Can he tell my parents?

Question

So I'm going to be seeing the school's psycologist soon because a lot of things going on (stress, loss of friends, feeling like I'm going insane etc). But to really talk to him I'm probably going to have to tell him about last year when I stopped eating, started thinking about suicide and hurting myself. I don't do or seriously consider these things now, I eat everyday like I should, I don't hurt myself and I don't think about suicide. If I tell him that I used to think about that stuff but don't anymore can he tell my parents? Will he do you think if it was over a year ago?

Answer 1

No he cannot tell your parents, it is ethically wrong for him to do so and do not feel you have to tell him anything you feel uncomfortable with.
If you do want to tell him maybe wait until after the first session is over, if you get good vibes and think he is a nice guy then you can be reassured that he wont tell anyone, and ask him beforehand about the legal responsibility he has to you and to keep everything you say to him confidential.
I went through the exact same thing last year and i have been seeing my counsellor for a year now and i couldn't ask for a better one, it really does change your outlook on things totally.
The only time a psychologist can get anyone else involved is if you tell him you are activiley considering suicide, then he will have to tell your parents and get a third party person such as a doctor involved to help you, but anything else should be confidental.
I hope you get a good psychologist to talk to and that things go well, good luck =)

Answer 2

I don't see why he would need to tell your folks since you are not in any current danger of harming yourself, but I'd suggest you tell him just what you said on here as you do want to be able to share everything openly. Tell him you don't want your folks involved at this point and he should be able to respect your wishes. Also, take comfort and pride in the fact that you have found a way to stop those things and perhaps you might want to share what you found worked for you with others here. Also, let the school psychologist see the strengths you have! Congratualtions!!!! (And please take a bow-it's an accomplishment to be proud of!)

Answer 3

If you are a minor, the usual rules about confidentiality do not apply. They usually won't break a confidence though unless they think you are still in danger. As before, if he will need to tell your parents anything. He will have to be honest with you about that. If you assure him that you do not have suicidal thoughts anymore I would think it would be OK.

Try to be as honest as possible though. You want help. I am much older than you and denied suicidal thoughts to my doctor as I didn't want him to try to have me committed or anything. My depression just worsened. Thinking back, if I had told him the truth, I may have gotten help sooner.

I hope you are feeling better soon.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You sound like you are of high school age; chances are, if you ask him to keep the conversation confidential, he will do so. Only if you are a present threat to yourself would he be obliged to involve anyone else.

I was called to the counselor's office for a paper I wrote in high school; it was actually a poem as I think about it. For English class. The theme was so troubling, the teacher thought I was suicidal. They talked to me and did not alert my parents.

Answer 6

Good for you for wanting to be open with the psychologist. I would suggest you talk to him about your concerns and ask him what are the limits of what he will and will not tell your parents. Only the psychologist can give you a definite answer about what he will not share. There are laws related to confidentiality to protect your privacy but he may feel it's important for your parents to know and encourage you to tell them yourself. Please don't let the possibility of him telling keep you from being open with him. He can only help you with the things that you tell him about.

Answer 7

Dont hold back, Lay your whole feelings out and be honest with your self and to the person listening. It will only help you right out of the gate and will speed up how you can start to feel and point you in the right direction to get the special help you need !!!

Answer 8

--Unfourtunately, Children and Adolescents do not have client privilege.
--However, your psychologist will probably have this discussion in one of your first sessions. He will tell what he is required to disclose (abuse, harm to self/others).
--He will also understand that he doesn't want to break trust with you unless he absolutely has to.
--Legally, if your parent requests information, your psychologist is supposed to disclose.
--My professor for clinical psych said that in therapy sessions she would talk to the parents first and ask them to not ask her to disclose what was talked about in session with their child.
--You might be able to work with the psychologist with the possibility of eventually sitting down with your parents and having that conversation with them yourself (what you went through, what you were feeling, why you were feeling).
--Tell him/her your concerns about maintaining trust, he should understand.
--Also, there is an article in my source that talks about confidentiality for adolescents.

Answer 9

Unless you present a danger to yourself or someone else, I don't see him mentioning past thoughts to your parents. I'm glad that those thoughts no longer a part of you.

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Answer 10

I would ask the counsellor straight up if he can disclose your conversations to your parents. I would make it very clear that you do not want your private thoughts revealed. Best of luck.