i broke up with him and now he asking me out i mean hes sweet but no so what should i say.
2007-03-13 15:29:53 · 36 answers · asked by gelcoolgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
say NO----don't waste your time--Just say--I don't think it's meant to be..It didn't work out the first time and I'd just like to work on staying friends--something like that--you get it--
2007-03-13 15:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll learn it becomes more and more easy as you get older to just communicate honestly...it really is the best policy, in every respect possible. Say it in a nice but direct way. If you make up an excuse or a lie, he will just keep asking you out, so tell him "I dont feel comfortable with this, so I would feel better if we stopped hanging out" dont ask is it ok, just say it as a statement and make sure he receives the message correctly.
The last thing u want is him misinterpreting things and getting his hopes up for a future. But also be prepared to explain why so he feels the reason is valid and not a personal attack and not a temporary thing that he can wait and come back in a month. Make it solid, concrete, and permanent...if of course thats what you want.
Best wishes to you.
2007-03-13 15:38:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Soemtimes people are so sweet we don't want to hurt their feeings, I know that it can be hard. Ask yourself why you don't want to go out with him, and find a way to nicely tell him. Are you not ready to date right now or are you interested in some type of personality trait he doesn't have( like he may not share your interests, is to clingy,etc). I simply told someone once that he and I had a great time, and I'll always cherish it, but I didn't know what I wanted, just not to be exclusive. I told someone else I had changed what I like so I didn't think we had a lot in common any more but was flattered, thanks for the good memories we shared,etc. Yes it sounds like a Hallmark card, but it worked. Good luck.
2007-03-13 15:38:41 · answer #3 · answered by sarah jeanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say..."No, not interested, we've been down this road before. Been there, done that, didn't work the last time....."
Hon, you girls make things so hard when all you have to do is open your mouth, and say what it is you want to say...instead half you will stand there and beat around the bush till it has no leaves left, and still not get to the point.
Its called being assertive, blunt, to the point, confident in your judgement, and one that doesn't play mind games....
Try it that way sometime.......lol
2007-03-13 15:41:11 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have to go with your feelings. You definitely don't want to be with him if you don't want too.
I suggest you talk with him one-on-one and be like you are sweet really, but I broke up with you last time for a reason and now I don't feel the same about you.
Just let him down easy...
2007-03-13 15:33:24 · answer #5 · answered by Nevaeh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say I dont like you anymore
If u broke up with him then u broke up for a reason
2007-03-13 15:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by rofl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are sorry and going out with him at this point doesn't feel like a good decision to you. Tell him you would like to be friends first if you would like and see how that goes, then you can really decide whether you have feelings for him or not, or if being with him is really good for you or not
2007-03-13 15:34:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say no, i just broke up with my boyfriend and he wants me back but im so much happier with the new guy im with. I changed my number and everything to get him to stay away.
2007-03-13 15:33:09 · answer #8 · answered by Kelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are trying to convince yourself here... the good answer would be 'NO' but you have doubts about it.
Why don't you want to go out with him again?
You generally can not patch a broken relationship.
Think of the reasons why you guys split...
Good luck!
2007-03-13 15:35:14 · answer #9 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be sincere, otherwise it'll just complicate things more. Plus I know I'd prefer to just know the truth right away than keep dreaming something could still happen.
2007-03-13 15:37:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's over and I don't want to live in the past or go back to the way things were. I am looking to the future now and I wish you very well, but no. I won't go out with you, please stop asking.
Peace!
2007-03-13 15:33:44 · answer #11 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋