I fell in love with a guy right before I left NYC, and he wanted me to stay but he didn't ask me to, so I left. Then, we kept in touch for a year and went out long-distance, but because of this initial misunderstanding, we both tried a lot but didn't really understand the other person really cared. Then, we split up in a terrible situation. For the past year, we have barely been speaking, but in the last week, we began to talk, and it seemed that we might get back together. I thought it was going well, but we had a rough discussion last Friday which I think was important, because we were finally able to understand what had gone wrong, but he wrote me last night and said, "I feel like I don't feel like talking like we used to. I feel different about our conversations. I used to like talking but I guess because of the gap in time and time passed things have changed, logically. Anyway, I duno what you want to do." I feel horrible, and I am unsure how or whether to respond. Any thoughts?
2007-03-13 12:58:37 · 9 answers · asked by calliope 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him the truth, that you still enjoy the conversations and you hope he changes his mind about it, but if he doesnt that you consider him to be important to you.
2007-03-13 13:02:17 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel a little awkward since it has been a while since you last talked to each other. You probably feel like you have grown apart. The thing is, if the both of you really want to make it work, then you will talk it out. You should be open with him and tell him what you feel, because if you end your relationship with him at least you know that you gave it your all and you can walk away satisfied. Don't ignore the situation and not respond, because you will probably kick yourself later if you don't.
2007-03-13 13:11:27 · answer #2 · answered by lala84 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, long distance relationships are a waste of time unless you can see each other regularly and a resolution to the long distance thing is in sight. If you are thinking of carrying on a long distance relationship indefinately, reconsider. Why not just be friends til one of you moves closer? Why be romantically involved with someone who is NEVER there??
Additionally, he's stated pretty clearly his feelings have changed. I'd choose to just be friends, if something happens in the future, fine, but leave your other options open as well.
2007-03-13 13:04:06 · answer #3 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. Do you need such a noncommitted and ambiguous person in your life?
You say you both tried a lot. It could not have been all that lot if you still don't know where you stand with this guy.
A good man does not play games with you or your feelings and he does not give you the run around.
2007-03-13 13:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by Imogen Sue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,no because you could just be friends.You could tell him that the next time you write and if he's a good guy he'll understand.If not,Just stop talking to him.
2007-03-13 13:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you still like him alot, but you aren't one to hold a person in a relationship where they feel uncomfortable.
2007-03-13 13:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont feel bad, you grew apart. nothing is wrong with that, it happens to the best of us. stay strong
2007-03-13 13:01:24 · answer #7 · answered by anthony10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop talking to him! move on with you life and meet new people
2007-03-13 13:23:25 · answer #8 · answered by robinsondancer14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should he probably has a new GF!
2007-03-13 13:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by some girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋