I was out for my birthday on Friday night in NYC with my girlfriend. We were out at a restaurant that we had waited a month for reservations. We were at the bar waiting for a table , there was a bachelor party next to us.My girlfriend is thin, but very well endowed on top, and very attractive. All of a sudden a drunk guy from the party ran over and grabbed my girlfriend's butt and grabbed her breasts. She screamed "Get the hell off of me" I grabbed his hand and said "What the F*** are you doing!!!" and he punched me in the jaw.I punched him back and a fight ensued, The restaurant's manager came over and had me and him escorted out of the restaurant. I am very angry. I acted in self defense and was protecting my girlfriend. How do I handle this with the restaurant and the drunk guy??
2007-03-13 15:22:41 · 9 answers · asked by Jennaba9048 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I can understand you got mad, but I still think your reaction was excessive, when a guy is drunk and you touch him in any manner it's likely he'll get violent. Next time *only* pull away from him, don't ever grab someone or punch back at least not in an establishment... outside is something else, with no other people around he could easily have tried to do more to her... but indoors? Best she could've done was just pull away and then call the manager to get only the drunk thrown out. I've had drunks feel me up and I've only laughed at what an *** they were making of themselves; they're drunk, they don't know what they're doing, I'm not drunk, I do know what I'm doing and I'll keep my head cool. Pull away, get the *management* to toss the dude, over and done with. That way the peace is restored in minutes and everyone but the drunk could enjoy the evening afterwards.
2007-03-14 01:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't act in self defense. You committed assault by grabbing his hand. True, he did so first, but neither you nor your girlfriend were in immediate physical danger.
Had you kept your cool and instead of grabbing him, told the bartender, the police would have been called and he would have been arrested and ejected. Still, that would have not likely not made the evening go much better.
2007-03-13 15:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think my fiance would have done the same thing, if not more. However, instead of punching back, perhaps you should have done only what you needed in order to fend off his attack, like block him. Since the other guy was drunk and he started the trouble, I think that he should have been the only one thrown out (if you had done nothing else violent that evening).
2007-03-13 15:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear god I would have f***ed that guy up a heck of a lot worse than you did. I think it was d** calm of you to not knock the guy out! It was completely right for you to punch that freak, but the restraunt also had to kick both of you out, it wasn't their fault either, they had no possible way of knowing what really happened.
My best to you girlfriend who seems like the real victim here.
2007-03-13 15:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the restaurant what happened-they have a duty to have a safe enviroment, and punch the drunk guy in his face.
2007-03-13 15:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well since i am a girl i would would have said the same thing ur girlfriend did AND i would have kicked that guy's a**. FLAT OUT.
2007-03-13 16:03:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the restaurant and explain to them what happened!
2007-03-17 13:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You showed great restraint. I would have blindsided the guy. Touch my girl like that!!! Oh Heck no! its ON!!, they would have had to pull his body out of my hands!
2007-03-13 15:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by brandon42032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
should've called the cops. Grabbing a handfull of **** is sexual assault
2007-03-14 04:53:30 · answer #9 · answered by Creepy Uncle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋