my son will be 6 months old next week and i still cant believe it. is this normal? i love him but its hard for me to imagine that this child will be callling me mommy adn looking at me for advice.
2007-03-13 14:14:06 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I think the best word for it is surreal. My son is now 15 months and I still sometimes feel like I'm babysitting! He's mine, but it's so hard to believe, it doesn't seem real. I think that feeling like a mother is like a birthday( an odd comparison, I know). You EXPECT to feel different when you have your baby, like you expect to feel older or different on your birthday. In reality, you never really FEEL different, it just grows to become the norm in your life.
2007-03-13 18:18:02 · answer #1 · answered by P C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 16 when I got pregnant had my daughter at 17. I knew from the moment I found out I was pregnant that I was going to be MOM and love every minute of it. It seemed natural to me.. Don't know why.. It wasn't until my daugher turned the age I was when I got pregnant with her that I was like OMG SHE is MY daughter. That is when I realized why my mom did all the mean things she did.. They weren't mean I just thought they were.
Because, I haven't changed much as far as the way I feel.. I still feel like I'm at least just in my early 20's. I'm not a crab apple like some older parents are.
I stopped and remembered what I thought about my mom when I was 16 and it just knocked me for a loop.
I'm only 36 but when I was 16 and my mom was 39 or so I thought she was really old.. Now I know she was at her prime. Living and loving every minute of it.
So I guess I'm different.. Looks like most everyone else has the same issue as you. Having those feelings early.. Well I had them but not until my daughter and I could stand up and look each other in the eye and we think alot alike and have the same bone structure and I see her adultness and I SEE ME... LOL... It is hard when you feel too young to have a daughter the same age you feel. She is 19 now..
Good Luck.. This shall pass. It will be ok.. Your momness will kick in when you least expect it too. lol
2007-03-14 00:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably be a year until it finally settles in. It's almost unreal how we do these motherly things everyday yet we can't even imagine actually being a parent. It's still hard to imagine that I have my own son and that he's going to be mine for the rest of my life--he's a year old. It's fun. I think we just get into a routine but then when we actually take a moment to step back, we can't actually believe that it is our life. Crazy, huh? It'll come sooner or later. Don't feel bad if it's not all sunk in yet. Best of Luck!
2007-03-13 21:46:22 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question tugged at me. I have 3 kids from a previous marriage. I had the 1st one shortly after I turned 19, so I have been a mom all of my adult life. Here's the clincher-- I had another baby 8 after the last of those 3, and that is the one that took a while to sink in. I felt like I had just given birth to this baby for his father and his grandmother to love. Sometimes, I still can't believe I have another baby, and he will be 5 soon.
I probably didn't answer your quesiton, but I hope you see you are not alone.
2007-03-13 21:34:59 · answer #4 · answered by mudcat_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, it was when my daughter was 1 and she finally said " Mama." Before that, I loved her and would have done anything for her, but sometimes I felt like I was just the babysitter or something. When she finally called me Mama (she had been saying Dada to her father for 3 months), it hit me that I really was a mom.
I think it's completely normal to feel this way when your child is still a little baby and can't really talk to you. When you realize that your child thinks of you as "Mama", you start to see yourself as a mom.
By the way, my daughter is 7 1/2 and it still surprises sometimes to realize that I am her mother.
2007-03-13 22:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by TJ'smom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I do all the mommy stuff, it was at at least 2 years before it really sunk in that I'm a mother. Sometimes it still suprises me and I have 2 kids now.....
2007-03-13 21:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by chester 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 8mo its still hard to believe I'm a mom. I think it will be crazy when he finally call me mommy....I'll probably turn around looking for my mother. You are totally normal.
2007-03-13 21:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by Lil'Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally understand what your saying. My daughter is 6 months and sometimes I wonder the same thing. I am waiting for the day for her to say momma. She recently started reaching out for me when someone else has her, and that made me feel so special, and when someone she is not to sure of trys to grab her when Im holding her, she grabs on to me, and that really changed me.
2007-03-13 22:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went thru the same thing. I think all women do; some just longer than others. But you'll do just fine :) Unfortunately they don't come with instruction manuals! But at some point you'll realize that you USE to feel this way. And you'll be smiling at your little one who loves you no matter what.
2007-03-13 21:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well--put it this way--right away--once I delivered my child I felt like a mom--and at the same time--even now--when my son is almost 6 years old--I sometimes think--wow--did he just call ME mom?....So--it's sort of weird--it is such a natural role--that I accepted it immediately--at the same time--yes--you always wonder--whoa--I'm a mom..it is an amazing miracle..Enjoy your baby!!
2007-03-13 21:40:07 · answer #10 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋