ok so they broke up after he cheated on her after a yr long relationship and we got together 4 months after that. we've been together for 4 months. Like any guy, he wanted what he couldnt have and tried getting her back. At first she was confused but then she said she wanted to be with me, 3 months went by and now she is confused again. She says she loves us both soo much and she wants to go spend 1 day with him this week to see if he "changed". I just wanna be with her...and as passive as I am, I told her to do what she has to do to make a decision, so shes going to see him tmrw at the mall...I dont think many guys would approve of that, but what else could i do? It was either that or she'd say "i dont wanna be with anyone then, cuz i dunno what i want"..like she's fully talking about going and seeing him tmrw and then turning around and telling me im the love of her life?? yes, confusing. im hoping she'll realise when she's wit him tmrw that im the one for her..I LOVE HER SOO MUCHH
2007-03-13 14:31:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
U sent ur girl on a date with another guy!?!?!?!
BIG mistake. U need to tell her that he had his chance with her and messed up and that u will not tolerate this BS. If she is not sure who she wants to be with tell her you just want to be friends cuz essentially u are just a relationship of conveniece to her.
THEN she can go do whatever she wants.
2007-03-13 14:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. She's obviously really confused, but I wouldn't worry. At first he might seem like a great guy, but he's not. He just wants the eye candy. And if she chooses him, it probably won't last long. Once, a player, always a player.
YOU should be supportive. She is confused and overwhelmed. She loves you, but she is remembering the feelings she had when she was with him. Just tell her you care about her, and whatever choice she makes, you support her. You didn't make a bad choice and you seem like such a sweet guy. That's probably why she loves you so much!
I would just take it day by day and hope for the best. If she doesn't come back to you, then maybe she has been thinking about this a long time. If they break up because he cheats again and she comes running back, make her stick it out a little. Tell her you care about her, but it seems like she doesn't care about you. Let her figure out her real feelings.
2007-03-13 14:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by verleybe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a delicate situation and she has the right to be confuse, but she doesnt have the rigt to hurt you. If she would love you, she would not even be thinking of this. Its is better to be alone than having someone by yourside just because... Find a person hat loves you and gives you the respect that you deserve. Dont lower your standards. You deserve the best. No one is necessary to be happy... think about it. At first it will hurn, but nothing that a good f*CK and a couple to tequilas cant solve.
2007-03-13 14:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Apollo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me like she is in a bad situation. She's confused about the two of you. I don't think that you should have let her gone to meet him at the mall that might just ruin your chance's of being with her in the future and now. Her ex could have possibly changed alot that past year. I hope she does pick you though. I mean you see like a reallynice guy who has fallen in love with the right girl.
2007-03-13 14:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's saying one thing and doing another personally I wouldn't accept it.How do I know because I've been there and done that and I don't play second fiddle to anyone I have more respect for myself then that. You need to be straight foward and let her know that if she goes you won't be waiting for her. If she goes any way your really not that important to her and she has little concerns for your feelings and personally I would move on......
2007-03-13 14:47:17 · answer #5 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you did the right thing in allowing her to figure out her feelings for and this guy and if she chooses him, your better off because it sounds like you need someone more stable.
2007-03-13 14:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by leona 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2getha 4 4 mths sounds like rebound romance 2 me.wasnt ova obviously n much needs 2 b resolved.
2007-03-13 14:35:28 · answer #7 · answered by Odra 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a life. You sound like a loser. You think she is the only woman in the world?
2007-03-13 14:40:18 · answer #8 · answered by whtcamp 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think she still loves him or she wouldn't have to go anywhere to meet with him to see if she still cared or if he had changed. think u already know how this story is going to unfold, if u were the one she would not feel the need to revisit him in any way.
2007-03-13 14:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should forget about her. If she cant choose between her ex and you than she is not right for you
2007-03-13 14:37:24 · answer #10 · answered by Trey E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋