my boyfriend and i have got some obstacles to get over. he has told me a few weeks back that he has a heart problem, he's only 17 but he said he was born with it. not only that, he tells me last night that its genetic, so having a family is out of the question, which is sad for me because i've always wanted a family....he also let me know that he doesn't believe in god, but i do....we are so different, but the thing is that makes all this hard is the fact that i love him, i really do love him. i just can't see myself being with anyone else. what should i do? this is breaking my heart.... :-(
2007-03-13 13:25:59 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you want to be happy in life, you need to be with a man that can take care of his family, and someone who doesn't believe in God can't do that... you need to let him know how much you care about your life, and how much God is a part in your life... there are some things he needs to do before you even think of a family, and that is a big one...
as for the heart problem, that is minor in the big picture... let him grow up a bit and stop using his disbelief in our Heavenly Father get you down, you can still love him... but like a brother or friend, not a Eternal partner, not until he gets his priorities straight... ask your brothers what they think about your predicament and i'm sure they'll have some help...
2007-03-13 15:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is tough. Both partners in the relationship sometimes have to compromise to make room for the others needs and wants. It sounds to me like you and him need to have a long talk. How bad is his heart problem? Even if it's genetic, it doesn't necessarily mean it will immediately affect your offspring and ruin their lives. Cancer is genetic in many families, but people still have kids anyway.
If you left him now because you really want a family, he might be really hurt. He may get over it over time and find somebody else, but it will take a while.
I'm not very religious, so I don't know what to tell you about the conflicting beliefs.
Finally, you mentioned he was 17. That, to me, means you're a high school couple. I'm sorry to say it, but high school sweethearts don't usually get married. Sometimes, but not usually. Just enjoy the time you're having with him now. It's way too early in your life to be thinking about marriage and kids, at least, that is if you don't want to struggle paying for the expenses that accompany it for the rest of your life. Get yourself a college degree and a good career, then think more seriously about settling down with that special someone.
2007-03-13 20:35:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hard, hard. You are so young. Your supposed to be enjoying life. WHY doesn't he believe in God? I'm glad that he is being honest with you but I also think you shouldn't subject yourself for a lifetime of letdowns. Relationships are 100%-100% not 50%-50% or 80%-20% . It sounds like you are giving more to this than he is.
If the love is strong enough and he is willing to compromise, adoption could always be considered.
Good luck.
2007-03-13 20:36:43 · answer #3 · answered by little lu-lu 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!!!
Loving him or not, that is NOT really the question!!!!
The question is why are you asking, something that you should know???? Being a Christian, you shouldn't be involve with some one that don't believe in GOD.
That is like going against all odds. Because you believe, but he doesn't. So are you planning to live a miserable life??
As you are walking in the light of GOD and he is living in the darkness, of Satan???
My advise leave him, and try to meet other people that follows GOD's faith, and GOD"s law's. Your life will be much more fruitful, and happier, as oppose trying constantly to save his soul.
You said it yourself, you are sooo different that even you notice!!! Give yourself the chance to be who you really are a child of GOD, being with someone that is NOT is costly,......
YEAH!!! It can cost you your salvation!!!!
Pray for him, and then let GOD take care of him. But do yourself a favor and stop following him!!!
Instead follow GOD, and HE will take you to a man of GOD, who will make you and your future children happy.
GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE
A.Z.
2007-03-13 20:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your feeling towards him is mutual then love him and be happy in love. A child can be adopted. But according to the latest medical news after the child is born with cardiac anomaly (normally young mothers know about that after the very first ultrasonic investigation of the fetus is conducted)a cardiac surgery can be easily and successfully carried out with no bad subsequences. Chins up!
2007-03-13 21:08:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your young. Planning so far into your future is not really worth it. You never know you may not feel like you will but you may grow apart in the future. You are going to change a lot the next couple of years and a lot of big decisions will have to be made. Just try and live in the now. Life is to short to worry about tomorrow and the future.
2007-03-13 20:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Marge F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you do believe in God, say your prayers because you are going to need lots of them to make this work. Here's a cyber hug from me to you: Uggggggh!!! God bless you, sweetie.
2007-03-13 20:30:09 · answer #7 · answered by bombastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why do you think you cant have children??? there are all sorts of things you can do today to ensure that the genetic traits are not passed down ---- i saw something that i felt was so profound --- what is more important your relationship or your beliefs (and that applies to both people and not just about religion)
best wishes and hugsss
2007-03-13 20:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by trader1867 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. Adopt
2. Love him
3. Hug
2007-03-13 20:30:13 · answer #9 · answered by guitarist101damon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's 17 and you are...?
You are young. If it is meant to be, you will be together, and if not, Mr. Right is out there waiting to be discovered.
2007-03-13 20:29:53 · answer #10 · answered by Go Bears! 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋