for the guys (and girls)
if the girl that your in love with dumps you. but then changes her mind about it and you take her back.
would you
a) feel less trusting of the relationship and start 'drawing back' in defense in case she changes her mind again
b) forget it and move on
or
c) *make up your own reponse*
2007-03-13 12:05:51 · 17 answers · asked by maraesa1000 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ps. i am not the unhappy little boy. i am the EXTREMELY guilty feeling dumper..
2007-03-13 12:07:16 · update #1
So you want to get back together with her?
Then prove it. Show her unconditionally that you will do WHATEVER it takes to make it work second time around. Show her, show her, show her.
It will take time for trust to be built up again, but you can help it by showing her.
And next time - don't be so hasty to throw in the towel. Think long and hard about her not being in your life.
2007-03-13 12:09:18 · answer #1 · answered by iliketorideigohago 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never go back, it never works. I am sure there are exceptions, but it never worked for me. the problem is when you break up and its on a not bad level. you tend to focus on all the good times and not the times that made you decide to end it in the first place.
So after banging my head against a wall several times and learning the result will always be a bruiz, my answer is NO i would not take him back!
2007-03-13 19:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by sandibum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
c) i would probably not waste my time on someone who just up and dumped me
but if i liked them a lot, i would say
a) becasue i would be more leery, but i'd eventually get over it.
But i would make sure, if i got back together with them, that the issue that caused the breakup in the first place was dealt with or gone. If it wasn't, i'd move on.
though i tend to be flexible and analyze the specific circumstances on a case-by-case basis and not generalize.
2007-03-13 19:17:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend dumped me just before the new year and i hate it, i still love him and he says he still loves me. were not really sure if we'll get back together but if we did i would definetly feel that little bit scared that he will dump me again. it will always be in the back of my mind that way if he did it would be a bit more expected than the first time.
2007-03-13 19:12:51 · answer #4 · answered by largeinit343 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have to answer a. i would put my wall up of course in fear that this person would hurt me again. i mean, if this person had no problems with dumping you once, whats holding her back from doing it again if you have another spat or do something she doesnt like. you should get her all buttered up and then dump her. :)
2007-03-13 19:11:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if I would go back I have done that once and it was never the same you just have to feel your way though it
2007-03-13 19:10:08 · answer #6 · answered by firecrackertx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer; My answer would depend on the my feelings for her and the circumstances that exists.
There are no 'clip-art answers' as one size does not fit all ...least-ways, not for me.
It strikes me as pretty silly for anyone to see that as otherwise ~ potentially spitefully dumb too.
Sash.
2007-03-13 19:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dumped: one who goes around dumping girls
poor you, you need a hug
i will take A but it really depends on the kindof guy
2007-03-13 19:10:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on.
She is obvioulsy emotionally unstable. Dangerous type of girl.
Plenty more fish in that sea my boy.
xxx
2007-03-13 19:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by Billy T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
been there done that , it gets sickening after awhile , just be friends for a few months then decide to go out.
2007-03-13 19:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋