What if i wanna date a guy that is a different religion?
i dont want to dessapoint my parents but if i fall for a guy that is not the same religion as me..what should i do?
i want my parents to like him but im scared that they wont like him just becuase he isnt the same religion as us.
thanx in advance..i appreciate it!
2007-03-13 14:12:09 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-13 14:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by GG noob #2 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I guess your parents assume the same religion may mean that he shares some of the same values and ideals as you. That doesn't make it true.
You could try dating people of your religion and you may find one you like.
Personally, I never really looked at a person's religion when considering whether or not to date them. I looked for personality and compatibility.
You have to do what you think is right. If you are underage then you also have to consider your parents wishes. (That doesn't mean following them forever though)
2007-03-13 14:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wellll... this situation all rely's on how old you are. If you are under 18... you better stick to what your parents want for right now. Consider your options....(if you are under 18....) if you go ahead and date the guy behind your parents back, and then your parents find out... they might have trust issues with you in the future and take away some privelages. Or... if you think your parents would be understanding enough - sit them down and talk to them about it in a CALM manner. But... if you are 18 (or over).... you are your own person and are old enough to make your own decisions... so do what you think is right. I hope things work out for you!
2007-03-13 14:20:11 · answer #3 · answered by Katie ~ *TTC Baby #1!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a terrible shame that your parents are of that opinion- but you need to remember. Whose life is this? You canNOT allow them to control this point. If it takes a while until you're in college or have some sort of independence, so be it. This is YOUR life- not theirs- and they should be thankful that at least you're even their religion. Besides, religion is PERSONAL. It shouldn't be a community thing. Good luck- and remember that you are working for YOURSELF. If YOU want to date someone of a different religion (or even no religion, we're not all that bad) then so be it.
2007-03-13 14:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to think yourself if you believe the religion that you were born into. If you do then it really makes no sense to date a non believer. You are not thinking about marriage now, but dating is a preparation for that, and marriage between religions can cause much trouble in that relationship.
2007-03-13 14:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Catman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating a guy thats only ur religion is bullsh*t. Do what u want. Do u think God would punish you for that? No! God made the guy that you love whether he is ur religion or not the way he is and if he is the person u love, ur parents would naturally love him too.
2007-03-13 14:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
who really follows their religion to the core these days, i think what your parents are concerned about is the kids, what religion would they follow? Well just as long as your kids are decent human beings,isnt that all that matters? I myself is in kind of in a same situation, but a more advanced one, as you. i've been with this guy for over three years who's a muslim, and my parents resent me for it, and i dont see the situation getting any better in the near future. but i cant live my life trying to please their close ended minds, can I?? so follow your heart, ask GOD to show u the way, only he knows whats good for you.
2007-03-13 14:20:04 · answer #7 · answered by DesiGirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You cannot choose who you love. I undersatnd your situation, but the imporant thing is that you like him, not what your parents think of him. My parents for example always seem to find something wrong about the girls I date, but when they spend some time with her, thay begin to like her. Give him a chance, you cannot lose anything trying.
Good luck
2007-03-13 14:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by QP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you like a guy who is a different reiligion tell your parents that you like him how he is and that he isnt a bad person because of his beliefs. As a christian i was taught not to judge others based on how they looked, thought, or what they believed.
2007-03-13 14:16:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents that love is not based on religion but based on a persons character and how they behave not their beliefs
2007-03-13 14:14:25 · answer #10 · answered by 100% Español 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow.......good question.......lets face it, we date the people we could potentially marry.....your parents know the long term
effects of marrying outside of your religion.........this is not to say it is all gloom and doom.......but .......newlyweds have enough to deal with and throwing in a difference of religion only adds to those probs......i would say tread lightly in seeing this young man.regarding religion and other issues....guard your heart...and dont be afraid to talk to your folks .......and dont be afraid to deal with serious questions with your b/f.....u both must be honest with yourselves and each other
2007-03-13 14:21:20 · answer #11 · answered by dad 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋