My husband and I are newly married Christians. I am a bit uncomfortable/shy about praying aloud with him.?

Question

I would like some sound biblical advice from other Christians as to this subject. Biblical references would be greatly appreciated.

Answer 1

It is Ok to be uncomfortable about praying with your husband, but you should. It may be hard at first but God should be a part of your relationship with you and your husband and praying together will strengthen that. Focus on the Family has a great article on praying together (http://www.family.org.nz/w/default.asp?PageNo=43&NewsStoryID=124) that I highly recommend you check out.

Answer 2

One of my uncles is a minister, his wife complains she has to get her 'religion' at church, she sees him more there than at home. Like the old story, the shoemaker's kids run around barefoot. Yet her daughter is married to a car mechanic, and thank God, they still have an income, they study every Wed. nite the Psalms and the commentaries, they pray together before and after meals, read the Bible on Saturday when the kids are home and can get involved. And go the church and stop at the bakery afterwards. So they are very thankful for having a home, job and great kids and they try to be together a lot, remain real real friends, as they need each other more now than when first married. So, I guess, as you get older, you appreciate life more and some families bring God into their lives more easily then others can. The work-a-holics, do miss out on family life, and I guess the couple connection with God is harder to achieve.

Answer 3

I'm recently married too - and i went thru the same thing. in every other way he's my best friend and i can tell him everything (and i do :D)
but there was just something about praying with him - i felt awkward and i didn't know why either.

this is what helped me - honestly, i just did it. haha - kinda like how you are afraid to fly, but you know its the only way you are gonna get there and you just have to get on the plane and trust the pilot. yeah, something like that.

i knew that we were a team, and we needed to work together as a team in every aspect in the marriage - and i can honestly say, things have never been better. its weird, but even though praying is a spiritual thing, its still very intimate. i wanted a relationship that had a good foundation, a Godly foundation, so i just had to buck up and do it :)

Answer 4

It is so important to spend time together in God's Word and prayer. The old term is called 'the family altar' and in today's society, it is often sadly lacking.
Having a family altar, brings such a solid structure to a relationship, which will be built over years. The Lord is the One who has brought you together in marriage, and so He should be the honoured One in your relationship.
It's like the story of a man who built his house on the sand, and the man who built his life on the rock. When the storms of life come (and they will), you can stand firm on the Rock, which of course is Jesus Christ, but all other ground is sinking sand.

The more you pray together, the less uncomfortable it will become as time goes on. It will become a precious time.

Thy Lord bless you!

Answer 5

Let your husband lead the prayers. Try to verbalize a little--maybe just 'I agree in prayer' or something simple like that. You will get more comfortable as you two grow together.
The first time I prayed aloud with my husband was after a fight and I just said 'thank you God for my husband. Help me to love him'.

Answer 6

Well, there is nothing in scripture that I can remember that says that you HAVE to pray out loud. Although there are a few examples of shouting out loud in worship and praise. If you are joyful and excited about God being in your life, that should be easy to understand.

Being married hopefully means that you two are equally yoked and so praying in one accord and together. Your husband should be the spiritual leader of the family and so lead in prayer.

That said, there really should be no reason that you should be afraid to pray out loud. Some people can be a little timid and unsure of how the words might come out of their mouths. But God doesn't care how it comes out. He knows what you are praying for and so will your husband. The fact that you are even attempting to do so will bless him, particularly if you are praying for him. If he is walking with God he knows he needs your prayers to be a good husband and spiritual leader of the family.

As we grow in our relationship with God He will stretch us, that is bring up issues in our lives that He wants to change to bring us closer to Him. Just the fact that you asked the question tells me He is working on this area in your walk with Him.

There are three aspects in prayer: giving thanks, worship and praise, and intercession. Just focus on what God leading you to pray about in each of these areas each time you pray... always starting with giving thanks for the things He has done in your life... and you will be amazed and how your prayer life will grow.

Answer 7

Romans, chapter 10, this is a great chapter that can help! When you&your husband got married you both became one, and should be proud to be christians for there is no shame, in the eyes of GOD!

Answer 8

this is interesting to me..............i for one, am subject to not being able to pray aloud with others present. yet, with my family, i am fine. my hubby doesn't like to pray aloud, and therefore, i have no qualms, as he is at the very least praying there quietly with me. if i have something that he needs to pray for me, and i ask him to do that, he will. but, i often wonder about so many people who pray big long prayers aloud. the bible tells us to pray in our closets not like the hippocrates on the street corners. i guess, i'ts whatever you are comfortable with. the most important thing is that you are praying..............aloud, or to god alone. he hears you!!!! hope this helps!

Answer 9

I am astounded that you only just started to pray with him now, this sounds very odd,

Answer 10

You can pray and ask God to help you deal with your discomfort.