I feel thats one of my major flaws with women.
1)Shyness
2)Being too nice
3)Boringness
How can a guy be enterntaining without being a total goofball.
2007-03-13 12:23:19 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shyness-- stop focusing on your self. Fack confidence until you make it.
Also ask the girl a lot of guestions. Don't ask this too often, but say "how does that make you feel?"
being too nice......well, I know t.hat kind of guy, It is like he would sacrafice his life to do what I want. I don't like it. I also don't like controlling bossy guys. Try this.........Make sure your
niceness is within boundries...for instance.. it is raining and you lay across the road for her to walk. geesh. Instead share a unbrella. Don't hold it over her and you not use it. You need to think enough of your self to not over do the niceness.
As for boring, figure out something you have in common and talk about it.
Ask her questions and act like you are interested in what she is saying. Take her to a movie, then talk about the movie
You will do better as you mature. You will also do better when you find a girl that really matches you.
Please don't go after the drop dead beautiful women.
An average girl might be a wonderful converstaionalist and just right for you.
good luck
2007-03-13 12:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be genuinely interested in her & her life? Women love to talk especially about themselves so ask her questions?
I was always really shy then I did somthing drastically life changing. I moved interstate to a small town where I didnt know a soul. I had to learn to overcome my shyness & because I did my life has gotten so much better. And making freinds is so much easier.
Nice boys tend to attract nice girls so keep it up. But dont forget a little teasing & flirting always helps.
Boringness - come on - nobody is boring everybody has a thing that makes them amazing. You just have to find your thing.
Goofball can be hot just not to goofballish not jackass goofball.
Good luck and all the best
2007-03-13 19:46:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When all esle fails, get up and dance like a retard. Works for me. People laugh, you feel dumb, but have fun in the process. And if you can dance or do something stupid in front of girls, they may like that you're confident enough to do so in front of them, no matter how much you might just look like a fool doing what you're doing.
I myself am shy, "too nice" (if there is such a thing), and sometimes wonder if I'm boring. The world's a sucky place, Man, but it's also your playground if you choose it to be so. Don't be afraid to just be you. A little confidence can go a long way, especially when it comes to girls- they dig confidence.
2007-03-13 19:29:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a total goofball. My husband acts like a goofball all the time and I think he is adorable. Just act like yourself, I'm sure you have fun when you're with the guys, just act the same way.
2007-03-13 19:39:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women/girls love it when men/guys are truely INTERESTED in how they (the women) feel about things, what they are interested in, & what they think. In case you haven't noticed, women like to talk about themselves. Learn to be a real good "listener"... with eye contact & a smile.
Then, when the woman finally asks YOU how you feel about something, be sure to have an answer (besides "I don't know")
Being nice is a good virtue, (most women actually like "nice"... but going out of your way to "fall all over her" every whim gives the impression of desperation and insecurity. They run from that. Women like a man that's confident, as I believe men like the same trait in a woman.
Good luck!
2007-03-13 19:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by PJo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should over come your shyness. When approaching a girl start thinking over and over in your head that this girl is lucky I am talking to her. It is a real confidence booster and might help you out. What do you mean by boring. Your question was actually a really good one and it is not boring at all. See? Problem fixed! Hope this helps!
2007-03-13 19:30:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a hobby that lots of women hang out around like: playing guitar or surfing or skiing. Get really good at that and the women will hang with you no matter how lame you think you are.
Be bold and confident as well
2007-03-13 19:29:11 · answer #7 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can make up for boringness by being kinda witty or crack a joke every so often.
I have a male friend who is ridiculously boring, but once he starts being sarcastic or witty, i find him adorable. Being too nice is one thing and shyness needs to just be overcome.
Good luck to you.
Sarcasm and wit are very endearing.
2007-03-13 19:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy: The Angry Typer a/k/a Mood Mole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be urself.when u find the right girl who "gets u" u wont need to try be someone ur not..the right girl will like everything about u including ur shyness
2007-03-13 19:26:49 · answer #9 · answered by sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask the girl questions, and then comment on her answers. Make them be interesting.
2007-03-13 19:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by mfs1390034 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋