First of all i want to apologize for how long this is i am just VERY UPSET
this is the story...My best friend had 2 house parties at her house. She told me to my face that she was having them but wouldn't invite me. I got really hurt by this! She told me the reason's why she didn't want to invite me were because certain people dis-liked me. I really got upset by this and wrote her this note out of a bit "of anger"
So Angie wouldn't invite me to two of her parties because "other people there" didn't like me. And because i guess she's so concerned with what other people think about her. She's so concerned with what other people think she'll do whatever to fit in! It doesn't matter if she's hurting someone else what matters is what other people think about her. Well...Angie I have invited you to EVERY PARTY every EVENT I've ever had at my house and now you go and tell me that because someone doesn't "like me" you aren't going to invite me? That's f*** up. Some of my friends didn't like "someone" (cough) you know who I'm talking about! But i invited her anyways because you know what I'M NOT SOMEONE WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!!! I DON'T CARE!!! And if they don't like that person DEAL WITH IT! Why should one person NOT be invited because another person doesn't like them...i hope in college you learn to grow up!!
2007-03-13 13:24:53 · 16 answers · asked by LiL Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my question is..is what i said mean and cold hearted i wasn't trying to be...here was her response to what i said....
2007-03-13 13:25:20 · update #1
told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated you... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just read u'r post again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.
2007-03-13 13:25:48 · update #2
'm sorry now i feel awful about what i said!! But i feel so hurt about everything. I'm crying right now. Mind you I'm a senior in high school right now! I don't know what to do i feel so awful am i a cold hearted person? PLEASE HELP PLEASE I'M SORRY IF THIS SOUNDS STUPID i feel stupid posting it. I'm just really upset and crying!! I don't know who else to talk to i'm sorry!!
2007-03-13 13:26:24 · update #3
some more of what she wrote to me
lright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.
2007-03-13 13:26:55 · update #4
I'm really sorry this is so long i REALLY AM! Please note that i did run track for 2 years!! And she had 2 PARTIES and that one of them consisted of my "best friend" but not me being there and NOBODY from the cross country (XC) team! She had one party for (XC) and one for non-xc people
2007-03-13 13:27:55 · update #5
Take some deep breaths.
Get a new friend.
It sounds like you clung to her and she was trying to get rid of you somehow. Takke it as a hint that one of the people who don't like you that much is Angie.
The fact you don't have anyone else to turn to speaks volumes.
Sorry; not all life's problems have good answers.
2007-03-13 13:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ever seen the movie, "bad boys 2" where martin lawrence is doing the ear-rubbing scene saying "ooza" to calm down and relax... well, first, do that, it'll help....
feel better? ok, good, now i'll give my advice...
it is VERY difficult being in high school, and it seemed that my circle of friends had A LOT of drama... than my family moved and i slowly let go of the drama... but in your case, unless your family is moving~ you can't do that...
so my advice~ extend your circle of friends. join a club/ organization that has many qualities you have, or want to have for the future.
you're a senior, so instead of focusing so much on your friends who sound as if they have a good dose of maturing to do, get prepared for after high school. look into colleges, or join a volunteer group, just get out and enjoy your final high school year a little.
i wish you the best of luck, remember, 20 or so years from now, you'll look back and shake your head and say, "damn, that was just a childish thing to get upset about."
2007-03-13 20:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by rachel c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is hard to hear, but I'll be honest with my opinion. This girl is not your friend. A friend does not treat another the way this girl is treating you. They also do not justify it by using something that happened in 4th grade. Now is the time for self-respect and taking care of yourself. Go spend time with people who want to spend time with you. Put a smile on your face, get your personal strength moving, and live your life. This girl IS NOT your friend. I think you already know that.
2007-03-13 20:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by Jaymo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww baby. I know it's hard 4 your friend 2 not invite u, but she should have some space 2 be woth her own friends, and maybe the case was that she was afraid that u wouldnt fit in.. I feel that way about the different groups of friends i have sometimes.. but u need 2 give her some space. (im not on anyones side)
2007-03-13 20:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by raven22229 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, way too much drama! Calm the F*** down! She apologized...she admitted that maybe she should of handled it better. She thought that maybe you would of felt uncomfortable...I don't know it sounds like she did not mean to do it. Forgive her and move on. Stop blowing things out of proportion. No one is perfect and you need to learn how to calm down before you get all hysterical. If people do not like you that's their problem, but you have to realize that maybe you are doing something to turn people off. No one likes a DRAMA QUEEN.
2007-03-13 21:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by asiansmile 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even tho what the person did about the party thing was majorly ****** up i think that u should forgive the person this once but if the person does it again i would rethink the friendship because that doesnt seem like sumthing a real friend would do....(i cant believe i read that all!)...i dont even know what the question about it was....did you put it in there?
2007-03-13 20:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by just_like_me_for_me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, drama. You must be in high school. First off, grow up. Who cares if you don't get invited to some lame @ss party? Secondly, don't bother to be her friend. Hello, if someone treat you like crap, why bother with them??? Don't invite her to your parties and don't talk to her, don't even acknowledge that she exists.You just want to fit in with some crappy clique. You know, as soon as graduation comes, popularity means nothing.
2007-03-13 20:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Violation Notice 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea sorry too. i didn't really read it all. that is so messed up
!!! to the tenth power major! if she really cared about you she would invite you. you did do things for her. and besides that was fourth grade how old are you guys??? friends are there for each other. I have been in your shoes. well if there is anything else you want to say i am here to listen.
2007-03-13 20:35:20 · answer #8 · answered by muse vero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say sorry to her, but mind you, she has some faults to.You all nbeed to take a good break from one another and just chill! Later you can talk about it; this isn't worth destroyinmg a friendship for.
2007-03-13 20:30:55 · answer #9 · answered by Cara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be upset, coz your problem is not that serious! These things happens in life, and with everyone.
So, just forget it, if she didn't invited you, then just to hell with it, why your crying? Why your hurting your self? Just don't give a damn sweety.
2007-03-13 20:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋