OK well me and this guy were datin for 5 months then we broke up and we werent together for 3 months but yet we talked and tried workin everything out and then he asked me back and i said yes and tomorrow will be 1 month that we have been back together and we dont kiss or hold hands or anything like we used to...i dont know whats up with him ...my friends say just give it time cause maybe he wants to take it slow and not mess things up or that maybe hes waiting for me to make the first move to show that i actually want this realtionship...i mean i want to im just really shy and dont know what to do...anyone have any ideas why hes acting like that or what i should do?
2007-03-13 12:52:33 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told him before that i hated not holding hands and i didnt wanna do something and him get mad and he said he wouldt and of i wanted to hold his hand i should have... but its like everytime i try he has his hands in his pockets and he doesnt even act like he wants to kiss me i mean for gosh sakes we dont even hug and i hate it cause i care bout him so much...i wanna talk to him about it im just afraid that hes gonna think im a pest and need to stop bugging him cause i dont want to risk losing him again
2007-03-13 12:59:48 · update #1
you should talk to him. you'll never know what he really wants until you ask him.
2007-03-13 12:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him and ask him if he's acting weird around you just because he feel strange when he holds your hand or kisses you after you have broken up, or if he's just being that way because he is not sure if you're ok with it again. Talk to him and tell him how you feel and ask him to tell you how he feels too. Maybe you can start understannding eachother better this way, and it'll make things better. Your friend is also right because he might just be shy since it's a little akward when you break up with someone and then go out with them again. It's just not the same because since you or your boyfriend/girlfriend broke up with you for a reason, you don't know if they will be ok with you kissing them, hugging them, etc. Talk to him, or maybe you can just start seeing other people for some time and when he's ready, you'll be with him again. If he really wants to be with you, he will talk to you and trust you in sharing his feelings. If you decide to see other people or just separate for a while, then wait for him until he wants to be with you again. Tell him that you're not really breaking up or anything like that because he might not get the idea, but that you're just giving it some time to see if the relationship gets any better that way. Try to observe the effect that it has on the relationship when you give him time and when you talk to him and explain to him what you think is happening and that you think he's not being the same as he was before. If he thinks you're a pest, then I don't think he's worth it because if he really loves you, then he will understand you and anyways you should be one of the most important people in his life. Give it a try and see how it goes. Well I hope that this helps you. ~good luck~
2007-03-13 13:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by ILuvMe06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. Your relationship is probably a little akward right now because of the breakup. But make sure you let him Know that you still have feelings for him. don't leave him guessing!
2007-03-13 12:58:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably give this relationship time, b/c you two have already broken up. He is probably waiting on the right time.
2007-03-13 12:59:14 · answer #4 · answered by Blossom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋