2007-03-13 13:15:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
If money is not a factor, but people tell you that statistically a marriage will last longer if you wait to have kids after the first 12 months.
2007-03-13 13:27:10 · update #1
It's personal choice. If you feel both you and your husband are ready mentally and financially then by all means go for it. Think about it this way. Is there anything that you want to do this first year. Big trip, go back to school, large purchase etc. Then I suggest you get all that out of the way. I had a baby with in the first 2 months of marriage.We got married Oct 04 and our son came Dec 04. Even if I could go back and change things I wouldnt.
2007-03-13 13:21:50 · answer #1 · answered by aprildc82 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should wait a year. The fist year of marriage is such an adjustment Period.
I had my son 9 months after getting married then found out I was pregnant again 4 months after that.
We almost got divorced it was SO hard on both of us. I felt so tired, I was up all night every night, and my husband lost about 50 pounds.
I am so glad we made it through the first year because now we are great. We are now having our 3rd baby and very happy. My boys are 3 and 4.
2007-03-13 20:30:57 · answer #2 · answered by mary R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you above 32? If not wait a year or two
If you do not have the age and egg thing, whole off children
I was 25 when I got married. We had our child in our 30's.
I do not think you need to wait many year.
Take a few years and travel and have fun being a couple.
You are young, taking a couple of years for being a couple is good for your marriage
Money is not the issue. It's the vacations and couple time once children comes you put off for years.
2007-03-13 21:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about the statistics, but I know I wish I would have waited a little longer to have children. It would have been nice to be able to just be a couple for a while- really relax with each other and be free from the burden children bring for a few years before growing our family.
2007-03-13 20:32:36 · answer #4 · answered by Robin J. Sky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say talk it over and if it something you both really want to do then i don't see why not, but it could also be good to wait, I am 18 and I have 2 beautiful girls I wouldn't trade them for the world, i am so happy and grateful for them but sometimes I do wish I waited a little longer me and my fiance have almost no alone time, its hard to even find time to talk! we have to wait untill late at night when the girls are asleep and whisper so we don't wake them, We do not go out to the movies or dinner anymore, are lives are pretty much revolve around the girls, Also can you handle it financially, babies are EXPENSIVE!!!!
2007-03-13 20:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by loca_mami13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are currently pregnant, and got married last June. So far no regrets, I think it has brought us closer together, when the baby kicks dad its so amazing. This was right for us, but may not be right for everyone. We werent sure if we wanted to wait either, but once we were married, and I quit smoking, it seemed like a good time to start our family. We are not old, but not really young either, 26 & 28. I want to be done having my babies around 30, so it made sence for us. You will know when its the right time. Enjoy your time together, but dont wait just because everyone thinks you should.
2007-03-13 22:35:37 · answer #6 · answered by krickee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, the first year is crazy enough getting used to each other and your habits even if you lived together before marriage. You really don't wont to throw prego symptoms into the mix. Wait at least a year.
2007-03-13 23:49:24 · answer #7 · answered by brie33103 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True. Enjoy being able to have romantic evenings with your husband. Enjoy going on a few vacations together. Enjoy sleeping through the night with only each other to interact with. Enjoy dancing when you want to, cooking intimate meals for your husband and friends. Dress up and feel pretty and not tired. Let your husband enjoy the quiet house you share and you and he spend some quality time together. THEN have kids.
2007-03-17 18:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say unless you are older and need to get pregnant before your eggs get old or something. Then I would say wait a year, from my personal experience of getting pregnant 3 weeks after getting married and having a baby before our first anniversary. I would have waited a year, looking back on it.
2007-03-13 20:30:31 · answer #9 · answered by mommyem 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not wait and enjoy married life before bringing a baby into the picture. That way you have time to enjoy each other and have fun without worrying about a child.
2007-03-13 20:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by *COCO* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋