My first intro to my girlfriend was her leading me around in a head lock at a party. I met her a second time and she apologised and said she was drunk and did it for a bet with a girl who didn't believe that girls in the US learnt wrestling. We got talking and started going out. Everything was fine for a while. Then she started pinning me down during sex. That part I quite enjoyed. However, now she is using her wrestling skills to force me to accept her viewpoint in every case. Where we go, what shows we watch, what I wear, who does the housework, etc. If I disagree, it's an instant head lock, arm lock, crush between her thighs, smother, etc, until I am forced to agree with her. I still enjoy her dominant style of sex, but I am worried that she is controlling me in every aspect of our relationship. Should I get out of this before it's too late?
2007-03-13 12:56:48 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
May be I am a wuss, but believe me this girl is very skillful. I don't think I am every likely to out wrestle her any time soon. The keep it to the bedroom idea sounds good.
2007-03-13 13:14:55 · update #1
I'm getting a bit fed up with the guys who just say fight back and sort her out. They clearly don't believe that it is possible for a lady to beat a man. I suggest they try taking on a female black belt in some martial art and see how far they get. Skill does matter, and she is a lot more skillful than me.
2007-03-14 08:05:46 · update #2
I went with the suggestion to talk to her. I explained that I wasn't comfortable with the way things are going and suggested that she keeps the one sided wrestling to the bedroom. She said that if I like being dominated in the bedroom then I have to accept some domination in the rest of the relationship. I could see her point. She said that she would tone things down a bit, and agreed to compromise sometimes, but she still wanted to make all the key decisions, like house purchases, etc. I am comfortable with that. I enjoy her being dominant in the bedroom, and I don't mind her pinning me down outside the bedroom to settle an argument so long as it is only occassionally. Some people will call me a wimp, but hey, each to his own. I am very happy with the situation I'm in now.
2007-03-14 08:16:23 · update #3
Perhaps you suggest she keeps it to the bedroom, if she wont, run...run very fast!!!
2007-03-13 13:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow it doesnt seem like she has much respect for you and no one deserves to be pushed around like that! You need to tell her to stop it and that it makes you feel embarrassed and upset, if she does not listen to you then yes you really need to consider where this relationship is going . It is certainly not a healthy one, realtionships should be a two way stream both being shared between two people who can compromise, not being controlled by one who just likes to push around the other. Find some self respect and stand up to her...... be a man! Good luck.
2007-03-13 20:05:45 · answer #2 · answered by littlemisssaigon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should get "out" but you should ACT like the man in the relationship and comfront her. I know it's hard to imagine yourself saying "stop acting like the man in this relationship and I wish we could be on a more equal level" but trust me, as hard as it is to say, she will see you on a new level, someone who will stand up for himself and will maybe find it to be attractive! Just make sure you don't say it too rude though becuase under it all, she's still an emotional female and hates to be hurt. And don't do it in the middle of sex, or dinner. Those can lead to painful or dirty results.
2007-03-13 20:02:51 · answer #3 · answered by alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi!!
Uh~ Oh!!!! You are in trouble an if you don't get out you will be in deeper trouble yet!!!
You are absolutely right, she is controlling you, that is a direct form of "DOMESTIC VIOLENCE", and is already out of cotrol from day ONE!!!
I have a question, what were you expecting of a girl that in the intro. would disrespect you like that???
Bet or not, she got the upper hand in this abusive realationship,from the start.
It is my concern that as always in this situations, like your where you have been taking it as it comes, one of this days you will NOT be able to take NO MORE, and will react to her, disrespect, and abuse, even infront of others, that you will loose your cool, and used all your strength just out of anger, trying to control, the situation.
This might result in serious consecuences!!!!!
That can NOT be love, it is more like a sexual wrestling match
and that is cool if that is that makes you happy, but..........
does it really??? How do you feel going places, and being on edge if you don't share her opinions, or likings????
I advise you to leave this situation, and to prepare yourself for a long and hard time trying to get her out of your life!!!
It seems to me that she get's a kick out of making others including YOU, to feel INFERIOR!!!! Come on wake up and smell the coffee, before you have to use the coffee pot to defend yourself, from the "wrestling match want to be of girlfriend that you have!!!!
GOOD LUCK, GOD BLESS YOU & HAPPY LIFE, W/O HER!
A.Z.
2007-03-13 20:19:51 · answer #4 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sounds bad. She sounds like a control freak, too. Why don't you decide something for once? Tell her you want to make your own decisions, and if she messes with you again, break up with her. She won't like that very much, but at least she won't be able to treat you like an object again.
2007-03-13 20:02:07 · answer #5 · answered by Aaron K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave her shes a bully and your be a battered husband,go see somebody if its effecting you as men do go through abuse as women do.maybe tell her you dont like it apart from in the bedroom,with the house work thing shes controling you put a stop to it now or your be forever suffering and tell her get off her backside and do it too.
2007-03-13 20:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by easty90210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually, i would say that the best thing to do when your relationship is rocky is to express your concerns with the other person. however, because she is so controlling, the conversation might get too intense; perhaps dangerous. so, my suggestion for this situation is to dump her. you don't deserve someone like that in your life..you are the one who should control what you do, not her; she needs to recognize that.
2007-03-13 20:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes definitely controlling you so yea id suggest getting out now.
2007-03-13 20:03:01 · answer #8 · answered by Juhboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you don't want to and if she puts you in a head lock then beat her up!! Don't let anyone control you! If she dosn't stop then break up with her!!
2007-03-13 20:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by kelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess this is her way of playing with u so play back do some moves on her it cud turn her on u man handling her some women like that
2007-03-13 20:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by kezz247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋