OK my girlfriend came out and told me that her ex boyfriend once videotaped them togeather having sex and that another guy actually did the taping, also the other guy was partially involved, to what extent I am not sure. I asked her if she actually had sex with two guys and she says no. What should I do. Would you care if you were in my position. Ive tried to be cool about it but seceretly it gets to me and women dont lie like men but they never tell the whole truth either, so ive noticed.
2007-03-13 14:31:05 · 15 answers · asked by james l 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It was before you. Let it go. Before you know it she will be bringing up your ex's and I'm sure you won't be happy.
2007-03-13 14:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
First off, sorry man. That sucks. Seeing that I'm a girl this might be a dumb answer but, if I was in your place I'd feel a little awkward about it. It's like, 'Ok, you've had other partners' that's one thing, but for her openly admit that she's had sex with 2 other guys and they taped it....come'on. What was even the point of bring it up?? I don't think she should have said anything, she should've kept her mouth (and legs) shut. I'd be hurt by it, and I'd be kida weird the next time we got 'close'...
2007-03-13 14:37:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hmm, If I were in your position, I would be concerned. Im not sure there is a whole lot you can do. I mean, there is obviously a reason that she told you, so I would advise just sitting down and talking with her, and ask things like why? Now, before you go and do that, this approach can be quite offending, but if you really want or feel you need to know, tell her exactly how you feel and that you feel uncomfortable and would like to know why that happened and why she decided to tell you. Hope this helps
-Brandon-
2007-03-13 14:37:24 · answer #3 · answered by Brandon B 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ya, dude ... I could understand how this would bother someone with decent morals. I hear ya !!
I think she probably did have sex with two guys and she is just afraid to admit it.
If if bothers you, I would probably let her know this and decide if you want to stay in the relationship. It will probably bother you more as time goes on and furthermore, do you really want to have a long term relationship with this type of girl?
2007-03-13 14:37:09 · answer #4 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it's in the past so leave it there. Don't you have a past too and have you told her the truth about your past? I don't understand why all you guy are so worried about what happened in the past. I'm sure she has regrets about it. Get over it and concentrate on what is happening in the now and present, not what happened in the past and something you can't change. If you want to let this ruin your relationship, go ahead you are the one missing out.
2007-03-13 14:37:02 · answer #5 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
its understandable to be upset and jealous about the whole thing, but the only way for it to be resolved is for you to get over it cos there's nothing you can do about what happened.
as unpractical as this may sound, i think that the best way for you to get over it would be to make your own sex tape with her. she's done it before so it's not like she's gonna feel weird about it, and for you it'll make you feel better about the situation because you won't feel as left out.
if she cares about you and your feelings then i reckon she would go along with it
2007-03-14 13:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I HAVE A TAPE FLOATING AROUND OF ME AND MY EX BUT I WOULD NEVER TELL MY BOYFRIEND. I KNOW HE WOULD THINK ABOUT IT DAY AND NIGHT BUT I THINK IT WOULD HAVE BEEN BETTER IF SHE HADNT TOLD YOU AND IF YO WOULD HAVE FOUND OUT ABOUT IT I COULDNT BOTHER YOU AS MUCH BECAUSE IT WAS IN THE PAST ANYWAY WELL IT TAKES A STRONG PERSON TO MOVE ON SO MOVE ON IT WONT HURT YOUR RELATIONSHIP YOU LOVE HER DONT LET IT BOTHER YOU.
2007-03-13 14:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should get mad that she made the tape, because it's before you guys got together. It all depends on how long you've been together. If it's for a year you should be a little pissed that she kept that from you.
2007-03-13 14:37:03 · answer #8 · answered by J Vize 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dont worry. I've seen it and it just isn't that hot. Especially that part where they can't all figure out where to stand to do an actual 3-way. More clumsy than sexy.
2007-03-13 14:35:58 · answer #9 · answered by lucyanddesi 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
The best thing to do is to go to her and tell her how you feel about the situation and tell in order for you to get over this and move on she is going to have to tell you the truth about what hapenned.
2007-03-13 14:35:46 · answer #10 · answered by leona 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You either stay or leave.
If this is a big issue with you, then you must not care very much about this woman.
2007-03-13 14:38:51 · answer #11 · answered by A dad & a teacher 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋