however, now we decided not to marry(jointly) but he still wants us to move to ohio. i just started college again(i am 34) and he is upset because he says i am breaking my promise what do you think?
2007-03-13 13:20:43 · 15 answers · asked by johnnabattles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you move to Ohio with a guy you dont want to marry and who doesnt want to marry you? Why waste your time with a relationship that is going nowhere, your education is more important at this point, let him go.
2007-03-14 07:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by JAEB81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmmmmmm! It seems the deal was to get married and move to Ohio after you agreed to move in with him. But your plans had changed mutually at first, the no marriage part but the Ohio part was not mu tally agreed to call off(technically) You could explain too him that you would like to complete at least this semester and that you assumed with the marriage idea called off the rest would also. I also would advise you to speak to him about why the bee line to Ohio, is it a career move, or a personnel move?
Bottom line: You both decided not to get married, but you should have worked out other aspects of that promise once it was determined that you didn't want to marry each other. Completing your education is an important step for you and going to Ohio maybe one for him. It maybe time for either you both to compromise once again or go your separate ways.
2007-03-13 20:34:04 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would anyone wan't to move to a state as lame as ohio?
Besides for what ever reason you 2 decided not to marry so the deal is off
2007-03-13 20:25:50 · answer #3 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think ur breaking a promise from what u just said u only agreed to move with him after u got married and since u didnt get married the promise is void
2007-03-13 20:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You agreed to void the contract when you decided not to get married (jointly.)
2007-03-13 20:23:57 · answer #5 · answered by Vegan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I think if you dont feel ready you shouldnt marry (kinda weird answering this question since im too young) anyways marriage is a big step and you should finish your studies first. That's what I think. Good luck
2007-03-13 20:26:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's lying. If he wanted to marry you, he would have done so. The year-long "trial" was just a way to get free sex. You probably cooked more than he did during that year, too.
Tell him "Sorry. Life sucks." Get on with yours. Don't waste another year.
2007-03-13 20:26:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anne Jovie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if he loves you then he would support you continuing your education. Besides, you didn't sign a contract. You made a "deal", that it sounds like he came up with, that didn't work out, so it doesn't matter. Finish college.
2007-03-13 20:25:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, u broke ur promise...but u cant get a job without college. and if u guys brake up ur screwed because u wont have a college degree so u can get a good job.
2007-03-13 20:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by brittt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try and find a compromise? For example go to college in Ohio :)
2007-03-13 20:23:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋