its crazy cuz my guy proposed last yr on the murray river..VIC.. & we've been planning this wedding since then & its in may.. but i just want a little garden wedding with maybe 50 people & his family want it in a church with 350 people... plus im pregnant... what should i do? he doesnt want to let his family down but he doesnt want to hurt me as well!! please help me...
2007-03-13 15:51:54 · 33 answers · asked by princess_bitch_wit_attitude_1919 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Compromise. Have it outside and invite who YOU want to invite. This wedding is about YOU. Not your husband and not his family. (although you are marrying him, it's a day for the bride) Tell him what you want and ask that he talks with his family about what the two of you want, not what they want. They will respect your wishes.
2007-03-13 18:39:47 · answer #1 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding is in 2 months and you don't know where you are going to have it. Well anyway...Your wedding your choice, not theirs, unless they're footing the bill for the whole thing. But just to warn you, if your fiance doesn't have any sisters, then his parents will not give up on trying to control the wedding. My cousin is going through it right now, her fiance is an only child and so his mom is trying to tell my cousin exactly what to do because she is upset that she doesn't have a daughter of her own to one plan a wedding for.
2007-03-13 18:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by britbrit2639 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding and it should be what the two of you want. Just sit down together and maybe work a compromise of 75-100 people or 50 - 75 people for the wedding and maybe 100+ for the reception. Just know your limits and what you're willing to settle for before going into any negogiations. Just remember this is YOUR day and it's about what YOU want - not his parents.
2007-03-13 15:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by reandsmom77 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I also didn't want a large wedding, guess what, 250 people at my wedding. My parents kept saying...did you send so and so an invitation, what about so and so. Finally I gave up the fight. They payed for the wedding, so it wasn't a financial issue on why I wanted a small wedding. Anyways, I think your parents just don't want to hurt anyones feelings by not inviting them to your wedding. Here's the thing though..its your wedding. If you really want a small wedding, then you have to stand up for yourself, although a large or small wedding, all that matters is that you are your "husband" are there. Good luck and congratulations on the upcoming wedding and baby!
2007-03-13 16:06:25 · answer #4 · answered by tiff98444 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi
congrats on the pregancy!! Maybe you should sit down with your partners parents and let them know how you are feeling, maybe tell them that the stress of a huge wedding wont be good for you while your pregant and you would feel better with a smaller wedding.
Sit down with your boyfriend and see if you can come to some sort of compramise! Maybe say have a 150 people at a garden wedding. Sit down with them and let them know how you feel, they cant make you feel bad just because you dont want to go over the top!! Its quiet understandable!!
Good luck with it all!
2007-03-13 15:58:00 · answer #5 · answered by allfunandgames24 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, its up to you and the guy, since you will be paying for it yourselves. However, because of the circumstances, you had better just keep things small with family and close friends - no big "do" - and just find a pretty dress, since you won't be wearing a wedding gown. Good luck with both events!
2007-03-13 23:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, who is paying for this wedding? If you are paying then you should have what you want. Besides, just talk to your man and tell him how much more it would mean to you to have just a small ceremony with only people you really care about in attendance. Hopefully he'll listen to you. I'm glad me and my honey talked about all this WAY before we even got engaged. We both know exactly what we want for our wedding.
2007-03-14 08:46:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're pregnant, have the small wedding in 2 months. He needs to marry you right away, so his family isn't the talk of the town - or the talk of 350 people- which would be letting his family down if everyone was gossiping about you being pregnant.
2007-03-13 15:56:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You need to do what's best for you. You will remember this wedding forever. If you really want a smaller event then you should speak to your bf and his family about having a small wedding. Maybe you can compromise by having a small ceremony and a large reception.
2007-03-13 15:56:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who's wedding is it? It's YOUR day and YOUR wedding, not the family's. Tell them that you only want a small wedding. If all else fails, tell them you'd rather spend money on the baby.
2007-03-13 16:29:39 · answer #10 · answered by Moon Crystal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋