this is the story...My best friend had 2 house parties at her house. She told me to my face that she was having them but wouldn't invite me. I got really hurt by this! She told me the reason's why she didn't want to invite me were because certain people dis-liked me. I really got upset by this and wrote her this note out of a bit "of anger"
So Angie wouldn't invite me to two of her parties because "other people there" didn't like me. And because i guess she's so concerned with what other people think about her. She's so concerned with what other people think she'll do whatever to fit in! It doesn't matter if she's hurting someone else what matters is what other people think about her. Well...Angie I have invited you to EVERY PARTY every EVENT I've ever had at my house and now you go and tell me that because someone doesn't "like me" you aren't going to invite me? That's f*** up. Some of my friends didn't like "someone" (cough) you know who I'm talking about! But i invited her anyways because you know what I'M NOT SOMEONE WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!!! I DON'T CARE!!! And if they don't like that person DEAL WITH IT! Why should one person NOT be invited because another person doesn't like them...i hope in college you learn to grow up!!
2007-03-13 13:04:53 · 5 answers · asked by LiL Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my question is..is what i said mean and cold hearted i wasn't trying to be...here was her response to what i said....
2007-03-13 13:05:14 · update #1
i told u the god d*mn reason... maybe i thought u'd be uncomfortable... i still remember during 4th grade at Julie's birthday part you were down in her basement CRYING because you fet like everyone hated you... well u know who came down there to see if you were okay... oh yea! that was ME!!!!!!!!! i tried to ******* help you... MAYBE i thought u'd be uncomfortable with the people at the party and i didn't want u to get upsest and start crying again... if u actually think of it... i was trying to help you! so i'm sorry if u think i hate you but i don't... you just take things the wrong way and your going to tell ME to grow up! wow.... let's just read u'r post again and see who should grow up and try and learn what people are trying to do to help you. and HELL people go behind my back all the time... that's life... it WILL happen so sorry.
2007-03-13 13:06:15 · update #2
I'm sorry now i feel awful about what i said!! But i feel so hurt about everything. I'm crying right now. Mind you I'm a senior in high school right now! I don't know what to do i feel so awful am i a cold hearted person? PLEASE HELP PLEASE I'M SORRY IF THIS SOUNDS STUPID i feel stupid posting it. I'm just really upset and crying!! I don't know who else to talk to i'm sorry!!
2007-03-13 13:07:05 · update #3
some more of what she wrote to me
lright u want the truth???? the truth is that i felt you were out of place and i didn't know if you would fit in with the people at my party... hell u dont' even KNOW any of my xc friends except for kat but that's one out of like 10. and my other friends i dont' know if u'r friends and that group of friends that i have we have the same exact people at our parties it's not like it's anything new all of their parties i'm mostly invited to and my party they are invited to so i'm sorry if i thought it would be weird. oh and that's the other thing i DIDN'T tell you that i was having a party because i didn't want to hurt u'r feelings but i should have known it would come out sooner or later... and how many times do i have to say sorry beacuse i will say that i am sorry i told you i was sorry like a hundred times so i don't know what you want me to say.
2007-03-13 13:16:35 · update #4
I'm sorry this is so long i'm really sorry to anybody it annoys i'im sorry! I'm just so upset right now!! I just i have been having a lot of issues and this is like my breaking point! I'm sorry!!
2007-03-13 13:17:10 · update #5
one more thing to add i know some of the girls that went and NONE of them were on the xc team NONE! i'm so upset i'm sorry!
2007-03-13 13:19:07 · update #6
My best friend and I have gone through things like this as well. What you guys have to do is just sit down and talk things out until you both agree on what to do next. I know it's not fun, but if you still want to be friends, you have to talk it out. I'm not big into talking, but after my best friend and I have a big falling out, it feels good to talk about it and come to even terms. But don't remember to figure out a way to fix the problem before you guys call it even or what not. If you ever need to talk you can email me. b_ridge_it12@yahoo.com Good luck with you and your friend!
2007-03-13 13:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by b_ridge_it122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just slow down. The first thing I want you to do is take a deep breath and let it out slowly. If that does not stop the crying then do it again. Now we can talk. Yes you have some right to be concerned but not to a great extent. Remember she said that she was trying to think of you and did not want you to be upset because others were there who might not like you. Can you see her point of view? You should thank her for thinking of that for you, but tell her next time to ask you first if it would bother you to be there with those other people. Just let it go for now and move on, but don't ruin your friendship because of miscommunication.
EM me if you need any more advice.
2007-03-13 20:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Really, I'm Fine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, even if you're in HS, you're still young, and your friend really was a kind of ****. So you went off on her, which is kind of natural for anyone of any age, really. She made you feel bad for being pissed? Maybe she wouldn't have had to make you feel bad for being pissed if she hadn't bothered pissing you off in the first place. Seriously, if she didn't want to invite you to this party, she didn't have to tell you about it, did she? You're right, she does need to grow up. But there's no good reason for you to get bent all out of shape because of this. If you're both seniors in HS, I'd say it's time to leave this "friendship" behind because it sounds like your friend's ready to go her own way. I know it's hard, but you'll get over it. Trust me, I've been through it, as have many others; we're still here, and we're better for the learning experience. Okay? So calm down, turn on the stereo, and think for yourself for a bit. It'll be easy once you set your mind to it. But don't obsess; that'll get you nowhere. Okay?
2007-03-13 20:17:17 · answer #3 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be sorry u told the truth and if the truth hurts so be it she doesnt sound like anyone i'd want for a friend and u dont need her for a friend either and if she got pissed what u wrote her i guess the truth does hurt u can make all the excuses she can think of but what she did was unthinkable to do to a friend honey ur much to good for her i'd advice u to find a different friend and tell her to get lost and u dont hve to be nice about it ..... ur very right what people think does mean more to her than friendship never but never would i ever think about doing to a friend of mine what she did to u its unexcusable ur way to good for her she has no idea what being a friend is about so forget her and find a true friend something she'll never be
2007-03-13 20:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by Robert C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you have written is not bad nor cold hearted dont feel this way! cheer up!!!!!!!!!!!!!. you have the right to express how YOU feel and you have done this extremely well.As for your friend think about it she really isnt a true friend and you dont need that in your liufe forget about her and her group that dis like you.You know what move on and make a new group of friends , a group that will like you for who you are and not judge or backstab you. Girls are very bitchy as we all know, so dont stick around or let this group of girls bother or hurt you anymore . hold your head high your better than that..... Cheer up shes not worth crying over and you know something else karma will come back and bite her on her ***!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!.smile ok.... i hope this has helped you a bit....
2007-03-13 20:22:20 · answer #5 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋