Really how come you guys are. I don't get it.
2007-03-13 14:02:34 · 19 answers · asked by Briann M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok... feelings... that's what the problem is. It isn't that you want to know our feelings, it's that you want us to show the emotions that you women associate with "Hey, I like you." We don't like to show emotions (well, straight, non-emo guys don't like to.) The thing is, and this is what I truely feel, is that you women don't understand us. I'm going to shed some light on the situation for you.
You probably have a lot of guy friends. They are probably always around you and will be there for you no matter what. You probably call them your brothers. That is an instant killer to a possible relationship with you. Those friends of yours WANT to be DATING you but when you say "youre the brother I never had," we are put in an awkward situation. We don't want to lose the friendship if you actually feel that way about us by trying to get into a more of a boyfriend situation and not a boy who's your friend situation. It makes the relationship touchy and vulnerable. Like I said, we don't like to show our emotions because it makes us feel like less of men and it makes us vulnerable and open.
I would bet these guys that aren't showing you true feelings are actually showing you tell tale signs. Does the guy say you look fine when you say "I look fat"? Does he playfully (lightly) slap you when you make a joke about him to his face, smile and laugh about it with you as he's doing it? Does he go to stupid chick flicks with you even though you know he doesn't want to just so he can hang out with you. When you talk about the guy you are dating that isn't him, does he drop out of the conversation or change the subject? I bet they all do. You just don't know what those things mean.
2007-03-13 14:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the girl. I'll show my feelings for the girl early on in the relationship if I'm comfortable enough with the girl to do so. then again I've been with some girls i was never comfortable enough to show my feelings for, and never did. those relationships obviously did not last. some guys are still getting over what happened to them in the past and won't open up to anyone. yeah I've been hurt; but part of what makes love what it is, having the strength to be vulnerable and take that chance. you never get anywhere if you don't put forth that effort. you're talking to the wrong guys that's all ...
2007-03-13 14:09:20 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listennnn... to ya boy. Most guy don't show feeling for the simple fact that it is a little unmanly to do so. Another reason is guys like to be in control when you put your feelings out there you lose control. Because if you how they feel then you are in the driver seat. Another reason is maybe he has been hurt before and is protecting himself its a natural reaction to pain. Who know each guy is different.
2007-03-13 14:07:55 · answer #3 · answered by DuvalKing 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We are afraid of rejection. We are afraid that if we say, I like you! then the girl will say, go jerk off! You're a dork!
So we play it cool, and don't show our true feelings. If the girl shows us she likes us, we might start to show those true feelings.
Also, many guys lack confidence in dealing with girls -- and vice versa. Girls are just as shy at telling guys how they feel.
2007-03-13 14:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by zen habits 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Insecurity and fear of rejection. It boils down to a lack of confidence, plain and simple. Questions like, "Will itruin our friendship if I tel her?" and "What will she think about me?" and "What if she gets really creeped out?" cross our minds. The more we think aboutit, the more we convince ourselves to not be open about it. If only we could learn to not think and just do it, then maybe some good luck would come our way once in a while.
2007-03-13 14:07:51 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really wish they werent.That would make things so much easier on us.I hate having to guess if someone likes me,I dont see why they cant just come out and tell me.I'm a nice person,and if I dont like you,then I'm going to say,no sorry.And thats it.Things will be weird between us,but thatll pass over soon.But I guess guys are like girls,they dont like rejection either.I know I sure dont.
2007-03-13 14:07:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lol im ont a guy, but i think it has something to do with pride and guys are just like girls when it comes to something like that. Friends pester you so they get kinda freaked. They arnt sure if the girl like them. Etc
2007-03-13 14:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by JennwuzX 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two possibilities. I personnaly would be hesitant to show my true feelings if something is making me uncomfortable about it, like if someone was making fun of me for liking the girl. The other possibility is if i actually have no feelings for her.
2007-03-13 14:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because when we do show our true feelings, females usually stare at their boyfriend/spouse with a weird look. And that's cause we don't show our feelings as much as females do.
2007-03-13 14:07:43 · answer #9 · answered by orange_claw 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i was very shy with my wife when i first met her. it took me 2 months just to even kiss her after i met her. I'm just the shy type, not all men are.
2007-03-13 14:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋