How rude are people with no children!!?

Question

i went shopping with my 2year old and 1 year old and the 2 year old was having a tantrum over some pencils,well this big fat man loudly said to his probably gay boyfriend'well if there is an ad for conception there it is"
how rude!!

so i walked over to him and swore at him first then told him his mother must have never loved him, then walked off
what is with people these days??
toddlers are toddlers and they all throw tantrums.

You can't go through their first 3 years of life and take them no where just in case they have a tantrum!!!

Answer 1

You reminded me of one of my shopping trips with my children, my son (then 2and a half) threw himself onto the floor and had a tantrum, I looked down at him, watched him scream for a couple of seconds then threw myself down onto the floor next to him and started chucking my own tantrum, basically copying what he did, he stopped, looked at me, stood up and said 'MUM, what you doing', I told him I was copying him, he said 'You look silly'.. I then stood up and told him, I looked like you.. People throughout the supermarket looked mortified, I just looked directly at them and gave them a BIG Cheesy Smile.. My son is now 6 and has never thrown a tanty again, and he still remembers that day everytime we go shopping... So dont worry what other people think or say, kids are kids and they have their good days and bad, just like adults do, the only difference is that kids dont care where they have tantrum, but as their mum, you know how to handle them when they do..My advise to you, if someone gives you a look, says something nasty or looks down their nose at you or your children, look straight at them give them your cheesiest grin and hold your stare, they will look away and walk away... And take your kids out more often, dont confide them just cos of a few tantrums, they will think your embaressed of them, which your not show them off to everybody, you never know they could grow up to be the future president, and we all know they chuck the best tantrums..hehehehehe..

Answer 2

Not all toddlers throw tantrums. The trick is to figure out what is going to cause a tantrum in the first place. Liek putting something back... Perhaps tell them that they can put that item on their list and when they have money they can buy it. Have them match it back where it goes on the peg board like a puzzle and then praise them when they do get it back right. Don't spend time in an area unless you have time to spend looking. Always plan transition time...

And then for the times that you can't seem to quash the childs outburst, they are too tired, they are hungry, they are feeling overwhelmed...all those reasons that children can sometimes have meltdowns over... when others are looking at you and how you are handling your child, you smile and then remind the child that their crying is not helping. That they have other options of getting your attention and carry on with what you are doing. The people watching will know that the child is hungry, overtired, overstimulated, or whatever and that you are doing what you need to do to fix the child and hurry on. They will see what a calm person you are and how well behaved your children will be in the long run becuase you are showing them by example how a person should behave.

And my advice is take them EVERYWHERE. The more children are out and know what to expect the easier it is to bring them places.

good luck

Answer 3

I don't think that the man had a right to be rude to you but I can understand why he was irritated.

I have a preschooler of my own and in all 4 years I can only remember 2 bad tantrums in public. We immediately left the first time and the second time I was in line and couldn't but I felt terrible for the people around us. It never happened again.

Your children tantrum because they are allowed to. They do it because they are getting what they want. If they are getting exactly what they want, they are at least getting your attention. When they throw a tantrum over something they want and you said no it is being disrespectful and disobedient. It should be corrected and not by yelling at the child, argueing with the child, or beating the child.

Consistent, calm parenting normally takes care of the problem.

It must have been a really, really bad tantrum for all this to occur.

SD

Answer 4

I have a 2 year old soon to become 3, and I know how it feels to have him throw a tantrum in a store. It is very embarrassing, but I tell him is this the way we act in a store, while I am saying this I look him in the eyes and he usually stops and then tells me no. I do try to not listen to others in the stores and yes I have had some bad things fly out of my mouth at what they are saying. I work in a department store and I see mothers and fathers just letting there demons run free and do as they may and cry it does bother me sometimes, but I do know that my son isn't always an angel.

Answer 5

The man was rude for voicing his thoughts where you could hear them. It would have been classier if you had ignored him though.

Learn some parenting skills. Don't take your children to the store with you when they are tired and fretful, and don't spend too long shopping. Sometimes a big busy store is just too stimulating for a small child. Bring along a toy or stuffed animal to distract them. Get them a box of animal crackers to eat while you shop--you can pay for them when you check out. Don't show them stuff on the toy isle and then take it away from them. Little children don't know or understand when you can't afford to buy something, so just don't go down that isle unless you're prepared to buy something. They'll throw a tantrum every time. It will get better, and I feel for you--you have your hands full.

Answer 6

Yes, people without children can be absolutely rude!!!! Try riding on a plane with a 3 yr old who had never flown before. The guy who sat in the aisle seat took one look at me and my daughter and muttered something incoherent (I was the middle seat and my daughter had the window). During the descent into our destination, she began to cry from the pressure build-up in her ears. The a s s h o l e had the audacity to suggest I "discipline her for her tantrum." I called him a limp wrist F A G and suggested that I "discipline him for being a f u ck-nut." I was proud of my response even though it got me and my daughter escorted off the flight upon landing (which was goodie for me since I did not want to wait for everyone else to get off the plane). But it left me feeling horribly offended that someone could actually think that her screaming "My ears! My ears hurt!" was a tantrum after a 6 hour flight of near silence (I had kept lots of coloring books and toys in our carry-on). Goes to show what kind of jerks are out there.

Answer 7

I understand and yes people with out children do not have patience like those that do, Men especially!!!!!! Some children just miss behave more than others depending on the upbringing also. Some parents do not correct their children and that is a problem. If a child is acting way out there crazy it's not a good idea to let them keep at it, it happened once to me and i left the store with everything in the cart. She wouldn't stop so i had to leave. If children are way out of control and your going to have a public nuisance every time you go out you have a problem and it needs to be solved. That is way too much stress on yourself and the child and other people around you.

Answer 8

Some people just don't live with it everyday and don't have to deal with Tantrums from a child
My girl is 3 years old now she still has her up and down days..
I would have said get a life

Answer 9

ppl without kids just dont understand how stressful it is to have them sometimes and how we either have to keep them at home or cave and give them what they want to keep other ppl happy and neither is fair so i wouldnt do them i was at walmart the other day and a kid was screaming in the next isle i felt so bad for the parent cause they were doing their best and some old man walked by and said "someone should kill that kid" and smiled like i was going to agree well he was wrong he got an earful about how he was more inconsiderate with his attitude than the ppl just trying to get groceries while i do think parents should try to stifle the tantrum expecting them not to happen at all is unreasonable

Answer 10

They are indeed rude. Just take it as they have got no experience in handling children.

But, you are equally bad too. What have your children witnessed? They witnessed their mummy walking up to the rude fellows and telling the fellow that mother never loved him?? What kind of concept are you giving your children?? Are you teaching your children that their mum can 'fight' for them even when they are throwing a tantrum?

We are living examples of our children. What we say and do does reflects what kind of child we are bringing up.

I have nothing against you but I just feel that you could have ignored the fellow.
God bless.