...go to movies stuff like that. i start likin him so much i want him to ask me out, and when he does i (of course) say yes. but then somethin changes about my feelings for him. its like hes dull then, and i just wanted to see if i could date him, and i did so now i dont wanna go out w/ him nemore. its the most shallow thing ever and i hate it. i want to date them for a long time but then idk stuff get SO awkward and its just weird so i end up breakin up with them. ive gone through a lot of guys this way and i need help to stop this problem. i just started hangin out w/ this new guy, i like him a lot and hes perfect. i know he likes me, but im afraid to date him because of what always happens. i dont want him to like me if this is just goin to be the endin. even when i think im ready to date again, the same thing happens. please help*
2007-03-13 12:39:15 · 3 answers · asked by SocialButterfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, stop worrying. The more you worry, the more likely it is to happen. Psychology is weird that way - if you think about something hard or long enough, it is bound to happen.
If you think this guy is the one, then go for it. Things for sure will be awkward in the beginning, anyone can count on that in a new relationship. Just go with the flow. It is natural to fight too, so don't break up just because of a little disagreement.
Mostly what you need to do is change the way you think (this will be very very hard). Basically, start small. For example, if you start to think, "Gosh, this is awkward, maybe this is TOO awkward," try changing it to, "This is kind of awkward, but that is okay because in a few weeks or so it won't be awkward anymore." If you start thinking, "Okay, now I dated this guy, now I'm done," try changing to, "I want to keep dating this guy, so even though I have the feelings that I knew I would have, I am going to keep dating him because I REALLY want this relationship to last."
If it helps, you could even say the positive thoughts out loud to yourself or write them down and put them in a place where you will see them all the time.
Good luck! I hope things work out for you!
2007-03-13 13:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's perferctly normal for things to get awkward. i mean if you like him then dont hold back! if your feelings change it's not your fault but i say go for it. everything happens for a reason
2007-03-13 19:45:23 · answer #2 · answered by hailek34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave he will follow if he is interested, you must get focused and it will just come to you.
2007-03-13 19:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by JMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋