I want to know How I would know if We are ready to Go farther.. (if you know what I mean..) I have Know him for like 4 yrs now and we have just dated twice and I really love him, Alot. We have been alone plenty of times and havent done nothing, but I'm getting to where I want him to be my first. And I dont know how I could really tell if I'm sure about it. I need some advice also to tell me how I could also know If he really cares enough for me to stay with me if he does be my first. He tells me that he wants to marry me and everything. I would do anything for him. But I need help knowing 1. how to tell if I'm ready or not. 2. How to tell if he will stick with me if he does get to be my first. 3. And how to tell if its real love or not, I'm so confused. ------(he just turned 18 and I am almost 16)
2007-03-13 13:42:03 · 10 answers · asked by marcy w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are still very young. I would wait until you are married to make sure it is going to work.
2007-03-13 13:44:55 · answer #1 · answered by Steph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think this guy would want a lasting relationship with you if he knew you were only planning to label him your "first"? He deserves more than that and you deserve more than the "stick with me if he does get to be my first" option.
By all means continue dating each other if that's what you both want. You seem to have a close friendship and that's a great foundation for building a romantic relationship.
Yes you are confused at the moment BUT remember you are only 15 and he's only 18.
(If you are so determined to explore sex, with him or someone else, please educate yourself about using contraception and sexually-transmitted disease prevention.)
2007-03-13 22:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
break up with him for any other reason than sex, something like you dont want to be committed. if he goes out of his way to try and win u back you know that he is not a dirtbag, if he jumps in bed with the closest school slut then you know you made a good choice to wait. this is the only thing that you have the power to give someone, mak3e sure you are really sure.
2007-03-13 20:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by bert d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? If you have sex with him, that will become the focus of the relationship. That will come before anything else. And for what it's worth, guys that age can have sex with their hand and satisfy it better than they can you. Women put emotional meaning to sex and men just do not. This means way more to you than him and If he loves you, he loves you with or without the sex.
As I hope you are aware, there are great, serious risks to having sex at your age. Diseases you cannot see (and NEVER go away), unwanted pregnancy, infections...and just as important...the emotional damage you can suffer.
Life is difficult and confusing at your age, please consider waiting until you are SURE.
*and please don't think that giving him sex will make him love you more, I PROMISE it doesn't work that way!
2007-03-13 20:53:01 · answer #4 · answered by SouthernGrits 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely no way of predicting the future, you just gotta ask yourself, are there any better guys out there?
Of course, there's me, but we're not likely to meet :-)
Seriously, go with your gut, I mean, are you really going to spend your whole life with 1 guy anyway?
If you fancy him, you're in love, why not?
2007-03-13 20:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not for nothing but.. Your relationship is against the law. Once he turned 18, and your 16.. it's considered stachatory rape if you guys have sex. And whatever you choose to do, use protection.
2007-03-13 20:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by dralls4lyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care for one another...wait one more year, then when you are almost 17 think it over.
2007-03-13 20:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by nostromobb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not old enough....if you have to ask this question here you're not ready.....
besides its statutory rape for him in most states.
2007-03-13 20:44:43 · answer #8 · answered by vospire s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are confuse.. you are not ready... ENOUGH SAID!!!
2007-03-13 20:50:18 · answer #9 · answered by ~mother of 2 beautiful girls~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
:-)
2007-03-13 20:46:09 · answer #10 · answered by Instealer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋