My father and I are as close as any parent and child can be. He is my best friend and I can tell him 99.9% of anything. However, my father also has a short fuse and sometimes some things will happen and he will go flying. My mother is a chronic liar... For eleven years I lived with her and saw my father on weekends. He worked far away so it was hard to see him alot. Anyway, he finally got a better job which paid more $$ and so we sold our house and bought a new one where we now have our horses here... The other day, my father was not home and I was very busy and it was my turn to give the horses hay, but I did not have time. WHen he asked me if I did it i swore up and down I did. I didn't want to tell him no because it is one of the things he will get extremely upset about, when he got back he realized that I didnt, and now is telling me that I am just like my mother, and that he gave me everything and that I gave him nothing in return but a signal to say that he is a moron. He is now
2007-03-13 13:07:37 · 7 answers · asked by Horselover 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
now not talking to me or admiting to my existance. This is honestly my first time lying to him, but when I tell him that he does not believe me. Help I do not know what to say or do!!!
2007-03-13 13:09:12 · update #1
By lying about something so important you triggered bad memories in him about your mother. You need to write him a letter apologizing and telling him thats the last thing you want to be. Tell him you didnt realize how much a lie could hurt and that you learned a good lesson and that he is very important to you and youre sorry. Remind him that you are not your mother and that you will not go thru life being a chronic liar and that youre glad you have him to help you.
2007-03-13 14:14:04 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your Dad your sorry and that you know you made a mistake. Keep talking and working on breaking down the wall between you. He won't stay mad and then you can tell him that you don't want to lie like that and won't do it in the future. I would explain why you lied and that you are aware of why it happened and that you will make sure not to make the mistake again. My husbands Mom is a chronic liar but he hasn't followed in her footsteps even though she raised him. You don't have to be like your Mom either.
2007-03-13 21:05:05 · answer #2 · answered by chknoxtn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him flat out that you shouldn't have lied to him, but did not want to upset him. Let him know you've never done it before and will not do it again - even if it will upset him. That is all you can do.
2007-03-13 20:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u've broken his trust and it will take time to fix it but in time he will trust u again and i would always be honest with him at all cost telling the truth is always better than telling a lie even if the truth gets u in trouble
2007-03-13 20:30:36 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is just hay, do something that will prove to him that you are trust worthy and get back on his good side. Like cleaning something that he is supposed to clean before he does. He will eventually forgive and forget.
2007-03-13 20:28:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if he won't talk to you you can talk to him expain why you did it and that you care so much about him that you didn't want to upset him. maybe if you tell him how truely sorry you are he will understand and forgive you
2007-03-13 20:17:40 · answer #6 · answered by MECD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe if you and your dad are that close, this "wall" will collapse soon if you talk to him. your really lucky to be that close. hope everything clears up!
2007-03-13 20:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Nataly L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋