has anyone lost their mom due to cancer??? how do you deal with it???

Answer 1

Very sorry to hear that!! I've lost my dad and mom of cancer...I really never got over it!! They died at the same year, 6 month from each other!!!


try to go to a support group....

Answer 2

I lost my Mom to cancer when she was 69 (and I was 38).
As an adult, I took care of her throughout the decline, up
to changing her diapers. She died in our house.

I had a chance to say everything I wanted to - get everything
right, etc. I miss her every day.

My father died suddenly when I was 14 - I never got
to say anything that I needed to him, and my memories
of him are extremely colored by how young I was when
he died.

When Mom died, she was human. I really loved her
as the person she was. When Dad died, he was
kind of a mythic hero for a 14 year old. And he remains
that way to me now.

I'd love to be able to answer "How do you deal with?"
but I'm not so sure I have "dealt" with either. They
are both a part of me, and surely a source of my
strength, but some times I wonder how I get up in the
morning.

Eventually, the life of the person overshadows the
death. Eventually, the sweet memories don't stop
you from getting through each day.

Spend time with people you love, talk about her,
keep living and know that is what she wants you
to do.

Answer 3

I lost my Father to cancer and my world collapsed. I've never felt so much pain in all of my life. The only thing you can do is allow yourself to grieve. Some may get over the tragedy sooner than others. You deal with the pain in your own way and grieve for as long as you have to. Letting go of a parent is very hard and takes a very long time to get over the tragedy. It has been 8 years since my Father passed and I still cry over him sometimes. I would give anything to have him back but he is with God now and is no longer suffering.

My sympathy and prayers go out to you.

Answer 4

Yes sadly my Mom died of lung cancer 3 days ago and I was here looking for something to hold on to. I think faith in God are the only thing that has kept me this far, but like I said I just buried her yesterday.
She passed 3-10-07.... I am not sure how old you are but I am 31 and I am in shock at the moment but if anyone can help me [e-mail]. I will keep you in my prayers and if you havent lost her yet just be all that you can be for her and just remember christ.

Answer 5

i lost my mom to cancer almost 5 years ago. if you mom hasnt died yet let me tell you now you need to spend every minute you can with her. because when she gone you cant get ger back. it has been almost 5 years and it has gotten easier for me but there are day i just want to call her up to just tell her i love her and the holidays are the worst. i think that is will always be i am sorry that yo[u are going through this if you need a friend i am here god bless

Answer 6

Yes, I lost my mother with cancer 15 years ago. It was extremely hard to lose my best friend, but to see her suffer as she did broke my heart. There isn't a day that passes that I don't think of her. I have her picture in my bedroom, I see her every night prior going to bed and see her first thing in the morning. What has comfort me and has given me peace is my religious belief, that we all will be a family once again. I just need to lead a Christ Like Life to the best of my ability.
Another way that has helped me heal is keeping her alive. I've updated all my photo albums of my family and wrote and continue to write her history. Every time I think of a story or saying that she would tell me, I write it down in my journal. When my grandchildren come to visit they love to hear the stories of long ago. When we look at the many pictures and read of my family history we all laugh and the grandchildren think it's great. I want them to know her and make them realize she was not only a beautiful woman, but a woman of faith, love for her family and fellow man, and as it's stated in Proverbs, A Virtuous Woman.............Hon, you deal with it through your love and keeping her love alive. God Bless You.

Answer 7

Yes my mom died from breast cancer. And 2 weeks before she died i sat courtside right next to the bench of the Detroit Pistons. Sometimes you have to get active to get your mind off of it but you will never forget her no matter what. I talk to her in my sleep, as my friends say because at their house i talk loud when i sleep. But the best thing to do is dream about your mom but dont ever let her hold u back from other things.

Answer 8

Id suggest sitting down and talking with the big man upstairs. He's more than willing to listen if you give him a chance... Just pray and all things will turn out OK... Don't make the mistake and wait for years before you take refuge in god just start today and pray... Don't think of the negative things think of all the wonderful things you did with your mom... Then write a story to inspire others, perhaps a children's story... that's all i can say give it a chance...sorry if its you who lost your mother....

Answer 9

{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}

Yes, I lost my mother over 20 years ago to breast cancer. It is something you will live with for the rest of your life. There is barely a moment in my life; my wedding, the birth of my children, the death of other loved ones, where I don't profoundly feel the loss of my mother.

Read "Motherless daughters"....you can find it in any bookstore, or for less on ebay. It helps to know that other daughters feel this way.

My heart goes out to you. You don't/can't deal with it, but you can be informed, be strong, and be the daughter your mother would be proud of.

My thoughts are with you.

Answer 10

I really don't know how everybody else deals with it but i just keep telling myself god needed her more than me and she is not in pain anymore. I really miss her allot but i just remember all the fun and good times we had when she was alive. i go to her grave and talk to her.(im not crazy it helps me deal with her being gone). I still cry sometimes when life gets me down and i feel like i need her to help me. than i get over it and get back to living because i know i cant set around crying for her. I also know she will always be with me because she is in my heart.