She is having sex with her boyfriend and she didn't tell me because she knows i'm against premarital sex. I think he's using her but I can't tell her that because it would start a giant fight and i wanna be her friend but im in moral crisis, should I stay bestfriends with someone who is opposite to my view on premarital sex or should I ditch her for someone more like me?
2007-03-13 15:17:05 · 6 answers · asked by Ryan 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im totally against that too and totally agree with you. just try your best to talk her out of it no matter what it takes esp if you think the guy is using her. keep telling her how you feel and that your saying all these things because you're her best friend and you care about her. but dont ditch her because shell be needing you most when she breaks up with her bf. but dont give up!! :)
2007-03-13 15:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should let her be, people have there own choice in life, just like you chose to be against premarital sex, so what if your against it its her life, she makes her own decsisons not you for her. Some people may think its stupid to belive in what you do, but thats not a reason to drop them as a friend, being bestfriends with someone means something, and if your thinking of dropping her, like shes no one just because she doesnt have the same morals as you, then thats wrong cause thats not acting like a bestfriend, so chill out, yah you'll disagree with things on life, but that means S***, a bestfriend is a bestfriend no matter what stands in the way, just because she's having sex doesnt mean you can't trust her anyless, or hangout with her, or be a girl with her,shes not gunna rub it in your face that shes having sex hence she didnt want you to find out, obviously she doesnt want to lose you as a bestfriend, so seriously if your thinking about dropping her GROW UP, cause thats real low. Be friends to be friends, If you were black and she was white would that stop you from being bestfriends, No because that racsist, So would you drop someone because you have different beliefs, No because thats shallow... think about it!
2007-03-13 22:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by jahnaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make better friends who share your morals and views on life. She's chosen to have sex with some boy at age 15, and that's really not a drama you need to add to your life. Also, if you can't be honest without a giant fight, your friendship isn't very strong.
I think you should tell your mom why you're ending the friendship, too.
2007-03-13 22:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you going to "ditch" all of your friends that don't agree with you? If she's really your friend, try being honest about how you feel with her. Being someone's friend isn't about making them be just like you. You can be her friend even though you don't condone her behavior, can't you?
2007-03-13 22:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by charliecizarny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just a difference
you cant find someone exactly like you
just tell her the bad things about it and leave her to her decision
2007-03-13 22:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Psycho Taco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um let her do what she wants because she'll eventually find out that what shes doing is not wise
2007-03-13 22:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by dbmistry88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋