I make sure he's fed and not in danger, He throws a lot of tantrums, what can I do? He also doesn't listen to me, I say no, but in a different way, because no lost it's meaning with him. I say things like please stop I don't want you to get hurt. I'm going out of my mind. Please help!
2007-03-13 15:46:33 · 12 answers · asked by fourcheeks4 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Tantrums are another word for frustrated and upset. The reason for such events are varied. Tantrums are a wonderful way of getting attention, although negative, a child would rather receive negative attention rather than none at all.
Why does he do it? Simple. It works for him. Children are all about trial and error. They try different approaches and sometimes by accident they come across an action that works. When your son starts a tantrum, do not give him any sort of attention. Tell him that when he is ready to act nicely you would love to play with him or allow him to enjoy a show. Do not show any interest in him when the tantrum is happening. You may have to do this many times before he realizes that this no longer works. If he stops acting out, make sure that you reward him for calming down and acting in a behaved manner. A reward is some of your time doing something your son enjoys.
Sometimes, the tantrum may occur because he is hunger and tired. You have to realize your child's limits and not ask him to shop, visit, etc. more than he is capable of doing. Asking your child to behave for hours while you shop or visit a friend may be unreasonable and you have to identify this or any other stress that causes your child to have a tantrum. Avoiding the unwanted stress could relieve the number of times your child has these tantrums.
A child may also have a tantrum if they are frustrated about a situation or event that has upset them and they do not know how to deal with it. Helping your child sort out their emotions and understand the problem may also relieve a child.
Be patient and this phase will pass too. Remember that children go through a mass of phases as they grow up and learn new and different techniques for dealing with life. Show empathy rather than anger and you will raise a successful child.
2007-03-13 17:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by louraleigh m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but I have four small children of my own, and if anything I have learned to let them throw there tantrum. Walk away, dont look at them , talk to him, or even aknowledge him. Dont let him know that it bothers you. A child can feel your frustrations, and he knows when he does that you probably give in and give him what he wants. Like I said just ignore him and never ever let him win these battles, Start making him do what you want and need him to do as his parent. The more you make him do what you want him to do, and follow threw with it, the sooner or later he will realize that Mommy is boss. But during a tantrum just try to pretend your not even there.
2007-03-13 22:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by chariotawaits_26 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there,
My son was exactly the same. I started completely ignoring him when he would throw a tanty, and if it went on longer than he needed, I would pick him up and pop him in his bed and shut the door. 5 mins later I would go in and tell him to say sorry and then we would go out of the room. it feels mean at first but eventually my son has cottoned on and we rarely get tantrums. U just have to show him who is boss, and if he is throwing a tanty just look away.... and breathe!
2007-03-14 00:14:45 · answer #3 · answered by carriedarocha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought it was cute when my first son had his first tantrum, but I would sing to him and let him stomp and yell. he just got bored and knew it didnt work. He is a great 23 year old young man today. And no spankings he and his little brother never had spankings. Humor helps They grow fast
2007-03-13 23:00:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to start serious discipline - I'd like to recommend an excellent book on the subject - Dare to Discipline by Dr. James Dobson.
2007-03-14 01:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Zabes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter started that to but we just do not acknowledge her when she does it we send her to her room and tell her she can come out when she is trough a fit she does not get what she wants and as far as not minding i but her in the corner for 3 mins
2007-03-13 22:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by mommy24 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs to learn the meaning of no. Try some timeout and taking away his favorite things.. dont let him win or you will have a bigger fight on your hands when hes older.
2007-03-13 22:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by nunya 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
set him in timeout for a couple of minutes if he gets a toy while sitting in timeout ignore him he is just trying to get your attention if he gets up before he can put it back stay constitant or he will continue to not listen cause knows eventually you'll give up.
2007-03-13 22:54:09 · answer #8 · answered by this name 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have anyone warn you about NAUGHTY 2 before?
2007-03-14 01:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its normal its a phase all babys go through
2007-03-13 22:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋