i need help with my relationship?

Question

Why does it seem that I am so much more into my girlfriend than she is to me? We've both said we want to get married and the whole shabangkaboom. So what is it? She says i need to give her more space I say she needs to communicate better. She hangs out until friggin 3/4 in the morn at her friends house(a brother and sister) and expects me to be cool with it. She even lied last nite because she knew i'd get mad if she said she was goin over there. The guy has the friggin hots for her and I know what hes thinkin and shes either so oblivous to the fact that its 3 in the morn ur drinkin and even occasionally doin coke and im hangin out with some guy who i met just months ago but because my boyfriend knows im a "friendly person"hes just supposed to be cool with that? I mean wtf. so what if ur faithful, so what if u have "guy" friends? if she really loves me like she says, she should cut ties with him. Man i am just too good to this girl and I think she's beginning to take me for grantite.

Answer 1

Nope not being took for grantite really. You are suffering from picking this lady as your girlfriend thou. The reason I say that is your not going to change her by telling her that she isn't giving you proper respect or she isn't doing what you need to be in the relationship. The fact is that the first thing you said is the truth. Why I couldn't tell you. Its most likly she just isn't in the right mentality to give a person a deep and meaningful relationship. The lack of communication and the need to be with other people that intensely shows she is still looking for something(she couldn't really know what) and isn't comfortable enough with herself to be able to communicate that point to you. Your best bet in this type of situation is let the birdie fly. If she goes and gets herself caught doing something stupid then you know she is worth your time, but if she manages to be the girl you fell in-love with and she comes back to you full steam ahead then you know you might have something there. Also not a good idea to think that a person is going to change for you, better to love them for who they are. Or else your going to feel jaded like you do. Also why can't you hang out with her? Besides that the biggest warning is the lack of communication, watch that. Weather she is faithful or not your right, if you can't get the level of communication you need to feel secure in the relationship that might be a good enough reason to put some distance in your guyz bond.