...are you a lot like your parents in how you raise your kid? Why or why not? What are some examples?
2007-03-13 12:09:45 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Unfortunately yes I am turning out to be just like my parents in raising my kids. I seem to use the same phrases and the same way of dealing with issues. I dont like this cause I didnt agree with my parents and i dont want my children looking forward so much to the day they move out. It was a lot of do as i say and not as i do, and i hated it so much yet i am doing it, and i dont know how to stop it.
2007-03-13 12:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by cassyn_05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find myself acting less and less like my parents and more and more myself. I was raised in South Dakota, a backward state as far as cultural diversity is concerned. I resent that I learned the word, ******, as a normal description.
My parents raised me the best they knew how. I'm doing the same. I'm just doing it with different goals: teaching my kids empathy and color-blindness.
It's working, and I'm pretty sure the world will be better for what they become. It's cool to watch!
2007-03-13 13:49:32 · answer #2 · answered by muedprof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some ways I am like my parents, and in other ways I have made it a point to not be like them. They tried their best, as I do. I just have my opinions on certain things. My parents have actually praised me for some of things I chose to do diferent. As long as your loving and do whats best for the children, I dont think there is a right or wrong way to raise children.
2007-03-13 12:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by MEESH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I am not like my parents at all. My dad is a drunk and my mom, she screamed and yelled a lot in my childhood. I remember nothing good in my childhood except when I went to my grandparents' house. Anyway I do TONS of things with my kids, because I didnt get to have a fun childhood, so I want my kids to remember how much fun thier childhood was.
2007-03-13 16:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by Char M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a lot like my parents in how I raise my children. The one lesson that has always stuck with me from my parents is that people come in all shapes, sizes, creeds, and colors. They taught us that in order to help us learn not to be judgmental. They taught us that as long as someone is trying to be a better person that they aren't "stupid" or "ignorant." I fully believe that. I feel that too many people don't try to understand others and that's what makes them stupid or ignorance. As long as a person is trying to grow that's what makes it count.
I also work on a routine which is something my parents did. I love it and I feel my kids work well with it. My kids lives aren't planned out but we have a basic routine that we stick to.
I'm very open with my kids. I like to hear their side of things and I think that's great. I get that from my mom but like her I'm not afraid to give my opinion on things or discipline.
While I do communicate with my kids I realize that's it's okay if they don't like me. I realize it's okay that I'm not their best bud. I'm not here to be "cool." I'm here to raise successful individuals.
My parents sought out to do all of this and I feel they were very successful. We are both non-judgmental girls who are independent, confident, and extremely opinionated. We aren't afraid to put someone in their place when they are rude or judgmental. We are not afraid to say that we ARE better then people who don’t try to excel or try to understand to better themselves. I think they did an excellent job and I hope someday my kids will be able to say that about me.
I hope this helps answer your question! Are you like your parents?
2007-03-13 15:08:40 · answer #5 · answered by .vato. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I said when i was younger i would not raise my children in the same way my parents did, but I find myself doing something they did. not bad thing, just correcting them the ways they did. I try really hard to be different but them values still come threw...
2007-03-13 12:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im raising my child similiar to how my mother raised me, but different as well. My mother was the only girl in her family, and she was responsible for daily chores, to the point of making her brothers beds, my mother did that to me, I had to make my brothers bed, had more chores then my brother, well basically had chores, he had none. I am going to treat all my children the same, girls and boys have chores, and everyone will make their own bed.
2007-03-13 12:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by Proud Mother 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother was also abusive, so I will not treat my baby like she treated me. But, we only no what we are taught and hopefully we are mature enuf to separate right from wrong. I will. however, teach my daughter the good things that have stood me in gud staid in my life, like manners and politeness etc. So the best thing is to pick and choose.
2007-03-13 12:18:19 · answer #8 · answered by taceyrees 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think people tend to be like their parents weather they like it or not.
In my case I've tried to take the positive part of my mother and grandmother and tried to smooth down the negative (like the kind of punishments, etc).
2007-03-13 12:14:32 · answer #9 · answered by catherinetactuk 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well, i put my kid in sunday school like they put me in sunday school. the only difference is i used to go to sunday school from 1pm-230pm and than mass would start at 3-5pm. i don't make my son sit for 4 hours, i take him to sunday school for 1 1/2 than when its over i bring him home and than i run back to church
2007-03-13 12:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋