She was hurt really bad by someone whe trusted with all her heart. What can i do to prove i love her,
This is very important to her and me as well. Please help
2007-03-13 15:09:00 · 13 answers · asked by Joseph M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time, that's really the only thing that can truely prove it.
2007-03-13 15:12:08 · answer #1 · answered by heavy_cow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a similar situation as your girlfriend. I have caught my boyfriend in a couple of lies. I really love him, so I am giving him a chance to redeem himself. The thing with trust when you have been really hurt is that you are always questioning things...it may not be because of something that you have done, but it is a habit because of her past. The BEST advice I can give you is NEVER lie to her. If you get caught in a lie that will really set you back far. No matter how little. Sometimes like holidays if you are shopping for her she may call and ask where you are don't lie. Tell her that you can't tell her right now but you will tell her after Christmas. Find a way to answer her with out lying.
If she never catches you in a lie then the trust will come with time.
2007-03-13 22:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT send her ANY gifts in the MAIL! Girls hate that when they're upset b/c they think ur just trying to get her att. Talk 2 her. i no that may sound old school but if you really love her you'll do nething right? Tell her that u love her but that ur willing to wait as long as it takes 4 her 2 trust u. And just keep on being kind and not saying "why don't u trust me?" If she doesn't like that 'i'll wait 4 u romance' then u might just wanna give her some elbow room. i mean she IS hurting from that other trust issue.
2007-03-13 22:18:06 · answer #3 · answered by Jamie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone means well in saying "just give her time," but in all honesty that just won't be enough. I've been cheated on and so I speak from personal experience. First, be willing to give her as much of your free time as possible to show her how important she is.
Be careful who you associate with when it comes to the opposite sex. If you have female friends, only spend time with them if you go out as a group, your gf included. And when you're with other women, hold your girl close. This shows her that you aren't afraid to show everyone that you're happy and committed.
Try to be understanding. She has been deeply hurt and needs you to stand by her as she comes to terms with everything. Eventually time WILL heal her wounds, but getting there will be a struggle and she will need your support. Try not to get annoyed when she asks questions and sounds accusatory. Understand that it is coming from past hurt and eventually it will pass once you show how supportive and true to her you are.
But more than anything else -- be honest! If you lie or try to hide anything no matter how small or petty it seem, you will ALWAYS get caught in the end. This sends a BIG message. And if you truly care about her, you wouldn't want her to get hurt all over again. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2007-03-13 23:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by paddington_ck 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its very hard to get someone to trust you when they have been betrayed by someone they trusted so much. I think the best thing you can do is be as honest and true to her as possible. If you have no intentions to hurt her she'll see, but its going to take time. Let her know that you understand what she feels and that you have no intention on hurting her. Let her know that you are willing to go through whatever it takes to make her feel safe and secure in the relationship....but don't push the subject too much because she might become suspicions on why you are so eager to gain her trust. Give her time...her defenses will come down....hang in there!!!!GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-13 22:22:48 · answer #5 · answered by bellabell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her time. If she has been badly hurt, time is the only thing that will prove your love to her. Make sure you don't do anything that will even remotely seem like you are untrustworthy. Ultimately, though, she will have to make the decision whether to trust you or not. Don't give her a reason not to trust you.
2007-03-13 22:16:13 · answer #6 · answered by janejane 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it will take time... Also, let her know that you trust her. The more you trust her, the more she will feel like you are trustworthy. (It's true!)
And also, if she's worried about you cheating on her, Never let her see you flirting with another girl. Don't talk about other girls around her. Don't answer phone calls from other girls when she's with you. Don't hang out with other girls without your girlfriend there.
ALSO, a great tip is to let her friends know how much you care about her and don't want to hurt her. Then they can help convice her to trust you.
Let her know that your relationship is important to you.
Hope that helps, good luck!
2007-03-13 22:16:45 · answer #7 · answered by 1337_becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's not mature or wise enough to deal with her past and learn to trust someone. You can't "make" someone trust you if they choose not to.
PS I think everyone in the world can say they were hurt in the past, but people choose to trust again--- or not.
2007-03-13 22:13:21 · answer #8 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what she might be experiencing, because some months ago my best friend made out with the girl I was giong out with right in front of me. What really helped get over it was the support of my friends and time. If you could get that person to make some kind of apology that would be the best, that really really helps; to know that person is really sorry.
2007-03-13 22:16:46 · answer #9 · answered by QP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say get a new girlfriend that does trust you. If u really want her to trust you just tell her something simple like ill call u later and then do it
It will take time for her to trust u
2007-03-13 22:24:29 · answer #10 · answered by rofl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋