I've never had a bf before and i just moved to chicage for a graet new job at an art gallery. So I meet this guy through a friend, and we start to spend a lot of time together. We usually hang about my place watching tv and relaxing. He' s few years older than I am (he's 28, i'm 25). So far I really like him, and I believe that the feeling is mutual. However , recently my friend invited me over for lunch and told me that my beau's family is known to be involved in organized crime. He is so cool, and possibly a great catch, but the last thing I need is some tony soprano type of guy. Should I leave him alone or just flow with it until I can verify her story? I know that it is unnatural for someone my age to not have dated anyone ever and I should maybe stick it out, but I don't want to be involved with someone who engages in bad things either.
2007-03-13 14:26:03 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Before you make any decisions find out if what your friend said about this guy is true...right now all it really is is gossip so find out the truth..possibly from him...Talk to him because if its untrue you dont want to give up on a great guy especially when you are trying to get expierience dating! Good Luck! :)
2007-03-13 14:30:27 · answer #1 · answered by *Mariah* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have a talk with him. Make sure that you remain calm and don't accuse him of anything. You don't know anything for sure yet, this may be gossip. On that note, what you really should concerned with is if this is true, than what?will you keep seeing him ?(hopefully not) He may seem like a great guy, but he is not the only one in the world. If you can find one, you can find another trust me! So if push comes to shove let him go. Besides it is better to leave him early than later after feelings on both sides have started to form.
2007-03-13 21:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by piglet617 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend might possibly not know the whole story. I think that you need to verify the story first before you go any farther with the guy.
You should hang out with him still get to know him more lead up to that question about his family being "criminals."
If you don't want trouble in your life and you thing that he is possibly gonna be trouble then just stop hanging with his and find someone new.
2007-03-13 21:32:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with me i have a thing for bad-boys...i dont know why.just because he engages in bad things dont make him a bad person.you should find out first the real story.not by asking...but just go with the flow.dont start accusing and dont listen to other people.you never know.your friend might be wrong and it may not be nothing big...unless he was like a rapist or something like that,then yea...leave him alone.but other than that,he sounds like a nice guy.give him a chance and go with the flow!
2007-03-13 21:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Itsjustme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should definately verify, and see if he is involved in it, if he is or even if you can't verify it and think he may be, then i definately wouldn't date him, maybe you could be friends still, but you need to be careful, that wouldn't be good if something bad happened to you.
also, since this is your first bf, then maybe the excitement of it is making you think that he is a good catch, there are better fish in the sea my love that aren't involved in crime. find yourself a real good kind hearted guy and don't get yourself into trouble with criminal guys
2007-03-13 21:31:11 · answer #5 · answered by Jo Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to figure it out...but maybe you should end it before you are too attatched and you start tolerating his "criminal" lifestyle. Do you know what I mean? My man didn't tell me he was in a gang back home etc when we first met, and I've fallen in love with him...but now? I learn more every day and it makes me concerned and nervous and not sure what to let my parents in on...be careful!
2007-03-13 21:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with him and tell him that you aren't interested in dating someone like that. If he isn't, you will be basing your relationship on honesty. If he denies it but your friend ends up in concrete shoes, you'll know to get out quickly. If he is and doesn't deny it, run and never look back. You might also ask your friend where she got her info. She might just be jealous.
2007-03-13 21:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by Lesley M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to what your gut is saying. If it's saying not to trust him then don't. Maybe you should continue to have fun with him or why don't you ask him straight out what he is involved in and if he cares for you he will tell you the truth.
2007-03-13 21:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better to move on if you even have to ask this question. You don't want to get caught up into something that could get you in trouble, just by association if not anything else.
2007-03-13 21:31:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out of thatt relationship...or else you will be at tha bottom of the bay wearing concrete shoes.... Take it from me.. Don Antonio, Capo di tuti capi.
2007-03-13 21:31:19 · answer #10 · answered by jay b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋