Well there's a guy, and my friends say leave him alone catie he's just trying to hurt you, but idk i dated him for a year and a half and know he has a new girlfriend and he says he loves her, and that he wants to marry her but he is only 16 , but he tells me he loves me 2 like as a friend way though, and that he no's that him and her are gonna break up one day and if where close than maybe would could have something. but idk i cry everynight trying to get him back into my life but i no in my heart that there is a 50% chance that he may come back to me, and a 50% chance that he wont. i just need help really badly i havent talked to him since last monday, but its just killing me not talking to him, he looks at me in the hallways and looks at me like he's sorry for doing this to me. but im confused what he wants from me.
2007-03-13 13:33:30 · 16 answers · asked by Catiet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he's a LOSAH! get on with your life. Go to the mall, find a NEW crush. I know u like him, but ur wasting your life crying over some STUPID boy. Think about this. If you are wasting every night crying about him for one HOUR, in a week thats seven hours. In two weeks that's fourteen. In a month, 28 HOURS! imagine a year?336 HOURS! what could you do in that time?
have like 30 sleepovers with ur friends
go snowboarding
read abunch of good books
finish homework
do makeup
You sound really upset, but you need a kick in the pants. Get over him. Wait it out. If you just can't stop thinking about him, as I always say... MAKE HIM JEALOUS!
hang out with a new guy and then if he's really jealous, he will realize his true feelings.
LOVE ME or what? I tell it like it is, sistah.
2007-03-13 13:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by verleybe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that it will be hard to do so but let him go. We have all gone through something like this in our lives or soon will. This will be something that you will be able to look back on. He could feel that he made a mistake and he could be trying to have you hold on just in case it doesn't work out thinking you will always be there. You have a life time of dating. Get over him and start looking into new things. Hope all goes well.
2007-03-13 20:44:24 · answer #2 · answered by btjuana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to find strength in yourself. "He is just not into you." No big deal. Its not his fault and it's not yours. At 16...it probably just isn't meant to be....as well as him and his new gf. If he does marry her, it'll be only because he has knocked her up. They will continue to pretend to have a great marriage, then have a few more accidental babies, and bother get fat and divorce. Don't worry about it. IF you and him were meant to be, it will come in time. You don't want to get with one of your first bf's anyway, its a waste. You'll end up getting married and after 10 years regret it because you have only slept with one person your whole life and you will always wonder what it would be like to be with someone else. If he is your "SOUL mate" (very rarely do you find this so easily in HS) then you two will find your way back to each other when you are ready. Its time for you to move on. If he wants to be your friend...he'll see you no longer care about his new gf and it will make him sad that you are no longer into him, or will make him happy you have moved on.
2007-03-13 20:42:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's keeping you close "in case" his other relationship ends ???? !!!! This guy is a player and has no respect for you at all. If he cared about the way you feel he would never keep you hangin on .... waiting around for him. If his currant g/f dumps him then he comes back to you until someone else comes along .... then you're on the waiting list again ?!. That is so wrong. Move on to something better ..... if he was saying that he wanted more from you then you'd still be together. Take care : )
2007-03-13 21:03:22 · answer #4 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok first listen to your friends. Leave this guy alone. I dont know about the hurting you on purpose, I mean he's a 16 year old, he's just living his life. He made it clear to you...he loves you...just as a FRIEND...when you come to realize that...when you come to face it then the healing will begin. You have to let him go. There is two ways for this to end; you let him go and open the door for that right person to come in or you let him go and live your life dating and having fun and then he'll realize that you really are what he needs. You have to understand that he is young and so are you. the thing about us girls is when we "love" someone we LOVE him with all of our being...unfortunately even if he's not the 1...You have to enjoy life because growing up in this corrupt world without God and without enjoyment will crush you. You are in my prayers. Don't worry.
2007-03-13 20:50:06 · answer #5 · answered by pooks2825 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate seeing this happen to nice girls. Honey, you are the spare. You are the fallback position in case things don't work out with the girl he really wants. He doesn't love you -- a guy who did wouldn't treat you that way. And if you loved yourself better, you wouldn't put up with it. I won't say that you shouldn't be friends with this guy, but you do need to realize that friendship is all you can expect from him. Move on before he hurts you worse.
2007-03-13 20:44:37 · answer #6 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very clear that he does not want you. Mind you, he's very honest in telling you that he'll keep you at arm's lenght in case the girls he truly likes dump him, or ignore him.
He'll still have you as a back-up, second best, or something to do when he has nothing else to do.
It's up to you. Let him use you and be miserable or actually do something for yourself and forget about him. You'll see how happy and well you'll be when you make that decision.
2007-03-13 20:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by sweetwat3rmelon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it's like this: turnabout's fair play. He wants you to hang around so that if he blows it with this other girl, he can come running to you. Your friends are right, he is trying to hurt you. Yes, I know, both of you are young, but you seriously need to find a boyfriend of your own so that you can tell your ex that he missed the boat, so he'd better learn to swim by himself. Really. He's dragging you around, and you deserve better. Okay? So get out there and live for yourself, not for him.
2007-03-13 20:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a headcase !!!!
he only wants to keep u around in case things fall through with this new chick!!!
the best way to get over a guy is to hang out with your family and friends... try new things and try and always smile!!!
coz your young and beleive me there are going to be plenty more guyz that are going to like you and im sure u will like....
i like to always think of carma.. i know it sounds kind of gay but just watch and see.. u will get your life on track find someone new etc.... and hes life will fall apart.. it always happens!
2007-03-13 20:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by *L-I-V-E* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a player. He shouldn't be playing with his girlfriend's heart or yours either. He's saying that he still kind of likes you. I think he's just going out with this girl because of a physical attraction he has. Don't interfere with them though; they might break up in time. Your friends are right too.
2007-03-13 20:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by kb293 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋