I need suggestions on discipline my 20 month old. He pulls my hair and touches things he should not be touching like banging on the tv. I say no touch and try to take him away from the stuff he should not be touching. Please any suggestions.
2007-03-13 15:44:28 · 13 answers · asked by Vicky S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
At that age children have trouble understanding time-outs and other such discipline but they do understand that you are angry when you rise your voice and lower your tone. You have to sound very firm and stop him from doing what you don't want him to do if he does not listen try saying no and clapping your hands loud enough to startle him and saying no again.
2007-03-13 15:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Wraith53089 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I use very simple english on my son. If he touches the buttons on TV, TV controls, etc, I will tell him this: YOU TOUCH, I SHOOT. Children nowadays are very selective listeners. They choose what they like to listen. Initially when he touches, i will shoort his hands with rubberband and till now, each time i tell him YOU TOUCH, I SHOOT, he will remove his hands from whatever the things I don't want him to touch.
Also, we cannot keep shooting them cos there will be a day they will no longer be afraid of being shoot. Put your things high up, away from him.
As for him pulling your hair, did you allow him to do so when he was younger? These little creatures are very funny. Once they are allowed to touch or do something, there will never be ending story to it.
So mummy, please remember this: If you do not allow certain behaviour right from the start, stop it immediately. Don't wait. This is bring the message across to your child and also tell them who is the boss...
Good day.
2007-03-13 18:38:24 · answer #2 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's conventional habit for a 20 mo previous. He in all probability thinks that's a sport. The 2d twelve months of existence is crammed with all forms of stages like that. while he quits pulling hair, he will %. up another interest which you won't locate so acceptable. the perfect ingredient to do is attempt to no longer make a large deal out of it while he does, and attempt to tell him what to do, no longer what to no longer do. as an occasion, if he's pulling your hair tell him, "We touch hair gently." and then tutor him a thank you to try this. FWIW, i would not recommend utilising an afternoon out until he's older - around 3 yo. Any youthful than that and young infants do no longer understand what's going on (and likely, i'm useful i gets a gaggle of thumbs down for recommending this).
2016-10-02 02:10:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need tons of patience. Gently redirect him when he shows bad behavior. Tell him no firmly, but not yelling. Do not let him pull your hair or anyone else's. Play with him so he doesn't do these things for attention. Keep a couple toys hidden in each room of the house. When he misbehaves, tell him no, then ask him if he wants to play with a "new" puzzle or truck that you bring into his sight at that moment. If he hasn't seen these hidden toys in a while, it will seem new to him.
2007-03-13 15:50:55 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing if you removed him from the things you do not want him to touch and say no. It takes a great deal of patience to be a good parent. You have just begun. Distract your child with better choices and continue to say no and remove him from those things that are dangerous or damaging. You have to be steady and persistent.
2007-03-13 15:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SPANK HIM! Why are parents so afraid to train their children how to behave? My 10 month old, who crawls and cruises and is all over the house, knows NOT to touch the tv, knows NOT to wiggle when getting changed, knows NOT to stand in the bath, knows NOT to put even one knee up the stairs. You don't have to abuse him, just give him a good hand smack or butt smack. Heck, with the puffy diaper padding he'll only be startled, not hurt.
2007-03-13 16:28:03 · answer #6 · answered by toomanycommercials 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time out. If he wont stay in time out either put him in a play pen or strap him in a high chair or booster chair and turn in around to face the corner. He is almost 2 so he should stay for 2 min and do it every time. Yes, he is exploring but he is old enough to understand the word no and needs to have consistant time outs every single time he does something he shouldnt.
2007-03-17 14:48:21 · answer #7 · answered by samira 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very stern voice and about 1-2 minutes sitting in a certain place like...against the wall where he can't do any damage. (Of course, you need to tell him 'no' and give him a chance to stop before you use this). Tell him why he's there and walk away. If he gets up, put him back without speaking to him. When he has completed his time...tell him again, why he was put there and ask him to apologize.
He's almost 2 so he understands the word 'no'. He may have trouble with 'apologize', so you can wing it with that. There's no need to hit him. I never hit mine, but the biggest deterrent is a stern voice, especially at his age.
2007-03-13 15:48:00 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Fun age!! This is a childs exploring age. Does he/she have any distracing toys? Something with flashing lights or sounds?? At this stage all children (unless unhealthy) will do everything they are NOT supposed to do. Make sure your house is child proof and try to steer your child into other directions. They will learn from repetition
2007-03-13 15:49:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like what you're doing is just fine. He's still pretty young, he'll probably learn through repetition. Maybe I would just make sure your tone of voice is serious, and intimidating....even though he sometimes might be too cute and you wanna laugh. lol Try not to.
2007-03-13 15:47:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋