Okay.. so ive really screwed up with all my past relationships since the summer. Im not going to give you all my life story.. so basically i had a really bad relationship during the summer.. and.. im blaming that for my change. I used to be able to hold a relationship for a looong time with no problem.. but.. after then.. i just..cant seem to hold it anymore. I went out with (no names..) guy #1 (after the summer one..) for like.. a week if not two.. and broke up with him.. then went back out with him for a day.. pretty lame. i know.. and then i went out with guy #2 for a week... and broke up with him for guy#3.. but i realized my mistake.. and got back with guy #2 for a month.. and then broke up with him again for the same guy. Guy#3 and I have been talking for a long time now.. and he keeps saying he just wants to get to know me better. Well, I somewhat 'bored' or w/e and went out with guy#4 for two days.. only to realize that he was just a friend .. more than anything. (at the time)
2007-03-13 15:20:38 · 20 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well.. then i told myself i needed to stop.. and stay single.. all the while STILL talking to guy#3. Well. After i broke up with guy#4.. we've become really really close friends.. ive helped him through alot, etc, etc. You know how that goes. He is always saying how "im the best" and what not. Well. I went out with another guy for about a week.. (lets call him guy#5) and now ive been leading on this poor other guy#6... all the while still talking to guy#3.. though.. i dont really have much hope for that anymore.. but.. i feel as though.. that.. there might be a tiny bit of a chance left.. but.. im still not so sure. Well.. so now.. ive got guy#3 thinking i still really like him (which i do) and guy#6 thinks i like him.. and he is just waiting for me to be "ready" to get into a relationship.. (thats what i told him..) and now... im starting to lean more towards the really close friend.. and today.. he was talking about how his family said they liked me(they just met me the other day)
2007-03-13 15:25:32 · update #1
and .. like.. his dad got on to him.. saying how he should be "with me" or w/e... and like.. then he said that he was like.. "okay dad.. we tried that before.. and im never going to try again"
and.. thats..
when i felt.. so bad..
and like..
idk.
i feel ..
like..
really bad.. ahaha..
i mean.. im not doing anything with them so dont think that.. ahah.. im not a whore , but it just. idk.
I was so upset over the summer relationship i had.. and i told myself i would never do that to anyone.. but here i am breaking up with these people..
idk. its not right.
and i really need to stop.. but.
idk.
i just need help.. ahaha..
i dont really know what exactly my true question was.. i guess i just wanted a different look at it?
Ive tried staying out of it all.. but when i finally tell myself. okay. im not going. to get into anything.. anymore. for a long time. then someone pops into my life.. and im like.. oh geeze.
help? ahah..
2007-03-13 15:31:09 · update #2
Im not old. but im not 12. lets just go with that.
I wasnt saying that I thought this was love.. I know that its far from it. It was just the first thing that came to mind when I went to type in the title b/c.. clearly my question is too long for that. If.. you can find it anyway.. basically im just asking for advice. I see some of you failed to see that part.
2007-03-13 15:37:47 · update #3
Didn't you read the manual? Didn't you submit your TP104a in triplicate? You know, you've got to file that TP104a for each change of assignment of your heart? What? What do you mean, no one ever told you about the damn TP104a. It's right there on page one of the manual. No manual? Of course you got a manual. Remember, it was the first day of "Dating and other pastimes". You didn't take that course? And you went out and dated anyway? Talk about brave soul.
Seriously, your problem can't be fixed on this site. It needs to be fixed in your head. Guy #3 is the one I'm betting on. He wants to see if you'll ever grow up. He doesn't want some one who is only "datng" because you get to be the center of attention. He wants more from you. And, until that summer fling, (Fling, noun, temp boyfriend) you pretty much knew that you didn't know what you wanted. Suddenly, you've started thinking you do know what you want.
Well, maybe so. But, you sure as hell don't know how to get it. Make a list of all your good points. Make a list of all your bad points. Step outside of your shoes and into the shoes of boy #3. Right now he is looking at list 2 and wondering if he can live with them to get to list 1. Make sense? You need to change what's going on in list 2 to make a difference.
Sorry to lay it on you like this but your friends won't do it because they want to stay friends.
2007-03-13 15:40:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please stop using the word love--what you need to do is replace it with dating--that is all you are doing--dating. It isn't even close to love as most of the world defines it. You must be young , but age really isn't important- You can say you are just having fun dating different people ---nothing serious---you can't possibly have enough time to develop a real meaningful relationship with all these guys--it isn't mathematically possble with only 24 hours in a day. Now if the fun includes physical fun--sex as we call it--you are heading for a disaster---sooner or later one of the guys will give you something you didn't expect or want. You can wind up with a baby--or a big old runny disease that NEVER will go away---isn't that charming?? I hope the sex thing is not an issue--only the compulsion to date as many guys as possible---is it a contest or an attempt to impress your friends?? Are you lacking the attention of a male figure from childhood and making up for it??? Do you actually hate men and enjoy the torture you think they are going through?? I have a suspicion that you are being laughed at behind your back--no one cares or is impressed--and the guys are just dull dopes at this young age and could care less about you. Like the girls who we always heard that took on the whole football team the day I called out sick. So what is the question or the purpose of your whole big --made for TV drama??
2007-03-13 15:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just want to date right now. Maybe you aren't in the mood for commitment and you need to change the playing field for alittle while. It's fine, your dating and there isn't anything wrong with that. Maybe you realize you like more than one person right now and the onlyu way to find out if it is real is to start dating. To see if there is anything between you and any guy you have dated. If you had been hurt in the past that may be part of the reason you don't want to jump right back into something and maybe risk getting hurt. Go for it, so what, it's just dating and you have the right to look before you buy. Best of luck, peace.
2007-03-13 15:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by ~* Garden Empress*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to tell u the truth, i have had a lot of bad relations too. my opinion is that guys are weird in their own way.....if you like them enough in their own way then you might want to try to take a chance, but only if you're really sure that you like his own unique way.
i would say that you should really get to know the guy before you take a chance, because sometimes there's just a little something in him that you can't get over.......which leads to either a really bad, or a really good relationship.
like the guy im going out with right now, I've known since first grade and we're doing awesome, considering we've been together for almost 2 years now.......sorry about the subject change.
anyway, my advice would be just to get to know the guy a little more and, even if you get bored, don't give up, because he might be the one.
2007-03-13 15:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Abbie B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate too you because you're changing as a person and that's okay. It's okay to be friends with a guy. For me, I realized that what I was looking for was more a friendship with a guy rather than a relationship. You'll know when the time is right for a relationship on an intimate level.
2007-03-13 15:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by poshbaby24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down.... You don't need this for yourself. Just take it easy for a while and try to figure out this relationship stuff for a while. Try to take it easy and spend some time with your girls, maybe they can help. Anyways, just chill for a month or two until your ready to get out there on the market. Just remember, when you think your in love, try to think it over again, becuz falling in love is rare before the age of 30. 30 is when your brain stops developing.
2007-03-13 15:25:24 · answer #6 · answered by greatkid809 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems that you are looking for a long term relationship. it will take time to find that person. ask yourself, why am i looking to have a long term relationship? if you are young and immature take time to know yourself a bit better. nothing is wrong with dating. Like the old saying says "look deep before you leap". The people you are meeting, just may not be compatible for you. Take your time. Get to know yourself first, then decide what it is you would like to have in a guy.
2007-03-13 15:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by blank 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you have a question? Immature is a word that describes you to a fault. You should save a copy of this and read it again 4 or 5 years from now and you will know what I'm talking about.
2007-03-13 15:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by kimmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you realise the "mistakes" you made in the relationship and I guess you have to learn from the experiences and got on with your life. There are many people out there so go out and make new friends and widen your circle of friends and who knows you might meet your Mr Right.
2007-03-13 15:24:29 · answer #9 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you just need to pick guys more wisely, dont' just date anyone who seems interested and really look for someone you can get along with
2007-03-13 15:24:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋