Me and my brother are pretty close, this june he wants to go to Bonnaroo(a music festival) and then a road trip. Only problem is, if he goes on this road trip, he'll miss my graduation from high school. It really hurts me that he made these plans without even thinking about the fact that I was graduating. I really want him to be there, and plus, I've gone to two graduations and a white coat ceremony for him. It's almost as if he owes me this. He keeps saying we'll work it out, but the only way I can see it working out, is if he is there. Is there any way I can get him to be at my graduation.
Keep in mind he can still go to Bonnaroo, he just can't go anywhere else after.
2007-03-13 15:33:26 · 9 answers · asked by Mimi149 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
A true story....
I married a widow with three children from a previous marriage. I get along fine with the oldest (daughter) and the youngest (son). However, the middle child, a boy wants nothing to do with me. He even leaves the room if I walk into it. We had a blow out a year ago before my marriage to his mother and since then, he rarely talks to me. I get a yes or no type answer, that's it.
Anyway, the week of the wedding, I took the time to write him a heartfelt letter explaining that his decisions are his own, however, it would mean so much to his mother if he would show up at our wedding. I never received an answer from him. We had our wedding and he didn't show up. However, at Reception, who shows up???? Her son!!! My wife was very happy and we even have pictures to prove it.
Let your brother know how important this is to you, honestly. Perhaps he will change his plans and surprise you. If not, he is still your brother and his decisions are his own. I think he will come through though.
Congratulations on your Graduation.
2007-03-13 15:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Matthew D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem. My brother was going on a road trip with some friends and it was over the time of my graduation. We have always been close so I told him that it was OK if he didn't come to my graduation as long as he came to my graduation party. I guess I really couldn't say anything and make him come because I actually didn't go to his but I had a good reason. One, I was sick, and two, I told my older sister that I would watch her kids, my nieces, so she could go.
2007-03-13 18:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There aint much u can do all u can do is tell him how ufeel and say i wish and hope u come to my graduation. And if he still goes on his trip well your just gonnahave to except that. and yeah i know it gonna hurt if he says he aint goin to your graduation. All u can do is hope he will. Just tell him how u feel and tell him how much it would meen to u if he came. Say stuff like u said in your question that like u feel really close to him. Thats about all u can do hopefully he'll change his mind but if he doesn't don't let that stop u from hasving a happy graduation and just look to the future. I hope this helps and hope u get your wish
2007-03-13 15:42:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bonnaroo is pretty sweet, I don't blame him for wanting to go. Graduations are really boring. I wouldn't make anyone go if they didn't want to, but they should be there for the after party.
2007-03-13 15:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's your brother,you'll have plenty of time to make him feel miserable for missing your graduation. but really, put yourself in his shoes. would you rather sit through some boring hot graduation with some long winded know it all dumbass commencement speaker that no one gives a rat's @$$ about, or go on a road trip. why dont' you skip your graduation and go with him? ever think of that?
2007-03-13 15:38:33 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's your brother, and well. you know how /some/ people can be. Right?
It will work out, and I mean, it's your brother.
You love him, you're close, but how much will you remember about this later on?
If he wants to make that decision, so be it. I'm sorry though.
2007-03-13 15:37:17 · answer #6 · answered by kttm :] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
beg him to be there if thats so important to you but you have to consider what he really wanted to do, he have a life of his own. Try to understand him.
2007-03-13 15:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by konfuzed_baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and let him know how much it will afffect you if he is not there to see you graduate.
2007-03-13 15:37:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will surprise you, just believe he will.
2007-03-13 15:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by kitten 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋