ok i have about 80 family members and my boyfriend has 10, should we split the wedding cost that my parents pay for our guests and his parents pay for his guests, or 50/;50
2007-03-13 13:38:48 · 33 answers · asked by bar22bie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How about you pay for your own wedding!!
Thumbs up for me! As far as I am concerned, if you aren't stable enough to pay for a wedding, maybe you shouldn't be getting married.
This is the 21st century. Traditional rules don't apply anymore!
2007-03-13 13:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by April M 3 · 2⤊ 5⤋
Traditionally the brides family pays for the wedding. The grooms family usually hosts a rehersal dinner ( after the rehersal the night before the wedding) However, you can do it any way you want, especially if the grooms family has offered financial support.
But if what you have stated in your question is just your personal idea, I think it would be a bad one and possibly very offensive to the grooms family, even splitting the bill 50/50 between families. On the other hand, if it is you and fiance paying the bills, then that is quite acceptable. But as far as good manners goes, it has always been the brides family alone who pays this bill. There are many wedding websites that can give you the run down on who is expected to pay for what. I know it doesn't seem fair, but that's the way it is.
2007-03-13 13:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
Tradition says the brides family pays for the wedding...but now days I think it's just whoever can afford to pay for stuff. Weddings have become very fancy and upscale so you almost need more then one party to pay for things. There are many ways to cut corners and have a very nice wedding for not a lot of money.
2007-03-13 14:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the Brides family pays for the wedding....all of it...and the grooms parents pay for the rehearsal dinner. But nothing stops you from breaking from tradition...I guess I would speak with both sets of parents...and see if they want to contribute and if so, in what capacity. But to tell his parents they are going to pay 50%...when that is not how it is normally done...and then when they only have a small number of guests from their side...might be a bit out of order...then again...maybe they would want to...but if it were me...I'd say um...no thank you.
2007-03-13 13:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by ticklemeblue 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Listen! There is no rule on who pays for the wedding. Tradition has been that the bride's parents pay for the wedding BUT nobody knows where that tradition started.
A good communication between both parties will help.
2007-03-13 14:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding, the reception, the food, all that. The groom's family pays groom's cake, the rehearsal dinner, and that's it. I'm only talking about the wedding itself, what the families pay for; not what the bride herself or the groom himself pay for.
http://ourmarriage.com/html/who_pays_for_what.html
But that's traditionally.
You can alway make your own arrangements. But asking the groom's family to pay for their own guests is pretty tacky. And asking them to pay for half of yours is worse.
2007-03-13 13:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Traditionally the brides parents pay for the wedding the grooms for the rehearsel dinner. We paid for it all ourselves.
2007-03-14 01:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by Ladybugs77 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is tradition for alot of people to go along with who pays for what, but what me and my husband did was when we found out we were getting married, we bought everything together
2007-03-14 06:44:33 · answer #8 · answered by heidi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are so wrong. These days, couples pay for their own wedding, then that solves ALL the problems.
2007-03-13 23:57:55 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Traditionally, the bride's family pays for the wedding. The groom's family pays for the pre-wedding dinner and the honeymoon.
But, heck, it's 2007, let them pay 1/9th and your family pay 8/9ths.
2007-03-13 13:44:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
The brides family usually pays for the reception and grooms family pays for the rehearsal dinner. But anything goes. Congrats!!
2007-03-13 13:42:06 · answer #11 · answered by Proud Mommy of 2! 3 · 4⤊ 3⤋