I am about to get married in about four months and me and my wife to be are in a heated battle about how many people should be in the wedding. I have three good friends that I want to stand up at the wedding while she only has two. She fears that people will think it will look strange if there is three on one side and two on the other. Also, my third friend will be playing a classical guitar when people are walking in so there shouldn't be anyone who walks alone. He will then stand up and join us in the line as soon as everyone has fell in line. She also believes that the pictures will turn out bad and doesn't want him in the formal pictures. I just don't want to upset my friends even though I am upsetting my future wife. PLEASE HELP. If anyone has advice or a good answer please help.
2007-03-13 12:54:31 · 13 answers · asked by jpenuel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The great thing about weddings is: There are no rules!!! It doesn't matter if you have 3 groomsmen and she only has 1 bridesmaid ... it also wouldn't matter if you had a sister or close female friend on your side! I have seen it done and it is a great idea. The groom had a female on his side and the bride had a male on her side. That way the families knew who the attendant was friends with ... and it made things that much different.
2007-03-14 11:34:24 · answer #1 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you two are going to have a flower girl she could balance out the 3rd groomsman in the pictures. Wether your future wife realizes it right now or not, the number of attendants at your wedding will not make or break your wedding or your marriage. If it's really that important to her maybe you should take him off your list of groomsmen though. He is playing the entry music so he is still a part of your special day. It's not like she dislikes him or doesn't want him in the wedding party because of personal reasons.
2007-03-13 14:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she needs to relax. This day is about both of you not just her and she needs to take your feelings into consideration. I have never heard of someone so concerned with something so stupid. Think about it this way if you are having a family picture taken does it mean if you have one more sibling than she does does that mean that person too would have to not be in the picture because the numbers won't be even? I will admit that in the majority of weddings I think the numbers are usually the same but there is no right and wrong it is what the couple wants.
2007-03-13 13:04:39 · answer #3 · answered by Meg 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You absolutely DO NOT have to match the numbers on each side. REALLY! NO ONE CARES about this anymore.
You have 3 friends and she has 2. That's perfectly fine.
It would be really offensive to leave out the 3rd guy from the pictures.
Attendants do not walk IN in pairs. They walk OUT in pairs, after the ceremony, and the extra person can walk alone-- it is no biggie-- he will be carrying his guitar anyhow.
She is making a huge argument about something that totally doesn't matter.
To avoid future wedding planning arguments, consult a Miss Manners book from the library.
2007-03-13 17:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if she does get another girl to stand up on her side who would walk with her down the aisle? since your third guy is playing the guitar. unless you and the guys all walk out together and they are already up front waiting for the girls to come up. then at the end of the ceremoney they could all walk out together unless he will be playing the guitar at the end also that would still leave her single. i really dont think it has to be symmetrical. and like you said the guitar player will already be at the front so no one will really notice that he will stand in line with the other guys, and if you have him play after the creemony he wouldnt have to walk out eitehr. so there are two ways that you could do it.
Congratulation i hope that you and your bride to be like my ideas.
2007-03-13 13:06:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, having one more guy is fine. My fiance has 7 guys on his side, and I have 6. That only means that two guys are gonna have to walk one girl down the aisle after the wedding.
2007-03-13 13:33:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am actually planning my wedding right now as well. You do not HAVE to have the same amount of bridesmaids and groomsmans. It wouldn't upset that me that much if my fiance had one more person on his side. I don't look at it as MY day, I look at it as OUR day. You should go to www.theknot.com , there is everything on that site you would ever want to know about planning a wedding. Good luck!
2007-03-13 13:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by svisc02 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is of UTMOST IMPORTANCE that you do NOT upset your future wife. She has more than enough things to worry about when dealing with wedding planning - the last thing you want to do is make it more difficult and stressful for her.
If you have any female relatives, it is entirely appropriate for one of them to be invited to be a bridesmaid.
In the end, let your future wife make the decision - if you mess up the wedding, you'll never hear the end of it. Seriously.
2007-03-13 13:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by trillian 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It doesn't have to be symmetrical. In fact, when I get married, I don't care how many people are there, or what's happening around me. I'd be too nervous and excited and in love. =)
Have your friend bring a girlfriend or something. =)
2007-03-13 13:25:15 · answer #9 · answered by Lina 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does NOT have to be symmetrical! You can have different number on each side.
Heck, you can have a GUY stand on the bride's side and a GIRL stand on the guy's side!!!
2007-03-13 14:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋