So my boyfriend of two years is on spring break right now with his team. He has called me once...and he has been gone for 5 days. I have been going stir crazy...i just wish for sunday to roll around so i can see him. We spend alot of time together and when we aren't together for a long period of time I start to miss him. I don't think its weird that he hasn't called me more b/c he doesnt like talking on the phone, but everyone else thinks its wrong. Andy advice on what I can do to distance myself from him so when this happens again I won't be so anxious. And any advice on how to make the days go by faster?
2007-03-13 14:16:32 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's good to be able to spend a bit of time apart every once in a while, because it proves to both of you that you're not too dependant on each other. So I would say that as long as the two of you are doing fine, that this definitely sounds perfectly healthy to me.
As for making the days go by faster, spend this week just living your life. Depending on how much time you spend with him, you probably have a lot of extre time right now but that isn't a bad thing at all. Go out with your friends, get your homework done, do things that you like to do and haven't had time for. Try renting a movie you've been wanting to see or starting a book that you like. If you have any little siblings that you aven't had a chance to spend much time with lately, tis week is a great time to take them to go see a movie or something. Basically, just be yourself and have fun. It's expected, fine, and normal to miss him (especially two years into a relationship), but you should also be able to have a realy good week without him and if you've forgotten how to do that, then it's probably not a bad thing that you're getting the chance to practice.
Good luck hun!
2007-03-13 14:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by KatieBee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like your whole life revolves around him
STOP THAT NOW
That's unhealthy. If you were to ever break up or god forbid here were to die; you will be so depressed that prozak won't help.
FIND OTHER things to do!! Paint, yoga, dance, make realllly close friends, spend time with your family, study more. You need to be well rounded; going crazy because a guy isn't calling is WRONG. Your life shouldn't depend on his calls or his presence!!!
Loving him is okay; just don't push it. You're taking it to a very unhealthy level.
2007-03-13 14:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by thepenpal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the mall with a friend, see a movie, and then find an online chat place to take your mind off of him. Also, read a book, watch a bunch of movies, go to bed early. Or you can stir up a suprize gift for him, that away youll be focused on that and not the time he is gone but the time you need to make the suprise work.
2007-03-13 14:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by helloprissykitty 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is with his team, so he probably is rather busy, touring, doing "guy stuff" with the guys-all good stuff. He doesn't like talking on the phone-hey=one phone call per week is pretty good. So, how about a few of your girlfriends get together and go shopping at the local mall? Or go to a movie? Matinees are usually the cheaper way to see good movies. Read a book, go for walks, swimming in a local pool, bowling. Stuff like that. Whatever it is you like to do for fun, and can - go for it! Take care.
2007-03-13 14:23:50 · answer #4 · answered by SAK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. It's all about control which is all about insecurity and then that leads to jealousy. Not healthy at all.
2016-03-28 22:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to distance yourself from him, the anxiety is good, makes you appreciate each other more. I would say reading is the best way to make time pass faster, grab a good book (I recommend Anne Rice) and disappear into someone elses world for awhile! Good luck!
2007-03-13 14:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to keep busy when he is away. If you totally wait beside the phone for him to call it will only stress you out when he only calls a couple of times. You don't' want it to become an obsessive/compulsive relationship. You need your own life too.
2007-03-13 14:22:33 · answer #7 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Enjoy your independant free time. Get to know yourself. Gewt back in touch with the girlfriends you probably have not seen in forever bc you are always with him. Hang out with your mom. They are humbling. Appreciatye your free time and get something done, because you know as soon as he gets back...you will be paired up again. As far as missing him? That wont go away.
2007-03-13 14:21:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ashley 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he might just busy, go out with ur friend enjoy and have fun, play any sport, avoid being alone, always have someone to talk,if ur busy everyday days go faster,
2007-03-13 14:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a life outside him
2007-03-13 14:19:42 · answer #10 · answered by jay b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋