I have gone out with this guy twice. We get along great but we made out on the first date and if I wouldnt have stopped him we would have had sex on the second. Heres the thing I am 20 and a virgin. I dont want to lose my virginity to some guy I barely know. Should i talk to him and if he pressures me just leave? I need this to slow down or I think I need to end it. I dont want just a physical relationship.
2007-03-13 13:39:07 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I stopped him at one point but I'm still worried i might keep being pressured. I want it to be special, not some random hook up after 2 dates.
2007-03-13 13:46:01 · update #1
im not waiting until marriiage but I want to wait longer than 2 dates!
2007-03-13 13:51:15 · update #2
Just tell him your not into that.............
2007-03-13 13:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very wise in what you are wanting to do. The gift you are wanting to hang onto will definitely be worth the hassle you are going to go through to keep it. Just about all young guys are going to give you a hard time about giving in physically. They normally will put more importance on a physical relationship than an emotional one. That is what immaturity is all about. You may have a problem with slowing him down. If you do manage to, you know it's going to be pushing him from the back of his mind because he has already tried. A guy that respects you will tell you up front that he will only take from you what you offer to him freely and stick to that promise. It is your call as to what you do here, but you need to be aware that most guys at your age will try whatever they can to get something physical from you more than being satisfied with an emotional connection.
2007-03-13 13:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congrats for knowing who you are and what you want, in terms of relationships and your virginity. I think you already know what you need to do, but perhaps you're just seeking support. So here is mine: Please please leave right away--he has already pressured you on the first and second dates; what makes you think he'll listen to you if you try to talk with him? I know you might have trouble believing this, but there are plenty of guys out there (in the "real world", not just in churches!) who share your belief and want to wait to get to know the woman they love instead of giving it up to "some girl." Don't feel bad about leaving this guy; the world is also full of "some girls" who have different views on their sexuality and will readily sleep with him. Don't feel like you have any obligation! You already know that you "need this to slow down." You have the power to put on the brakes for good--use it! You say you "get along great"--I know this sounds unlikely, but maybe he'd still make a good friend even after you remove the benefits. Yeah, it could be awkward, but maybe after awhile you'll develop a decent friendship. You sound like you're compatible in that way, if not sexually.
Good luck!
2007-03-13 13:52:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your life is going to get really lonely~
If you tell him to slow down he's going to leave you for another one who wont ever say those words to him~
20 years old is a bit old to not of had sex yet i mean we don't live in 1600 and that whole wait till that special person comes along or wait till you get married bullsh!t is so overrated~
Relationships are based on sex and a bunch of other stuff too but they are not nearly as important as sex so if you ever want to get involved with someone i mean seriously you should just give in and you'll realize your life will be much better!
2007-03-13 13:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he is not the right guy for you because it looks like that's all he's looking for in a relationship. I would leave him if I was you. Yes, talk to him and tell him how you feel.
2007-03-13 13:46:56 · answer #5 · answered by prettyting 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would do exactly what you just said here. You sound like you have your head on your shoulders. Don't just give your body away too fast to a guy. Let him earn it. Trust me, I've given myself to soon to a guy and so regretted it later. He only used me for that one thing and tossed me aside.
2007-03-13 13:43:34 · answer #6 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he aware you are a virgin ? does he know you are not ready ? you need to to make yourself clear and understood..No I don't think it is fair for you to just end it without even giving him a chance .. you need to express your feelings and then see how he responds and what he says ... you don't want him to assume that " you "are ready for sex ..don't assume "he "knows this...be fair to both of you.........last I do agree ..do not have sex with anyone until you really are sure ..less then that is not worth it ...
2007-03-13 13:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by connie b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like an ******
i wouldnt see him again and i would find someone who will not pressure me, ever!!!
oh and if u have stayed a virgin this long, congrats! but i think you should get married b4 loosing ur virginity anyway!!!
2007-03-13 13:44:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you've thought it out. Talk to him, and if he cares enough to establish a relationship, then see what happens. If he doesn't then leave him.
2007-03-13 13:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it and NOT in an intimate setting, you can't blame him if you haven't set any boundaries.
2007-03-13 13:43:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm...yea...i think you should talk to him and tell him how u feel and what u think about the whole thing...if he doesnt like it or doesnt understand dump him and get a guy who does...
2007-03-13 13:43:11 · answer #11 · answered by just_like_me_for_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋