hey i want to talk to this girl who is really nice and friendly< she goes to my church. im 13 (14 in the summer) and she is 13 (14 soon also) I want to know what i can say that isn't stupid and that she would like. we see each other wednesdays and sometimes sundays. im homeschooled she is public schooled. i found out what her name is it's sarah! i really want to know thank you!
i can't actually ask a girl on a date till im 17 but i can hang out with them hellpppp!!
plus i need kinda step by step instructions please
i don't go to the movies often either. plus im 13 i can't drive and i can't take a girl with us to the movies anyway.
ps what i mean by step-by-step is like what exactly do i say to her... i am serious please
i kno i sound desperate but i need help
anyone who has had a crush knows about how it feels
please help
2007-03-13 15:50:05 · 7 answers · asked by pistoluser 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now, this may not be the advice you are looking for, but I promise it's foolproof, and you gave me this answer right in your very own post!
Since you are a church-goer (hopefully a sincere one): PRAY about this situation.
Just pray about it. We have a God we can do business with. If he cares about the sparrow, if he cares about the numbers of hairs on your head (as the Bible teaches) then he certainly cares about your relationships with other people.
So my advice is, pray for opportunities to speak with her, pray for opportunities to be together, pray that it is smooth conversation and that you can get to know the "real" person, pray that she is worthy of your affection for her, and that she comes to care about you if it is something that will be pleasing to God.
And yes you are right...I bet there are about a thousand people out there reading your post, and reading your age and remembering all too well that terrible/wonderful feeling of having a serious crush on someone, but being limited by their circumstances....
All the best to you....
2007-03-13 15:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are not as mysterious as you think. Start just by making eye contact, smiling an saying hello to her. If she smiles back and acknowledges you, play it by ear. If you are passing each other let it go at that. If you see her standing alone and she still looks at you or slightly turns toward you, she wants you to continue. If she looks away and doesn't turn toward you she is probably just being nice.
Personally, this is the cue I always looked for. If her body language turns her to face you she is including you in her space. If she looks at you but don't face you that is a neutral position. You are neither in nor out. If she acknowledges you but turns away, you are out.
If she gives you the "in" signal Tell her your name. She should reply with hers. Don't tell her you already knew that or she may think you are a stalker. Start an innocuous conversation like I see you here all the time and you always look so pretty. (Only do this with a clear "in"signal.) It is a kind of an intimate statement designed to test the waters. If she blushes, or looks a little embarrassed but hangs in there let her off the hook quickly so as not to make her feel awkward. She may just say something silly or just "thanks". Immediately switch the subject to something like asking her about something she is holding (a purse, a bible whatever) or a watch or a bracelet she is wearing. If she holds it up towards you reach out and touch it while remarking about it. Talk to her like you have done so for years, with ease. It will make her feel very comfortable. The touching makes initial contact. Don't over stay your welcome. Say it is great to finally meet you and leave the door open by suggesting that you may see her there again next week. Then look in her eyes and say something very complimentary but innocuous like, Wow, Sarah, are those eyelashes real? Or Gee, Sarah, your eyes are a lot bluer than I thought. Or you know, you have the cutest dimples. Then quickly say see you next week turn and leave. Look back only once, smile and give a little wave.
Next week say hello and if you have the opportunity ask her to take a little walk. Ask about her. Where do you go to school? Do you like it? I bet you have a lot of friends etc...
That ought to do it.
2007-03-13 23:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jacob W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time you see her ask her if she would like to hang with you. You could also make small talk on Wednesdays and introduce yourself or casually bump into her except you need to make it look like you didn't bump into her on purpose. For most girls that would just mean hanging out and wouldn't mean a date, which is what you need. You need to get to know someone before you go into a relationship and head over heels for them. Good Luck!
2007-03-13 22:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Bobwhitegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awww..... hun, dont worry about it. seriously dont plan it out. do be yourself and dont have others to tell you what to say. just be yourself. she is just a girl. she wont bite. and maybe she isnt just a girl to you but there is really nothing to be afraid of. just kinda go with the flow. you know? just talk to her like any other person. dont think about it so much. this could make you nervous. you dont want to be too nervous b/c you wouldn't want to get tongue-tied or anything. and by the way if you did get tongue-tied or something, just laugh it off. dont be self-conscious. everyone gets tongue tied every once in a while. i have. i was trying to start a conversation with this guy that i had the hugest crush on. i walked up to him when we were switching classes and when i went to say something, i lost my voice. looking back it is hilarious. later, we started dating. trust me, just dont plan it out. dont have a freaking script planned out. it's not some movie or play. it's reality, babe. lol. but anyways, like i said, dont worry about it so much. maybe just start by asking some questions about her and what she may be interested and stuff like that. maybe just ask her name (even though you already know it to start a conversation), or her birthday. ask what kinda music she is into or what kind of movies she likes to watch. just say something to start a conversation with her. you'll be fine. dont worry about it. good luck. ;)
2007-03-13 23:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by <3_*~kiLLeR_kiSsEr~*_<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. when u pass her, just smile (girls always like it when guys smile at them)
2. then after a few smiles, say hi when you walk by
3. then tell her that you like her shirt (girls love it when guys like what they are wearing)
4. then ask her a question like what school do u go 2? that should start up a conversation
5. then ask her if she is going to 'somewhere' and tell her that you are.
6. then ask her if she would like to go to a movie
7. then ask her out
GOOD LUCK!!!
~>>***>~(Erika)~<***<<~
2007-03-13 22:57:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to her more. just talk about stuff that u think u might have in common with her. And ask if she wants to hang out with you. On msn be like
do u wanna hang saturday?
n see what she says!
goodluck x
2007-03-13 22:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww well heres wat u do
talk to her, see if she's bz on saturday
say we should meet up at the mall so ur parents can drop u off there
hang out and if everythin goes good then u will see her on sunday fo sure and if things didnt go so smoothly then dnt go to church on sunday
2007-03-13 22:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by 123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋