Went to counselor for first time in life?

Question

Today was the first time I ever went to a counselor.He told me he doesnt think I am a medically diagnosed depressed person, just depressed due to my situation.I have been down for a while but so has my situation.He also asked me if you fish in a pond with all bass what do you get?If you fish in a pond with all carp what do you get?If you fish in a pond with nothing what do you get?Obvious answer here. What he was saying was if you hang out with pot head party bar people all the time u will get a woman like that. No way really?So he did inspire me to really think of who my true good friends are and who is the rift raft types.He also figures the depression and anxiety was caused by all the anger I have toward my ex and the things she did to me.I do admit I have and had a lot of anger who wouldn't?I wish all people viewed getting help for mental stuff as a good thing I have got some rude comments from nosy people at work and it makes more anxiety in the situation, people need to care more

Answer 1

Anyone who has never been to counseling has no idea what a positive an eye opening effect it can have. And while you're working on figuring out who your true friends are and who they aren't, you will find that there are more people that care. Working through your anger will definitely make a huge difference in your life. I know how hard it is to have people around you that are rude & just don't understand or care. But forget about what those people think & say - you can't let them bring you back down while you're just on your way up!

Congrats on going to a counselor - you're doing good.

Answer 2

Hi Nate Dogg, I like to answer your questions you've helped me out before. Counselling can get a lot of things off your chest and they can suggest ways of dealing with situations that we may never had thought of trying. Planned and realistic outcomes are what they usually aim for and is great, it's not for crazy people, which you are definately not, Today's rushed world is full of stress and many people need guidance/counselling. You've experienced great frustration, anger and sadness/ depression from what has happened to you through and after your relationship. Which those jerk offs made rude comments would know nothing about. The only problem with counselling was that in my personal case i got attached to my counsellor and developed feelings for her, which has affected me but she was a great help none the less, better than any psychologist or psychiatrist i'd ever been to. Your doing a good thing man, get back on track take the help and hopefully you'll be sweet. Small dose of valium if anxiety gets too much is cool too, sorry for keep on mentioning that it just helps me so much, Those rude guys are loosers and if they're not carefull you might accidently knock em out. he he. Let me know how you get on champ.

Answer 3

I'm glad that you got help from someone. The counselor is right. Sometimes the situation you have going on is causing an environmentally based depression. As far as your anger towards your ex, think about this--which may or may not be something the counselor said to you. Is your anger actually doing anything to your ex? It isn't hurting your ex at all, but it is indeed hurting you. I can tell you from a woman's point of view, if you are still hung up on what your ex did to you, there isn't going to be a woman that will put up with it. As much as it will be a pain to do, letting go of your past will be the BEST thing you can do for any of your future relationships. This is something I had to learn as well. I had alot of issues from abusive men that I happened to date in the past. I am still getting over things, but slowly, things are getting better and better.

I do say this. I agree with you. People do need to care more. I think that everyone has some type of issue that they could get some type of outside advice about from a professional. If people realize that you went to get help about something that really isn't a medical condition, they think about the things that they probably could be getting help with as well. Sometimes, people speak angry words because seeing one perosn get help forces them to ask themselves, "Why don't I do that?"

Answer 4

I'm glad you decided to see a counselor. Well, I am assuming chose to go... either way, you went and thats excellent!

It's especially akward and might feel a bit silly at first, but even if you feel like you're not getting anything out of it... there is a great deal of power in just saying your thoughts out loud to another person. Some people do it by journaling, but not me.. even though I love to write. I really enjoy visitng my therapist and telling her of my life situation and what I'm up to, what I'm thinking about, etc. She's a really great person to bounce things off of and to help put things into perspective.

DO NOT let other people make you feel bad about seeing a therapist. Like I said, it seems silly at first, but there is so much value in it for so many people.

When I'm feeling especially depressed, our sessions become more regular.. maybe every week or every other week until I'm feeling better. When I'm doing ok, I just check in with her every few months.

Answer 5

You deserve a pat on the back for seeking counselling. I go and I love it. I don't care if others think it's odd or make rude comments, I'm proud (and so should you be) that I have taken responsibility for myself. You are doing something good for yourself and I hope you continue to treat yourself well. The people who are dogging you at work are not very positive people are they? Or perhaps they want to comment but don't know how to communicate. Sometimes its easier for people to be negative because thats the easy way out. Good luck, hang in there.

Answer 6

I, too, am happy for your choice in being in therapy. However, one word of caution: I would be choosy about who I tell about this. Many people do not understand what this treatment is all about, and a lot of ignorant goons think that seeking help from a professional is a personal weakness. You will not get any support from these types and it will often backfire on you when you talk to them. I'm not saying you should keep this a deep, dark secret from everyone; just chose who you share this with.

Answer 7

Yes, there are people that don't understand depression, or someone getting help from a professional. It sounds like you are on to a good thing with your therapist. Nobody else needs to know your personal business, unless you choose to share it with them. Be selective. Take time to be good to yourself. You don't owe anyone your reasons for getting things straight in your head. I'm hoping you find strength to overcome your bad relationship. The best revenge is going out and doing whatever it is you want to do, and being the best person you can possibly be. Believe in yourself!

Good luck to you.

Answer 8

You Allowed This Person EX To Say/Do These Thing To You!
Your Ex Is Not At Fault I Feel Like You Are! ( If There Is A Fault At All)

Answer 9

I am happy you went in for counseling. Depression is just as bad for those who are are situationally depressed as it is for those who are chronically depressed.

You are correct, people need to care more. We can't control the way others act though; what we can control is how we act and respond to them.

Answer 10

Ask your coworkers if they'd rather work with someone who needed help and didn't get it. (They probably are working with someone like that and just don't know it.) Then tell them to but out.

Sometimes depression can come from internalized anger, so quietly, calmly and civilly explaining to people that you expect respect can help that from contributing.