2007-03-13 13:42:19 · 11 answers · asked by awanablu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he is 26 and I am 31. He is muslim and I am buddhist. we have been seeing each other for a year but due to our hectic schedules, on average we mainly get see each other on weekends. his sister and brother knows and have met me. when i asked him why his parents do not know that we are seeing each other, he says that he generally does not talk about these things to his parents. He says he loves me and I am in love with him too...should I pressure him or leave him or give it more time?
2007-03-13 14:03:40 · update #1
well,.. it all depends on how old you are,.. i mean if you are 12 who cares if his parents dont know,.. maybe he is not allowed to date,.. but if you are 20 or 21 and you all are dating and sleeping together and he has not told his parents,... well than maybe you are just not that one,.. you shoud read that book "he is just not that into you' it really is a great book when it comes to advice.
2007-03-13 13:47:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason I did not bring certain girls home to meet my mother, was because they were not the type of girl to bring home to meet my mother.
However, I am sure you do not fall into that category.
Therefore, he either fears a lot of hassle and embarrassment from his Mum or family when he brings home his girlfriend. Or he is not that serious with you and does not regard the relationship important enough to take you home.
I am looking from a mans perspective and they seem the obvious reasons.
Good luck, I hope he takes you home soon.
2007-03-13 21:15:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wouldnt he tell his parents about you?That dont make sense to me,unless he was A)ashamed of you or B)has to keep you a secret for a specific reason.Maybe he has another woman in his life that his parents DO know about.It wont look good on him if he brings home two girls to show to momma.I would tell him to tell his parents about you.If he tells you that he will later,ask him why he cant do it now.Dont let him off the hook,if he wont tell his parents about you,then you need to try and move on.If you want to get married to him,and his parents dont know about you,then how will they attend the wedding?Dont let him keep you a secret.
2007-03-13 20:50:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very bad sign. Unfortunately you will probably find out that his parents will certainly not approve of you and that is the reason he hasn't told them as he is also well aware of it. Force his hand; it's better to find out now how the land will lie rather than wait until you are totally committed to him emotionally.
2007-03-13 21:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by Number O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not really. What's the rush? People can hide who they are for quite some time. Better not to bring family in until there is a big committment. Just enjoy the relationship.
2007-03-13 20:48:29 · answer #5 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same prob i was even 8 mths pregnant been with him 2yrs and they didnt no about me and my kids.,how bad i felt that i ment so little just because they liked his ex who has a kid with and thought that they would go mad,we had an arguement one day so i went to his parents and told them the lot how shocked they were and his ex who went around there house with the grandkid every other day didnt even mention i was around and about to have another 1 of their grandchildren thats through jealousy.his parents have now split and i have another son with him and 4 previous who also wernt mentioned we have no contact with the mother but do the dad.long story but i felt bad and thought he was ashamed f me,sort it now before gets so out of control and harder as time goes by.
2007-03-13 20:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by easty90210 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes!! You definitely need to ask him why. Unless he speaks to his parents only once a year, there's no reason for him not to tell people.... other than a reason for you to get out of there now!
2007-03-13 20:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Sparklepop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how old you are but generally this is a bad sign.
2007-03-13 20:49:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a backup boyfriend just in case.
2007-03-13 20:47:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i was you i would want answers because if he's ashamed of you whats he doing with you. and if he's not ashamed did it slip his mind in all of the conversations he had with his family for a whole year?.
some-thing's not right!.
2007-03-13 21:32:38 · answer #10 · answered by Gilly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋