There is this girl that I really like, but i don't know if she knows who I am. I meant to ask her to one of the dances but anytime i was going to i got these chills up my spine from EXTREME nervousness. I get shaky and i think my face turns red. I start sweating too. How can I talk to her when all this happens? I want to try to go out with her eventually but i cant even talk to her.
2007-03-13 15:16:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know I used to have the same problem. First, be confident in yourself if you don't respect yourself it will be difficult for other people to.Also don't be so nervous (easily said than done) it is not going to help you so it is ultimately a waste of energy. If you are confident and have something to say you are in good shape and are on the same level as all those other people you idolize going up to girls they don't know and starting conversations (I've been there). The best way to start a conversation with a new person is to pretend that everyone is interesting. Don't think of the activity as a chore but as wow that girl seems interesting I bet she has a lot of interesting things to say and point of views. Don't put people up on a pedestal most of the time they are just as insecure as yourself.
In conclusion you need to control your anxiety before you can realize your full potential. In order to do this 1) Maintain and nurture your self-esteem (girls like/"require" guys with confidence)- I have seen not so good looking and not so interesting guys get girls waaaayy out of their "league" with the right amount of confidence. 2) Don't make this one encounter the be all end all of your existence. If you exaggerate this encounter in your mind of course your going to be nervous, who wouldn't? Just relax and as cliche as it sounds be yourself, but be yourself in a calm,confident and slightly assertive way. 3) Find a common ground you can break the ice with (e.g That homework was a pain in the *** last night, How about our football team this year, What are you career goals? <-- good because there is plenty to discuss there. You'll be fine, I will be awaiting your success story...
2007-03-13 15:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by dellptn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her online if you can't build the courage to talk in person. But eventually you're going to have to control yourself and talk to her with confidence if you plan to achieve anything.
2007-03-13 22:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by cashew 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the little voices inside your head saying ur gonna mess up talking to her. have confidence, shes just a girl. she goes to the bathroom like you do, she eats like you do. Shes just a person. shes not a god. You got to say "no one is too good for me" tease her a little have fun with her. remember she is just like you. most importantly have confidence in your self
2007-03-13 22:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just calm down!!! be yourself..... girls are human, dont start thinking that we are some weird species cuz then guys get all flustered. take deep breaths and relax!!! trust me, we dont bite!! if you take time to talk to a girl.. 4 out of 5 will take the time to talk back!!
2007-03-13 22:20:37 · answer #4 · answered by pointegurlie7706 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need practice. Ask out a bunch of girls that you don't like or know so you can see it's no big deal.
2007-03-13 22:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to be like that--the only advice i can give is "bite the bullet" and just ask her. you dont have anything to lose, and it is the only way your going to get up the courage to do it!
2007-03-13 22:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by SwordDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people like to talk about themselves, men and women alike. just strike up a conversation like you would anyone. it is important to be interested in getting to know her, not just what it is you are attracted to *for instance, do not stare at breasts :-)
2007-03-13 22:21:49 · answer #7 · answered by blank 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,,
Be completely honest,, If you want to have sex with her TELL HER she will love your honesty!
Being honest is good,, anything that pops into your head ,, tell her ,, even if its random things like,, i have a large dick,, i like cheese,, I scream your name in the middle of the night when i **** ,, I gets hardons VER VERY easily,, ECT ECT
She'll love you for it... trust me, it's how my boyfriend won me over. girls love a sensitive guy who appreciates our feelings.
Good luck .. x o x
2007-03-13 22:22:35 · answer #8 · answered by Maybe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she doesn't know you are you have like 1% chance.
just ask her. you live life once. you'll never get another chance.
don't ask her plainly and right out of nowhere. just get to know her so she doesn't think you are a complete freak.
2007-03-13 22:20:12 · answer #9 · answered by John Becker 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Message them on myspace
no confidence needed and private
2007-03-13 22:19:19 · answer #10 · answered by rofl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋