:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a goal and your not included...I don't hear the love in his actions...you need to look elsewhere..good luck.
2007-03-13 23:04:55 · answer #9 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just move on
2007-03-13 23:03:53 · answer #10 · answered by lala15 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋